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Bella Red Paratroopa                  Since: 11-18-05 From: Mi Casa de Candy and RATE OR DIE Last post: 6312 days Last view: 6312 days |
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| I was just wondering, I don't know if this has been asked before..maybe it has and I don't remember, but I do remember it being mentioned. Since there are mostly guys here, do you guys personally like it when a girl approach's you? Or is the first one to come up to you and say Hi and everything? I was talking to a guy friend and he was saying it's weird and that if I'm comfortable doing it I should, but I'm not too comfortable but I've heard of girls who did it. I do need some way to get over my shyness and I have a perfect opportunity. | |||
insectduel Lantern Ghost Not welcome here anymore.    Since: 11-18-05 From: Bronx, New York Last post: 6552 days Last view: 6347 days |
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| I had a lot of men (At least idiots) discussing to me about this. Forcing me to let a girl to approach me. It's not right but I sometimes do what's best for me. I want to be a free man for once but I can't take it with them wanderering around me. Men were sometimes cruel but they think i'm stupid or being gay.
Anyway don't do it. Beacuse it's dishonesty. |
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Schweiz oder etwas [12:55] (Dr_Death16); I swear, the word drama needs to be stricken from the dictionary, for I've heard it so many times, it will permanently be imprinted on my brain  Since: 11-17-05 From: Kingston, Rhode Island Last post: 6309 days Last view: 6309 days |
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| A lot of the time, men are entirely capable of feeling appreciated by a girl making the first move. I myself would like nothing more than a girl to come up to me and tell me that she finds me attractive. Usually, I'm not very good at first impressions or anything along those lines, so when a girl makes the first move, I have much more to work with, and I don't feel so sheepish trying to talk to her. | |||
Trapster King Dedede Since: 11-19-05 From: Sweden Last post: 6417 days Last view: 6309 days |
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Originally posted by Bella |
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Bella Red Paratroopa Since: 11-18-05 From: Mi Casa de Candy and RATE OR DIE Last post: 6312 days Last view: 6312 days |
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| I mean, just girls going up to you guys and asking how you've been and everything. Not necessarily asking you out or for your number. That's not anything I would do right away because I asked another guy friend about that and he said no, don't even ask if he has a girlfriend yet. I don't even remember why he said not to. I think it was because then I could scare him away or something.
I don't get how it would be dishonesty insectduel  ..or else I read your post wrong  |
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Tzepish UFO Since: 11-21-05 From: Redmond, WA Last post: 6366 days Last view: 6366 days |
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| I think it's flattering, and I like it a lot when it happens.
There. |
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Ziff B2BB BACKTOBASICSBITCHES Since: 11-18-05 From: A room Last post: 6309 days Last view: 6309 days |
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I don't like it. It's often very imposing and I say "yes" out of politness. However - if I like a girl it's about the only damn way its going to happen nowadays. I'm too much of a sissy  |
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Thoughtless [Danielle] Thoughtless is my secret lover [Danielle] *flutters eyelashes* [Thoughtless] SECRET IS OUT I miss my two pussies :( (Part II) Since: 11-17-05 From: PR Last post: 6310 days Last view: 6309 days |
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Originally posted by Grey cat There. Grey said everything I was going to say. I am deathly shy at times so when a girl approaches me I feel more comfortable, a 'home-field advantage'* type of thinking. *Wow that sounded incredibly lame and stupid |
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Snow Tomato Snap Dragon  Since: 12-31-05 From: NYC Last post: 6330 days Last view: 6315 days |
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| Uhm, it's certainly not dishonest.
