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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji                   Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| That pic was drawn by a friend for me, I realy like it.
Someone who doing an AMAZING job at CGing it, so I'm happy. Hm...Thanks for the advice... I'm still waiting for Kirstie to get back--watch, we won't even TALK, things'll be just fine, or I'll just decide to screw it and ignore her. And by that, sadly, I sorta mean it. I can't just 'be neutral' toward someone I really care about. I'm either all in or intentionally holding back. And I can intentionally hold back it may SEEM like I'm neutral when I'm actually bitter. Which may be what happens, I don't know. But this other girl definitely seemed very comfortable around me and we have been staying in touch over the summer, and things between us just seem to click really well, so I certainly see the possibility, though I'm trying not to hope about it or anything, 'cuz that'll be my first mistake: hoping too soon. Girls like romantic stuff? Wow, you'd THINK that, wouldn't you? Girls like surprises, too? Aha..ahahahaha...Not a lot of the girls HERE.  ;
I do something surprising, something nice, out of the blue, and they get CREEPED OUT. And yea, I know, maybe I don't know them well enough, but it's not that so much, it's just "OMG, a boy doing something nice and random for me, he must like me, I don't WANT a boy to like me, OMGHAX!" And no, I have no idea what 'OMNGHAX' has to do with anything. And by the way, I'm not even talking romantuc stuff. I'm talking purely platonic stuff, too. I have one friend who seems comfortable with me surprising her with kind, heartwarming things, but at the same time, she hardly remarks on them to me. But the trouble with me is that if I ever enter a relationship, I just can't see it 'just happening.' We're going to have to talk, I'm going to have to tell her I like her, and we're going to have to decide what to do about it. Yes, with this past girl, I DID do it in a letter... I do wonder if anything would've different had I done it in person, though. I think I did it in a letter because deep down I knew she wouldn't be interested and writing a letter was easier. After all, when we talked about it in person afterward she seemed just as opposed and creeped out, anyway. We'd known each other for, say...6 months. So I don't think she had that much of a righ to be creeped out because I was 'too quick to jump the gun' or something. But I won't cower out again if I do start really liking this new girl. Also, I seem to have a confidence problem--sort of. I'm very confident in myself. I know that when I'm put in a position, I will carry it out. You make me a leader, I will lead, and I'll give it what I've got. But the problem is, you have to PUT me there--I won't go looking for a leadership position by myself. And when it comes to girls, I'm never unconfident in myself, I'm always unconfident in the GIRL. As in, I'm always thinking they're the type who 'could never like me.' I know I have good qualities, and I'm proud of them. I'm aware of my flaws and I'm always trying to correct them, too. I just don't have confidence that the girls around me will SEE my good qualities, 'cuz they seem to not really be so good at that. They think that I'm kind of 'needy' sometimes, when I'm not really needy, I'm just emotionally open and very straightforward. If anything, I'm dependent, I've just never been in a relationship to prove to myself or a girl just how true this is. I seem needy because I ask my friends to help or rather, to listen when I need to vent--that makes me seem needy because they hardly ever need to ask ME for help. I'm willing and able to give all that I ask for and more, it's just that no one else asks for it. Do you think maybe this has been a problem in my social adventures? And you're not serious about Lance Bance, are you? And for God's sake, Johnny Depp IS t3h smex, but please give us something original. Maybe not THE sexiest guy, but A sexiest guy. Or something. (Sorry for my long posts, but as I even said, I'm very emotionally open and straightforward) (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 07-30-06 03:30 AM) |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| LOL. That's a pretty good question.
I'll add to it: how often do you swear? |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| Um...I am chillaxed.
