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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 1/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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| Hello! I'm new to this place. I was introduced to it by my friend who is an administrator. I go to college in the city and I'm interested in religion, politics, and other things also. Thanks for having me! | |||
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 2/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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| Buck-up, kiddo'. That was a really crap thing to do to you, break-up on the last day of school and all, but you'll find someone else. I've only ever been dumped, but they were all long relationships. I don't agree with some of the people here that school relationships should never be taken seriously, because who ISN'T going to take a relationship seriously? Break-ups are hard, but eventually you find someone else. Go do things that don't remind you of her, re-connect with friends you might have lost-touch with, and you'll do fine. | |||
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 3/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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Originally posted by Ziff Was WWII immoral? It brought about the freeing of millions of innocent people, and it also put an end to the wide-scale acceptance of anti-semitism in the world that had existed until then. I'm not a war-monger, but in Catholicism there is a concept of the "Just War" and Islam, too has it's own verson of this: Jihad, or translated, "struggle." Whether one believes in a religion or not, war is something many of the world's great thinkers have spent time justifying rooted in morality. |
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 4/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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| What are people's thoughts on women's ordination? For it, against it? And how many of you think it will ever happen? I am for women being ordained as priests. The reason women aren't allowed to be ordained, so says the Church, is because they "do no bear a natural resemblence to God." God, of course, meaning Jesus. So, because women don't LOOK like Jesus, the thought is, they can not represent Jesus during communion. I am an advocate of Elizabeth Johnson's argument, which, to my understanding, is this: We are called, as Catholics, to participate in the life of Jesus through the sacrament of the Eucharist. The priest serves as the symbol of Jesus. By not allowing women to be priests the Catholic church is effectively saying that women are not able to participate in the life of Jesus. The Church believes that the only way to salvation is through the life of Jesus-- thus, they're effectively saying women can't be saved. What are other people's thoughts? |
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 5/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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New York-- whoops, forgot to say that. To me "the city" is New York.  |
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 6/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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| Haha this is great-- a great mystery indeed. Who is my administrator friend? I'll never tell... mostly because I want to see how long you will all speculate about it. Maybe I'll tell eventually.. but until then, any more guesses? |
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 7/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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| Hehehe, but come on, now that we know who Deep Throat is we have to have another mystery to discuss! | |||
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 8/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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| Ok. I dated A for a year, broke up in February-- got dumped. Remained friends. Then, started dating our mutual friend L two months later. Got dumped about four weeks later, at the end of the semester-- around the same time that A's depression spiralled into suicidal thoughts, cut himself, and had to move out of student housing.... L broke up with me, first citing his apprehension about how our friends felt about our being together, which I thought was BS and pissed me off. I was still extremely upset though. Then the next day, when I press him on it, he says that he doesn't want to leave me high and dry when he's gone for the summer working in a far-off state. When I asked him if he'd consider getting back together in the fall, he said he couldn't rule it out but wouldn't promise anything because he didn't want me passing-up anyone because of him. He still continued to be extremely flirty with me though-- which drove me insane, and I also thought "well, he obviously still likes me, we'll probably get back together." Well, A is currently living with our friend somewhere else in the city because he left home (longer story) and that is a recent development. Anyway, I have been hanging out with him for the past couple of days, but I realized that 1) I love A, and by love I mean care deeply for him would do anything for him and 2) I have residual feelings for him. However, I've been clinging to the idea that L and I will get back together in the fall. Hell, I even promised myself that I'd never get back together with A all the way back in February, when we broke up due to events that I see now were the result of someone falling into an ever deepening depression. Well, tonite--> A told me that he loves me still, and that he wishes he had never broken up with me. He kept telling me that I am the love of his life, that if it weren't for me he wouldn't be alive, and that he wants to be able to treat me the way I deserve to be treated (he wasn't too good at the boyfriend thing) and despite my many and prolonged attempts to resist him, we kissed. I kept telling him I didn't want to hurt him, or L, and he said he understood but I am incredibly torn. I have to make a choice, and I don't know what to do. I find myself wondering if L ever meant to get back together, and even if he did would it make a difference because he broke up with me, regardless. I feel guilty, and I don't even know if I should. I hate going back on my word, also. A has issues he needs to get over, and I feel horrible because I feel like I'm hurting both of them, regardless. What do I do? |