I find the guys I typically like will never in a million years approach me and tell me they like me. I don't know what it is. So, the only way I've found out if a guy likes me or not... is to tell them that I think they're "really cool" and that we should "Hang out sometime". If they say yes.. they usually like you. It's hard to outright tell someone you like them, so you shuold take the route of just getting to know them better.. and if they let you.. well it works. Also, telling some guys that you really really like them alot.. scares the poop out of them for some reason. At least, that's happened twice with me. If you want to tell a guy you like them.. I find the letter approach to be quite nice. Like, write them a note explaining how you feel.. be discriptive and honest.. and on paper, you can get down everything you want to say.. exactly how you say it. This way the conversation doesn't end up being: "Hi".. "Hi"...... (void of silence)... "ILIKEYOUALOT!!!"/// "Oh."... (void of silence). And most guys are usually nice enough to either write back.. or talk to you about the note. Just make sure you're close with said guy before giving him the note.. otherwise you might come off stalkerish. So uh.. yeah. My advice is that it's not weird for the girl to be the first one to talk to the guy.. at all. In fact I'd say that happens more often than the guy being the one to talk to the girl.. strangely enough. |
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netscape Grizzo Since: 12-30-05 Last post: 6339 days Last view: 6335 days |
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| Being approached can be cool. Just don't come on too strong. Too strong can = omg get the expletive away from here. However just right can = whoa cool she digs me. Just keep it real, casual, and cool and you should be fine. On the off chance you get a negative don't take it personally, just means you're too good for em. | |||
Arwon Bazu Since: 11-18-05 From: Randwick, Sydney, NSW, Australia Last post: 6311 days Last view: 6310 days |
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| Nice girls talking to me = good.
Duh. |
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Kutske Since: 11-19-05 Last post: 6657 days Last view: 6657 days |
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| Bella, my opinion might not be of much value seeing as I don't like the whole concept of "dating," but in my own personal experience, looking for love is a fool's game. I think that love is uncontrollable -- you can't form it over time, even if you can fake it or make-believe it -- it's either there or it's not. What I personally look for is a connection, something that makes you the same, and I don't mean common interests. Plus, dating tends to be based on physical appearance alone -- I mean, if you're going to go up to a guy, you're not going to go for the ugliest one in the room now, are you? That's why I so despise dating; false hopes and shattered dreams, but that's another show. To me, the saddest thing in all the world is when two people date, go steady, eventually engage and marry then "fall out of love." Why? Because I say, you can't "fall out of love." If you think you're falling out of love, then it was never there in the first place.
Instincts; intuition. That's what you follow, and you won't be lead astray. Snow Solanum lycopersicum: Also, telling some guys that you really really like them alot.. scares the poop out of them for some reason. At least, that's happened twice with me. I think that's true of either sex. Guy walks up to a girl and says, "Hi, I'm Darren, I really really like you." zomginternetpredator!!1 Girl walks up to a guy and says, "Hi, I'm Melissa, I really really like you." zomgclingydesperatevirgin!!2 netscake: On the off chance you get a negative don't take it personally, just means you're too good for em. That's kind of a shitty attitude. What if you were the one turning someone down? Does that make you not good enough for them? Really, I hope this isn't how people actually think. Otherwise, the world's a lot more dangerous than I thought it was. |
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Bella Red Paratroopa Since: 11-18-05 From: Mi Casa de Candy and RATE OR DIE Last post: 6312 days Last view: 6312 days |
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| HA...HA he is so damn shy it's not even funny. It's cute, but then it can start to get annoying, but he probably didn't expect it so now I'm just gonna keep it on the down-low to "Hi's" and "Bye's". While talking to me he'd look at me and look away and he'd look at me for a little bit then look somewhere else. I'm that way too if someone I wouldn't expect, comes up to me..especially if the guy is attractive. I have heard some things about how shy he is, like run away and hide shy . This other guy told me he's not shy but then he said he's probably shy around you because you're a girl..or something but anyways. That question is still held up, it's weird how some guys like it and some guys don't. I've always been told that you never know until you try. I was pretty sure that guys do like to get approached by the girl. I do notice when I'm approached by the guy..I don't know how to deal with it but that's just me. (edited by Bella on 01-19-06 12:24 PM) |
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netscape Grizzo Since: 12-30-05 Last post: 6339 days Last view: 6335 days |