Very much so. Sooo...I'm not sure why you say I'm 'reading too much' into it when I'm just talking about it... And I KNOW relationships 'just happen' what I said was that it doesn't work like that for ME. Unless the GIRL initiates things, I will not all of a sudden have a girlfriend without realizing it. I will need to talk with her about things first and establish our intentions to each other. many people do that, and I think that's better than slipping into a relationship when you and your partner could have two very different intentions--i.e. one of you wants something serious and the other just wants sex. I know it 'just happens' sometimes, of course, I'm just the type that it won't 'just happen' to. It's kind of odd, seeing all of my friends start dating and proceed to start doing things that they just...didn't seem like they'd do...Like having sex when they've hardly been dating for very long and just finished their first year in college. But then again, I'm just the type who gets creeped out when physical things are 'rushed' but emotionally 'rush' things myself. *shrug* I don't expect to date this girl, I just recognize the distinct possibility. Aaaaaand...none of that was a question... So don't worry about it, I guess. =P Is Danielle your real name? Either way, why did you choose to use it as your Acmlm name? |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji  Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| .
. . . And then it became a black dot. Why did it become a black dot? |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| LOL. I love that commercial.
I see. Does that mean you could make your name, like, all types of freaky stuff? |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| It's official: E3 as we know it is officially dead.
http://www.gamespot.com/news/6154935.html http://www.1up.com/do/newsStory?cId=3152521&did=1 http://ps2.ign.com/articles/722/722035p1.html E3 will apparently still exist, but not nearly what it has been. Is this good? Bad? It makes me, personally, sad, because I looked forward to E3 like a 5 year-old looks forward to Christmas. However, those who tuned in to Attack of the Show today were treated to a very interesting service of The Loop, which featured Adam Sessler from X-play as well as someone from EGM and another from IGN. They came to an agreement that in the long run, the lack of E3 will be better for everyone, as it will spread out all of the news over time, give developers time to refine things before they show it, and waste less money. What do you guys think? |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| Wow, how the f5ck did I miss this thread...?
I coulda sworn I checked the entire front page...Didn't figure it'd be past that, what-not with the accounement happening yesterday-ish and confirmation today... Oh, well. I really liked the Loop that Attack of the Show did today on that topic. "Maybe next year, I won't be stuck playing games like CHROMEHOUNDS for the summer!" ~ Adam Sessler |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| OK, I'm pretty sure I originally found it on VGMix, which has been down and out for months now.
It was a remix of Dire Dire Docks from Mario 64, and I know it had the word 'Sonic' in its name. Sort of an upbeat electric rock kinda tone to it, I guess. Anyone have any idea what it was called? It was one of my favorite songs, and now I have no idea where to go looking for it because I forgot the name of the song and the artist. 'Sonic Dive,' maybe? Any ideas? |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji  Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| Only if you don't snake.
At least, that's what she said before, right?  |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| Yea, Pearl Diver--I've had that one for a while.
I practically COLLECT remixes of that song, since there's so many of them. The tricky thing is that there are so many of them that are GOOD. Sonic Depths is #1 in that collection, but Pearl Diver had gotta be #2 or 3. Anyway, thanks a LOT, I'll try that link out. On this topic... I have an amazing Mario mix that I got years ago. The song didn't have a name, really, and I don't have the artist's name, either, since it's in wma format and was made long ago. I really want to show it to other people, because it is trily an amazing mario theme remix. I still remember being blown away the first time I heard it and actually realized it was MARIO. It sounded like Megaman X or F-Zero, but it was actually the Mario theme done in a similar style, and pulled off quite while. I named the file "Mario Forever" and have had it ever since. It's got a lot of 'original-ness' to it, but it's awesome, indeed. At first you probably wouldn't recognize it, either, but it's the Mario theme--and once you realize that, it makes the remix a good examle of what remixing really is. I really wish I could find the artist and see what he's done since, but...alas. I could probably upload it to a site that does that sort of thing, huh? *tries* Hm...For some reason my wireless connection seems very bad at uploading audio files into e-mails or such things... Hm... Try this... See if that works. [Looks like it works to me. Check it out!] -- Wow, a butt load of Mario mixes, most of which I've never heard. Awesome. I remember hearing about this competition. They had it every month, right? (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-01-06 05:51 PM) (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-01-06 05:52 PM) (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-01-06 05:54 PM) |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| I've been posting in a thread on Smashboards concerning how to approach people you're romantically interested in.
