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Anya The Exile Ultima Mezcla de Yin Yan Level: 98  Posts: 358/5337 EXP: 9530313 For next: 124040 Since: 03-15-04 From: South Florida Since last post: 2 days Last activity: 2 days |
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| Do you have any ratherr large friends? If not, find a group of guys and tell them your story. Then ask them to help you and head over to his place. He sees group of people, he has no choice. I would help ya out, but it'll take me several hours to get over there and I have work today (again). | |||
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get.  Level: 73  Posts: 80/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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| I know I'm letting him control me here, but only because I don't exactly have an alternative. I can't afford a new computer if he breaks it. And if he wants to, he would break it. Of that I have no doubt. Just like I can't afford webhosting if he deletes my site, like he threatened to do the other night. So now to avoid that, I have no blog. Maybe when I have a job and I'm not on unemployment benefits anymore I might have some financial weight to throw around and buy myself a new computer and get hosting seperate from the company I helped found, but for now, I can't do a danged thing because I am at his mercy. And if I piss him off, he WILL punish me for it. I just want my shit so I don't have to deal with him again. But I can't be pushy about it, because he'll stick his foot through my monitor or something like that. And I'm not about to assume he's just bluffing considering his track record. (edited by ChibiTaryn on 03-19-04 08:48 AM) |
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Anya The Exile Ultima Mezcla de Yin Yan Level: 98 Posts: 360/5337 EXP: 9530313 For next: 124040 Since: 03-15-04 From: South Florida Since last post: 2 days Last activity: 2 days |
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| What about the police? Have you thought about calling them yet? I mean, it is your stuff that he has, right? | |||
Ran-chan Moldorm eek, when are they going to stop growing... Level: 143  Posts: 124/12781 EXP: 35293588 For next: 538220 Since: 03-15-04 From: Nerima District, Tokyo - Japan Since last post: 12 hours Last activity: 12 hours |
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Originally posted by ChibiTarynLet (edited by Millennium Neko on 03-19-04 08:55 AM) |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 82/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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Yes, it's my stuff, but where I legally stand considering that I used it for the business (that I founded) for 18 months is in question. I think they can also be classed as business assets as well, and so I don't think if I'm entitled to ownership of them anymore.  I am only entitled ownership of them because he said I could have them. I think they're now part of the business though technically and he's letting me have them anyways. He's just taking his sweet time and making threats if I so much as ask what's going on because I "anger" him by "busting his balls". And *I'M* the crazy one?  |
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Ran-chan Moldorm eek, when are they going to stop growing... Level: 143 Posts: 126/12781 EXP: 35293588 For next: 538220 Since: 03-15-04 From: Nerima District, Tokyo - Japan Since last post: 12 hours Last activity: 12 hours |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 85/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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| Sorta, but it's not that *he* has my stuff, it's that the *business* has it that makes it complex. Plus, the police would just tell me to "sort out your own domestic, lady" anyways.  As for me being crazy, I think according to the definition (read: stigma) most people have, I would be considered crazy. I am diagnosed with unipolar depression. I take SSRI antidepressants. I have a mental illness. That's enough for society to call me crazy. (edited by ChibiTaryn on 03-19-04 09:25 AM) |
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Anya The Exile Ultima Mezcla de Yin Yan Level: 98 Posts: 374/5337 EXP: 9530313 For next: 124040 Since: 03-15-04 From: South Florida Since last post: 2 days Last activity: 2 days |
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| Bah...almost everyone in life can be considered crazy, if not, well, you're just too damn plain. But that isn't a good enough reason for this guy to hold your stuff. Bah..I'm getting pissy at this too now. |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 87/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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| See, the thing is, I don't consider myself crazy, but I've come to accept that as long as I have this mental illness (or rather, while I am being treated for it and until it becomes "managed") I will live with society giving me the title of "crazy". Or the stigma that I "bought it upon myself" or that I am "weak" because I have it. Stigmas are fun What annoys me is that my ex-partner is one of these people who can't see through the stigma. In fact, he thinks that he can actually *punish* me into not being crazy anymore. That by treating me like he is right now, I'll learn that being depressed is not the way to go about things, and -- just as easily as we turn on or off a light switch -- I'll just STOP. Like I said, and I'm the crazy one? |
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Sofie Level: 52 Posts: 90/1210 EXP: 1028812 For next: 55028 Since: 03-15-04 Since last post: 187 days Last activity: 279 days |
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| *switches you off* it's not working, I'd ask back my guarantee if I were you. This is some serious bullshit, but I know the feeling. Let's hope he'll be bringing your stuff fast. |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 91/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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| Sigh. He called. Just then, at 3.40am. All sooky and apologetic. He apologised for not getting my stuff to me. Made it sound a little like he's being a jerk cause he doesn't want to really let me go. That and he HAS been busy, but he has always been busy the whole time I've known him -- that wasn't what upset me.I told him that the way he wouldn't tell me what was going on upset me. That I feel like my world's all uncertain now, and I was hoping he could give me a little certainty -- a little solid ground to stand on -- and he woudn't give me that. He said he was sorry for that too and that he didn't really see it that way. He said he'd be able to bring my stuff this weekend. He said the cats miss me.  