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 9/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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| Oh, I know A needs help professionally, and he's going to get it. I know him very well and I could tell he was sincere. Weird thing is, actually, that he's been acting like a good boyfriend to me since he told me he still loved me (which was after he had to go home for the cutting incident). I've even told him that, and he said it's because he realized how to be a good boyfriend too late. By being a better boyfriend, I mean he lets me know he appreciates me where as he didn't do that so much before. He wasn't abusive, or mean, he just kind-of sucked at the smaller stuff. I don't know, I promised myself I wouldn't get back with him even if there was a chance right after A and I broke up, but he's already made some real progress and, as he says, he's trying to grow up right now. I am inclined to say to him "lets give it some time and let you grow up" but I hate the idea of an elipsis, elipsises suck. And, without meaning to, that's what L's done to me. |
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 10/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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| OK: here's the update. I talked to L on the phone today. Asked him where we stood. He said he didn't know if he still had feelings for me, and I said "ok, sorry I just needed to know." He said he basically was hoping for the status quo because things have been topsy-turvy in our group of friends this past semester. Then he asked me if I'd found someone else, and I didn't know what to say. I said "Yes, no.. sort of, I mean kind of--" you get the idea. He then asked point blank if it was A. I told him yes, then he asked if we could talk about it and I said ok. So we talked (I of course omitted the fact that I'd kissed A the night before) and he gave me some good advice, a good amount of things to think over, also. But, the basic point he told me was to pay attention to whether or not I love A. I think I do, but a big problem is that I don't want to love A, or atleast I'm hesistant about it. So now, it's really all about whether or not it's a good thing for me and A to be together, for his sake and for mine. I want him around all the time, but is that a comfort thing? Am I just going back to him because I'm comfortable with him? Or do I really love this guy? I have to pick something and stick with it, because more instability is NOT what he needs right now. |
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 11/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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| Yeah, I have been asking myself that too. It's weird... in my past I had a relationship where I was completely absorbed by the person and I thought that was love. I spent a year getting over it, and to tell you the truth I still think this person is probably one of my favorite people ever. That's why, going from that relationship to A, has been really weird. When A and I weren't together, I was still over-protective of him, and had mild feelings of jealousy when he seemed to be starting a relationship with other girls. I was also the one who knocked on his door and went to the RA for help when he cut himself. I also have an inexplicable feeling of wanting him with me all the time. All those things, I think, add up to love on some level. I guess I'm just afraid because it's not what I planned. I need to get over that. But I also don't want to hinder him from a lot of things he has to do now. Like, find a job, get an apartment, make enough to live on. I hope I am motivation and not a hindrence, because he's known for being distracted. One of those thoughtful writer types. Thanks for your help! It's helped a lot, sorting through what I feel and think about it all. |
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 12/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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| I agree-- that's very sad. Really very sad, actually. But the saddest thing? Someone who believes they are so usless and unloved that they kill themselves. That's the saddest thing to me, I think. But no, seeing a four year old child not understanding why their cat is dead is pretty depressing. | |||
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CityGirl Micro-Goomba Level: 6 Posts: 13/13 EXP: 539 For next: 368 Since: 06-23-05 Since last post: 111 days Last activity: 111 days |
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| That sucks. I think you need to ask yourself what kind of friend she is to do that to you, and whether or not you actually want a friend like that. Also, your other friends sound like the assholes, not you. Definitely don't do them any more favors, but in all honesty try and make some new friends who aren't such creeps. It's 20 dollars, a good chunk of change-- AND she got paid. No excuse. Do you really want to be friends with someone who will so blatantly lie to you? |
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