You can find it here. http://www.smashboards.com/showthread.php?t=80925 I'm sure many of you will find some sad laughs in there. But if you're too lazy to read, I'll post some of the 'gems' I've found right here. And yes, I'm only posting stuff here that makes no sense to me at all. There's some good stuff amongst all the crap. Please tell me what you think about this 'advice' as these guys are trying to direct me. 
"Forget the absolute crock of advice people give you to "Just be yourself." Apparently being yourself doesn't get you any girls. You gotta change. I'm not saying change your personality to accomodate this girl, but you can change. . . . If you want a girl that is comfortable with telling you her emotions, it's too late, you blew it." --- "Listen to what they said about not getting to be too close of friends. That pretty much blows all of your chances of asking that girl out. It makes things really weird." --- "Meet girls with the intent to hook up. Ever hear the stories of those guys being permanently "friended"? It comes from bad dating advice. If a girl goes to you for consolation and that sort before you're her boyfriend, you are now a close-guy friend. When you first meet a girl, give off the impression that you're not their JUST to listen to her. It WILL help. Short tips. Be cocky, be arrogant, be proud, be confident. Girls don't like seeing their guy shy and stutter. Don't give out compliments for loosely. It's weird. Be INTERESTING." --- "Feel free to attempt to be a therapist, and a good friend, and a great listener for months and years before you tell her how you feel. Then go look for your own great friend and listener as you tell them that the girl you love doesn't want to get with you because she doesn't want to risk your great friendship, because it means too much to her. Get friended, it's **** fun. If you don't go after a girl with the intent to get with her from the start, then you're not going to. Brand yourself as a potential love interest first, then go for the deep, meaningful relationship. It's going to suck when you start the deep meaningful stuff, and get in so deep that you can't get the love interest thing down." [same person after I disagreed with him] "Dating has changed with the times man. If you don't change your plan accordingly, then there's no point in us giving you advice. What works isn't what you want. You might as well just go hunting for an old soul like yourself." --- " Mr P's Avatar Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Perth, Scotland Posts: 39 Mr P is on a distinguished road I think i threw up a bit in my mouth reading this thread.... holy **** dude you are what 19 and aint ready to kiss girls yet ??? WTF why wouldn't you want to kiss her ? Part of being in a solid steady relationship is about being attracted to your partner physically and exp [note--he missed the multiples times I mentioned that I am NOT in a relationship and never have been] "and another thing you aren't going to find THE ONE by hanging around for THE ONE. You have to go out and get experience in different relationships with different people, it's part of growing up. You are very niave if you think you can go around acting like the nice guy and women will respect you for it and all of a sudden the perfect partner will show up. You need to chill out let yourself go get some experience in different relationships and one day you will fall in love with the right girl but until that happens stop looking for it because you wont find it that way." [note--this guy later states that he kisses girls he hardly knows, continues to act as if just because I don't focus on sex means I'm lying about my sexual desires, and uses this site as a friggin' backup to that point.] --- "It sounds like your morals are getting in the way of you dating, Destiny Smasher. Sometimes you gotta lower your standards. I mean, not every time are you gonna find a girl with all of the same morals that you have. So, it is alright to lower your standards for some dates, but make sure they aren't too low." --- So what do you think about some of these nuggets of 'knowledge'? (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-09-06 05:38 PM) (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-09-06 05:38 PM) |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| Thanks for the input.