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Originally posted by Bella It'll get easier -b Originally posted by Kutske Actually it's a psychological tool. Preserves one's feelings. If I'm not interested in someone I have no problem with them figuring they're too good for me. No skin off my nose really, and it'll help their confidence for the next one. |
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Jomb Deddorokku  Since: 12-03-05 From: purgatory Last post: 6312 days Last view: 6312 days |
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Me personally, i love it when a girl approaches me. I'm a very shy person, it could literally take me months to build up to talking to a girl the first time. After that first time it is much easier, so if she already broke the ice life is all around better  |
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Yoronosuku Toss Tortoise Since: 11-17-05 From: Massachusetts is my new home.. Last post: 6309 days Last view: 6309 days |
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I never ever ever make the first move  Not so much...I am really a shy person in real life, and I only have a couple of good friends (and a bunch of 'casual' ones...if that makes sense? Like I just sort of see them there during the day)..but if I know you or once I get to I can be fine..but I will never approach a guy to tell them I like them, or even just...to start a conversation. I have very few male friends in real life......actualy, Tony (Keitaro/Majin, to you people..) is the only male friend I actualy have, at all in real life .__.;;
I just have had so many bad experiences with males back at home. After dad left, a really stupid boy that used to be my friend gave me such a hard time. And then his stupid friends all started being really really mean to me. Its just so hard for me to want to approach guys anymore..even just on a friendly level. It makes it really hard for me to get close to guys around here, or even at home, since I don't know them, and I'm too scared to get to know them...you know =| Its so much easier online I think because you kind of don't have so much to loose, you don't see the people every day and it is a little less nervewrecking. Ahh...but I guess to answer the question, no I don't approach guys, never ever ._.; maybe they like it..but you know, I don't feel like I'm missing so much. I love my friends I do have to death, I never felt like I absolutly needed to make friends with guys (but do not think I am sexist and only do not want to be friends with them, you know what I mean right?) for the sake of doing so. You know? (edited by Yoronosuku on 01-19-06 10:46 PM) |
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Uncle Elmo Porcupo Loved up and ready to go :) Since: 11-24-05 Last post: 6325 days Last view: 6365 days |
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| Do I like being approached by women?
Now this IS strange but in every one of my relationships, the woman made the first move, every time I'VE made the first move I've been rejected offhand. Strange that. Perhaps I need to start giving women the brush off.
I personally though find it very flattering, other guys might not see it in that way, and some more unscrupulous men might even see it as a sort of predatorial advantage and try to progress the relationship towards sex quicker than they usually would. Either way, good luck Bella. It's good to see in this age of sexual equality, some women take the initiative. |
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Kutske Since: 11-19-05 Last post: 6657 days Last view: 6657 days |
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netscape: Actually it's a psychological tool. Preserves one's feelings. If I'm not interested in someone I have no problem with them figuring they're too good for me. No skin off my nose really, and it'll help their confidence for the next one. My point was, that was an everyday sort of example of what I see to be a growing social problem -- everyone thinks they are the be-all end-all, when in reality, a single person is just a drop of water in the vast ocean of life. It seems like everyone has inflated themselves up to be God on Earth, and it seems like people are more and more often making important descisions based solely upon their tiny, skewed view of the world. It's dangerous, it's what breeds war and fosters murder. Uncle Elmo: Either way, good luck Bella. It's good to see in this age of sexual equality, some women take the initiative. *drops the bomb* Now about paying for the meal... |
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netscape Grizzo Since: 12-30-05 Last post: 6339 days Last view: 6335 days |
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Originally posted by Kutske Bah we're getting off topic. What breeds war is lack of information and empathy, or lack of resources. People will fight for resources, competition is human nature. The way to combat that is to make sure people can get what they need and educate them to be open minded about other cultures so government demonizing campaigns to prep public support for war will fail. Murder has many causes stemming from from a range of issues. |
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Trapster King Dedede Since: 11-19-05 From: Sweden Last post: 6417 days Last view: 6309 days |
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Originally posted by Yoronosuku Yeah, I can understand that after they did that to you. I hope itŽll get better for you, though. I hope youŽll get more friends IRL someday. Hmm, a little off-topic there. Are you making any progress, Bella? |
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