He said that he misses me. He asked if I wanted to come back. I told him that I'm scared. That I don't want to come back and have him take out his stress and his anger on me anymore. He said he was sorry. He said we should work through it together. I said that I thought about having a "mean jar". Kinda like a swear jar. Each time one of us is mean or inconsiderate of the other, we put a dollar in the mean jar. Sorta a disincentive for us to be mean to each other as well as a reminder not to be mean. Then, when there's a bit of money in there, we spend the money doing something nice together, like see a movie, or buy a DVD we both want to see, and watching it at home together. He said it sounded like a good idea. I said that he needs to stop getting angry at me for what seems (to me) like no reason. He said that sometimes I go on about things when he isn't in the right mood to listen and that's why he snaps. I said that he should just tell me he's not in the right mood, rather than have a go at me. That if he was a bit nicer about it, it wouldn't hurt me so much. I told him that when he has a go at me like that, I think it's because I'm a bad person, and I beat myself up over it a lot and it gets me depressed. He said he'll try to be nicer. He asked again if I wanted to come back. I said that I think I want to stay here for a bit. I also said that I think the reason he's so cranky and short-fused and such (taking stuff out on me) is because he's stressed. I mean, the guy does nothing but work, work, work, work WORK. He doesn't give himself ANY "time-out" so to speak, it's just eat, sleep, work work work work.... and so I think the stress is why he might be taking things out on me. I said he needs to try to make time for himself sometimes. He didn't say anything to that....  The thing is, I really love Ben, but god, he can be such a complete and utter arsehole. And I don't want to go back and have him keep on treating me the way he has been. So.. I'm holding off for a bit. *sigh* It's nice to hear he does want me back, and that it might be the reason he's been a supreme dickhead this last week....  I just hope that if we do get back together, things are better than they have been. There's only so much of him being a jerk that I can stand |
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Anya The Exile Ultima Mezcla de Yin Yan Level: 98 Posts: 399/5337 EXP: 9530313 For next: 124040 Since: 03-15-04 From: South Florida Since last post: 2 days Last activity: 2 days |
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| Wow.... Best thing to do here, at least what I think, is that he brings over your imporant stuff and that the both of you take a little breather to think about things. |
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HighSorceressDelial Buzzy Beetle DDR FREAK Slayer of Beasts Savior of Worlds Eater of Napkins Level: 31  Posts: 20/380 EXP: 181041 For next: 4322 Since: 03-15-04 From: Shimmering Waters Of Avden Since last post: 9 days Last activity: 2 days |
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| How long did you two go out for before? All of that seems waayy too framiliar...I really hope things work out between the two of you....I"ve always like happy endings where people who love eachother get back together and stay together and are much happier because of it....Although sometimes I have to wonder if they are better with or without eachother... *hug* ~Delial |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 100/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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| Well, he's back to being a jerk again. He keeps calling me a selfish bitch for wanting my things. The thing is, I need that stuff to get jobs and stuff.... and now I'm on the brink of losing my second job because I don't have that stuff. He made me get cat food for the kittens because he was low on cash and they were hungry, so I did (because I don't want the cats to go hungry), but I don't have any transport, so I asked if he could pick it up.... so he yelled at me for being a lazy bitch and told me to catch the train and do it.  I can't!! And after I explain all that, I finally hear that he can't come pick it up because he has no money to get petrol for the car to get down here. So, I went in today and gave the cat food to him (because as much of a jerk as he is, the cat's shouldn't starve because he's an arsehole). Gave myself a back injury in the process, cause it was fucking heavy, and I had to take it all in a backpack on the train. Picked up my computer tower and some books in the process, seeing as how he's given me no other option on how to acquire my things..... but now I can barely move, my back's so sore, and I can't use my PC cause I don't have a monitor or compatible keyboard/mouse  He still refuses to bring me the rest of my stuff though. So that means I'm going to have to go in tomorrow on the train and carry my monitor and the rest of the books home. I hope my back feels better by then.*sigh* |
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Lord Rahl Snap Dragon Level: 43  Posts: 72/792 EXP: 544657 For next: 20389 Since: 03-15-04 From: Temple of the Winds - Training Room Since last post: 43 days Last activity: 7 days |
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| I don't know how the laws work in your country, but in Canada, if you have lived with someone and move out, and they refuse to return your stuff to you, you have the legal right to enter the house, get your stuff and leave. As long as you do no less damage then what would be needed to gain entry, you cannot be charged for break and enter. Meaning if they change the locks, you can kick in the door or go through a window. (I love Legal Studies!) If I could help you I would. Out of my friends and I, I'm the smallest. (5'9", 190lbs.) And this guy sounds like one complete asshole, to put it bluntly, the type of person my friends and I hate. |
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Destiny Smasher Red Cheep-cheep Level: 24  Posts: 35/216 EXP: 77554 For next: 571 Since: 03-15-04 From: NOT HERE, thank the Star Spirits. Since last post: 368 days Last activity: 43 days |
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| *points to first quote in sig maniacally* Yep, definite proof of one of my big beliefs about life. Everyone has two sides. This guy sounds like a asshole, all right. But he sounds like there's a good side to him. Question is, is that good side GENUINE? Even if it IS, the other question is how much you love him...? Do you love his good side more than you hate his bad side? Answer that question. Once you know the answer to that, then you know whether to back off from him or give him another shot. However, even if that were to happen, you being treated like this is unacceptable, and he'd better not expect you to come back just because he gets all happy for a little while. *sigh* I hate to sound so critical...I used to trust people very easily, so I got screwed over numerous times...So now I have more trouble trusting people than before, and I hate it... Ah, well...I really hope things work out, but it sounds to me like this jerk doesn't give a crap about you...I'd say move on, you've given him plenty of chances, from what I understand. Obviously, the choice is yours, though. |
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