First, you must not have read everything I talked about when I mentioned change. We come back to it later on, and I believe we reach the same conclusion as you. Your second point is VERY good, I will admit. But you're missing something, namely the fact that when I first meet a girl, I'm not ready to just jump into a relationship! That's crazy! A crush (or even mild liking) doesn't equate to something I feel is worth risking the entire potential of a friendship for. What if she's a great girl who I could become great friends with, but I have a crush on her and thus treat her in a way she doesn't want to be treated by me? It could totally ruin our potential friendship. Are you saying I should put romance before friendship? You're assuming that when I first meet a girl, I somehow KNOW right away if I'm going to really like her. There are girls I thought I'd like at first that turned out to WAY not be my type. There's no way of knowing if a girl is right for you at first glance, now is there? And the girls around HERE, at my college...if they think you like them, and they don't like you, they have a habit of shutting you out. I've lost a couple potential friends because they thought I liked them--not that I DID, but the truth doesn't matter, what they ASSUME to be true does. Why throw everything on chance like that? And if I did that with every girl I ever liked, I'd be down a LOT less friends at this point. I'm not trying to hide it ike some shady dealer, I hide it because I know that it's ONLY a crush, until it grows into more than that. THEN I begin to question it. And even then, I still hid it because I had a good feeling the girl wasn't interested, or else she would've given me some sort of sign. Also, you're acting like I'm trying to 'throw out a pitch' when I've never done that. I've never said the equivilant of, "And that's why I'm such an amazing guy--zing, buy me" I've said, "I really like you." So what should I do with this girl I just met? I have an INTEREST in her. I don't know her well-enough to know if I'll truly LIKE her a lot yet. So should I just screw being considerate toward our friendship and put it all up to chance? She doesn't seem like the type who wants to jump into a relationship blindly, either. -- For example: In my current situation, I'm just finishing getting over the last girl who rejected me. At first there was that sort of initial natural attraction, but it didn't seem ike much, until a couple months after we knew each other, when the feelings started to grow. I hid them for 7 months, and deep down, she knew I liked her. But we both ignored it and avoided it, and then I told her, and she rejected me, which I pretty much expected--which probably made me even less confident when I told her. It's been months now, and I've basically given up all hope in a romantic relationship with her, though part of me still longs for whatever hope in hell I still have for it. So along comes a new girl, who's very similar to the prior one, except I get this special connection with her from the bat that I rarely get with anyone. I have an interest in her, but I don't KNOW her well enough to really like her on the level needed for a relationship. How do I know I'm not just subconsciously starting to like her as a way of getting over the last heartbreak? And how do I know if she's really the type of girl I would truly like if I hardly know her? Also, something you should know about me--I've never been in a relationship, and thus, have no skills and little idea as to how I would treat a girl differently outside of a relationship but exp It seems every time I try to flirt or do something special, they don't like it one bit. If I went all the way with that from the get-go, wouldn't that be even worse? (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-10-06 05:35 PM) (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-10-06 05:41 PM) (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-10-06 05:52 PM) (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-10-06 06:08 PM) |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| I agree.
People keep telling me I shouldn't be myself, I should be BETTER than myself. And yes, changing and growing is something that happens with time. But a girl should loe me for who I am NOW. My family and my friends love me for who I am NOW, and so should my love interest. However, Delial, when it comes to that 'friends' list, a lot of girls DO that. I didn't think they did, but it happens more often than I'd like to think. Just about all of my friends that are girls have told me, "Yea, when I first met you, I knew I'd never like you in that way." So it's basically the same thing. So, Delial, do you think it's better to hide any feelings like that I may have for long periods of time like that? Could you please further explain, witeasprinwow? And byu the way, if a crack addict was a genuinely amazing person, yes, i WOULD love them for who they were. What they do and who they are are not necessarily the same thing. An addiction is not something inherent to someone's personality. And of course I'd want them to change, but the reason I'd want them to change is BECAUSE I love them and want to see them live a better life, not because they should rise to meet my standards. (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-10-06 07:51 PM) |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| You're taking 'being myself' way way too literally. What if me, being myself, wants to lose weight? I'm still being myself, I'm choosing to change certain aspects of me.
I think it becomes a problem when you start doing it for someone else in order to get them to like you. I don't think it's intelligent to change for others to love you, but to change BECAUSE you love others. Or yourself. |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| Haha.
Um...Yeeea... I think maybe I forgot one llittle detail...Sorry.  ;
I'm going to a Wesleyan Christian College full of conservatives. Kissing is NOT like shaking hands. Dating is not something you just DO. And people around here have standards that are higher than most others. "All I'm trying to say is that, even if a girl thinks you're the cutest thing ever, you have to get your own act together before getting anyone else involved. If you're overweight, get in shape. If you're shy, talk to random strangers until you aren't. If you have bland conversations, learn to be funny. If you dress like an idiot, buy some new clothes and learn how to dress. If you're too poor to do that, then get a job. " I think you're making a mistake in saying that personality traits like how funny or shy someone is should be CORRECTED. Being shy isn't bad, neither is being unfunny. Some people LIKE shy, quiet people, and others HATE people who try to hard to joke around. I don't know where I fall under shy/funny, but it shouldn't matter. Becoming less shy isn't some 'right' thing I should strive for, it's something that will happen if I actually want it to. Obesitiy is different because it's physical and actually affects your health. Dressing like an 'idiot' is all a matter of opinion. Some people like wearing zippers, baggy pants, and whatever. I don't myself, but I know people who do, an dthey those things look good. So that's another bad example. You're making the 'awesome-ness' of a person into some physical, measurable factor, which is it isn't. This last girl I liked? She's a klutz, she's childish, she's uber conservative, she lets her mom control her life, etc. etc. But I love her (as a person) so I can look past those things and see the GOOD in her, as the good is what actually MATTERS. Do I think letting her mom control her life is good? No, not one bit. But it's not important to me compared to her good qualities. "As for the girl? Make it clear you like her. Do you have problems with trust, or are you afraid of being hurt? You seem to take these relationship things awfully slow. " The problem is that you're assuming that knowing I like her is an easy thing. I mean, LIKING her. A crush is not something I think is good for basing a relationship like that on. I don't have problems with trusting people. However, how can I expect someone to trust me who i don't know very well? Trust is something that you need to build. I'm not that afraid of ME being hurt--I have expect it at this point. I'm afraid of hurting HER, because she could be very uncomfortable by me liking her, as this past girl was. She wasn't flattered, she didn't think it was cute, she 'wasn't touched' at all--she was appalled and disgusted. "I'm just saying that you shouldn't fake being "just friends" with someone in order to be something more than them. A LOT of guys do this without really thinking about it. " OK, see, now, I'm no longer confused. At all. You thought that I was some shallow person who only wants to get to know a girl in order to date them. Of COURSE that's stupid. I've never done that, that's WHY I don't tell them I like them right away, because they might assume that. Liking someone and becoming friends because I want to date them does not happen. I become someone's friend first because friendship is, in my opinion, what any kind of relationship should e built on--not just raw attraction. Anyway, it's not that I'm opposed to kissing, it's just... I think kissing and sexual acts are pointless and stupid unless they're with someone you love and are devoted to. I will probably want to kiss a girl once I fall in love completely and build a romantic relationship full of trust, etc. But I haven't yet. And that aside, emotional elements are what excites me more than physical ones--I want physical elements to support and embrace the emotional ones. Anyway, some good conversation goin' on, thanks for input, peoples. Also, all of these things you guys keep saying are how 'most people' act... Well, around here, those things...aren't... (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-11-06 06:37 PM) (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-11-06 06:51 PM) |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| Arrrrrr...*rubs temples*
Yea, there's definitely some miscommunication goin' on here... Jomb: - I want advice, I just want advice that actually makes sense within the context of where I live and people around here. Unfortunately, everyone (here or there) who has tried giving me advice on this does NOT live in an environment like mine, and the people in general think and act differenly than they do here. Also, stop putting words in my mouth. I never said the stuff I don't agree with is faulty, I said I don't AGREE with it. As in, I don't think it would work well in my situation, and it is unlike myself in a bad way. That's me, my opinion, I never said it was some fact that applies to all. - Being super nice and friendly and holding back physical attention DOES work, I have seen it work, it just hasn't worked for me yet. I don't need advice, I want it, to see if I really am doing something wrong, or if I just haven't met the right type of person yet. Last time I checked, friends were not something one needs. They're something I like to have, and there's no harm in having more friends. I always want another friend. Always. But I want something more than that with one person, yes. And I have taken risks, the thing is, I take them too early or too boldly. And if it doesn't work out, yes, I CAN lose something--I can lose a friend. And I thought I've said this already, but I'll say it again (or the first time), that I have made no vow or anything that I will never kiss, it's just that I'm not interested in that right now because I am not in a relationship with someone I'd want to do that with. Any type of physical stuff like that needs an emotional base to it (for ME). Thus, for me, dating is not something I can just jump into, it needs to be built on a strong basis--physicality is not strong, it's weak and fleeting, but emotional/mental bonds are strong. If I'm not friends with the girl, I'll feel VERY uncomfortable just making out or what-not with her, it would just be awkward. I'm sure when I finally am in a relationship with someone I will be very open tp physical stuff. It's not my morals or my standards, it's just...my tastes. witeasprinwow: Would I want to be around someone who is shy, insecure, and 'boring' (boring being based on one's OPINION, mind you, yet you keep treating it like it's some quantitative measurement, like a quart, or a meter, when it's not)? Sure I would, depending on the girl as a whole. If she was shy and insecure but sweet and kind, always going out of her way to do nice things for people but being modest about it, I'd think that was very admirable. Kissing is not the same as shaking hands around here and everyone doesn't just jump into dating relationships willy nilly. That doesn't mean there is 'no good advice' for this, it means that no one here seems to understand that environment well enough to be able to give advice that makes sense within that context. "You're making the 'awesome-ness' of a person into some physical, measurable factor, which is it isn't." "[bYes, it is. It isn't objective, but as people we all evaluate each other. " So you're saying that personality traits are physical and can be measured the same like inches, liters, and miles? They can't be. You acknowledge this, thankfully (and contradict your own sentence, although maybe you meant 'yes, it's measurable as in people evaluate you'). Yes, people evaluate each other. But what you didn't get from what I said earlier is that it's still all a matter of personal opinion--what one person thinks is arrogant another person may not. It's not a physical and tangible measurement that is universal. That was what I meant. You're treating it like it is when it's not. 'Obese' even, (though there is a scientific definition) is something that everyone has their own opnion on. Some girls think they are fat when they may, in fact, be of average weight. "If you want a girl who likes shy guys, then fine, but understand that you are being extremely picky and shooting for a tiny fraction of the human population. By that fact you are going to rule out a lot of awesome girls who just don't happen to like shy people. " I am NOT being extremely picky, it's other people who are being picky if me being shy is enough, by itself, for them to never be able to like me. That's THEM having high standards. You accuse me of having high standards, yet you keep telling me I need to change in order to get girls to notice me--girls don't need to do anything but be themselves for me to notice or like them. Sure, I may notice flaws, but I'm open-minded enough to be bale to look past those and appreciate their good sides. "You obviously don't like people who have loose sexual morals, therefore you think they aren't awesome people. You have measured them in a way. Maybe it isn't a tangible measurement, but it exists none-the-less. " Again, you keep plastering undesire qualities to the concept of just 'not liking' people. I don't like loose sexual morals at all. That doesn't mean I hate everyone who has loose sexual morals. I recently met a girl who just walked right up to me and was leaning into me and all types of stuff--she already has a boyfriend, and I had just met her, and it made me very uncomfortable. But that one trait isn't enough for me to say, "Well, she's dumb and I hate her." She's funny, she's nice, she's outgoing, and she's a good person--she's just sexually loose. If her fiance is fine with that, well, OK. I mean, if I was dating her, it would be something I'd want her to change. But I don't think people should change to BE loved, they should change because THEY love. I don't expect everyone to think like that, obviously, but that's a belief that is important to me, so I'd probably not be able to be in a relationship with someone who didn't agree with it and thought I should change in order for me to like me. See, the thing is, some qualities are considered more important to indivual people than others. Being sexually loose is something that bothers me MUCH more than someone being shy. If me being shy is much more important to someone than how physical I am, we just don't match up very well, and there's no point trying to force it, now, is there? I'm not trying to force myself in a relationship, and it feels like you guys are telling me I should be. "If you really think she likes you, then you have no reason to fear hurting her." I'm horrible at telling if a girl likes me--but it doesn't matter, because none of my friends that are girls ever have TRULY liked me the way I've liked them, so it doesn't matter. If I can't tell if she likes me or not, or even if I think she might, I could hurt her, easily. I know I hurt the last girl when I told her I liked her. She felt guilty, she wasn't touched by it at all, and she was annoyed. All bad things. If I had told her 7 months earlier, she would've felt the same way. I know this because any time I hinted at it she would get uncomfortable, so I decided to stop hinting at it for a long time to avoid making her uncomfortable, but it got to the point where I had to get it off my chest and tell her. "Maybe I am over-confident, but when I am feeling unsure, I just tell myself: "Maybe she will be offended, but I am giving her the chance to know a good person like myself, and that is a good intention."" That's a very interesting way to go about it. I can't say if it's over-confident or not, though. It sounds kind of cocky to me, but...It is a comment of good self-esteem at the same time. --- Most of the time, when a person laughs, it’s an UNCONSCIOUS way of saying “I like you, and I’d like you to like me”. It’s a SOCIAL BONDING tool. Then I saw a TV program about laughter. It REALLY blew my mind… On the program they talked about the fact that people almost never laugh when they’re alone… and that if a man and woman are together you can predict if they’re going to get together by the type of laughter that goes on between them. Even more mind-blowing. Well, after getting into it more, I discovered that people almost ALWAYS laugh when they want other people to like and approve of them... and only RARELY do they laugh in response to a joke or something funny. What do you guys think of that? It makes sense to me, but at the same time... Don't people also laugh when they're uncomfortable? I know this girl from Taiwan laughs around me all the time, but it's not...like...a good laugh. It feels like a bad laugh. This happens no matter what I do--I try to be witty, I try to pick on her in a light-hearted way, anything. Always the same. But I've seen her around her friends, and she doens't laugh that same way. She laughs differently, in a good way. Many people have tried telling me the way that girl acts around me is a sign that she likes me--and every sign I give them convinces them further that it's true...until I tell them she doesn't like me, of course. Because she doesn't like me. She's told all of her friends that, she's told my friends that, and she's told ME that. But she gives off signs that seem say otherwise. Also, there have been times when girls have seemed to be interested in me but I find out later they weren't at all--I seem to do this myself to girls without even thinking about it. They always seem to think I like them in that way when I don't, so they feel uncomfortable. So, it's not as easy as one would think to tell if a girl likes you or not. 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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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So I want to play through Paper Mario 2 again, but I want to give myself some sort of challenge to follow the entire way through that will make the game harder and more enjoyable without limiting the fun factor. For example, if you say, "Well, don't equip badges" that would make the game harder, but it totally limits my abilities in battle. My friend had the idea of never equipping the Quick Change badge (which swaps partners instantly) and I had an idea of never going to an inn or using a heart block. Just some ideas. Does anyone have any other ides like that which would would work well? (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 08-12-06 05:17 PM) |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| Thanks.
I wish being a thinker and dreamer was something people here admired, but they don't. 
I can't really 'meet new people' wen I'm in a college out in the middle of nowhere--not until a new year starts, which it is. There's a LOT of AMAZING people here, don't get me wrong at all. I love it here. That's why I've stayed. But just being a thinker, a dreamer, someone who has hopes/dreams...that just doesn't seem so important around here if they're hopes and dreams that aren't identical (I'm using that word on purpose) to the other person, they're irrelevent, it seems. But thanks, Snow, your advice sounds more like it's aimed at what I'm actually looking for. Maybe I should try to be more mysterious, or something. |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| witeasprinwow will get a reply to me by PM if he'd done posting here, because I still want to acknowledge what he said. (he edited his post instead of posting a new one, or something...)
Snow: " Don't assume that people who make lousy choices don't have hopes are dreams. That is a terrible mistake to make. Everyone is worth knowing, everyone is worth trying to get to know. Don't limit yourself because you don't agree with their lifestyle. Cause then you're ruling out almost half of the human race. Most people appreciate someone who's genuine and tells it how it is. And another thing, if you want to be loved.. really loved. You have got to love yourself. Do your own thing and it will click I promise. You just need patience." That sounds like very good advice, I agree with you. When did I ever say everyone is not worth knowing? I thought I said the opposite: everyone is worth reaching out for friendship, I'm just not gonna jump into a relationship with them. That's why I'm annoyed when people are telling me, "You sound like you have too many friends and no girlfriend. Maybe your problem is you're being too friendly." What's wrong with more friends? Everyone is worth knowing and becoming friends with. Sure, they don't all work out, but some of them do, and if you aren't open to it, it won't open up. -- Jomb: " Just because you did'nt say something does'nt mean it was'nt implied. Until after my post when Snow Tomato chimed in, you basically told everyone who tried to give you advice that they were wrong and what they were suggesting was foolishness. " I'm sorry if I implied you were wrong, I know I never said you were. All I said is that much of what you are saying doesn't sound right to ME and doesn't make sense to ME. That doesn't mean I'm the only person that matters, blabla, what it means is that if it's advice that will not WORK in my situation, it simply isn't good advice for MY situation. That's it, that's all, period. No "you guys ae stupid" etc. Never said that, don't think it's true at all. What I'm saying is what I am looking for is different than you THINK I'm looking for or what YOU are looking for. For example, when I hear the word 'dating' I do not think o the act of going out on dates. I think of being ina serious, intimate and meaningful relationship. So f you're giving me advice on how to 'go out on dates' with girls, and I'm asking for advice on something completely different, (and they are different, indeed) then of COURSE teh advice isn't going to sound right. :p That's my fault for not realizing earlier that the way many of you define 'dating' is different. Do I think you guys are wrong? No. Foolish? No. I think that those things would be wrong for ME and foolish for ME in MY situation. That is all. "if "being super nice and friendly and holding back physical attention" works so well, then why dont you have a GF right now? Why do you want advice at all if that is the path to sucess and what you are already doing? Should'nt this be you giving everyone else advice on how to be super nice and friendly and hold back physical attention as a technique to attract women? " Maybe the reason I don't have a GF right now is because I haven't the right girl yet. Everyone is different. I want advice because I don't know if I should change something or not. This discussion HAS lead to me talking with other people and altering some of the ways I think about these things. I just don't go out and acknowledge it any time my mind changes its mind on something. As a matter of fact, I have given advice to lots of guys on how to do those things in the past, when they asked me. Hopefully, they were looking for what I thought they were, otherwise my advice was misplaced and dumb advice to give. If you think I just want a girlfriend and not a serious relationship, then of course you aren't going to be give me advice that makes sense. " If you attempting to date a girl causes her to hate you and never want to be your friend, then one of 2 things is going on. either 1) you went way too overboard with the "being bold" thing and she thinks you are a stalker, or 2) she is a prissy jerk and not worthy of your friendship anyway." That sounds pretty much right, if you ask me. Which of those two it is, I don't know. But you are telling me to be bold and take chances when I already AM, and if I'm going overboard, then it's probably not a good idea to do it moreso. She may not be a prissy jerk, she may just be that way when it comes to entering relationships with boys. I'd say she is, I suppose. "About the kissing thing, I could swear you said earlier that you did'nt want to kiss anyone until after marriage, if i misread that somewhere than my apologies. I'm not suggesting you walk up to a girl you are attracted to but dont know and say"hello baby" then immediately french kiss her. I would'nt even do that. I dont normally kiss a girl until the second date, or maybe the end of the first if it went extremely well. By the end of a date or 2 you know her well enough to like her. You dont have to me madly in love with her to kiss her." No, I'm pretty I did say that. Maybe you misread and missed the extra part--right NOW. Right NOW, I don't want to kiss any girls. Right NOW, I am not in a relationship. Right NOW, I have no experience in dating and physical contact. So doesn't that make sense that i wouldn't want those things because I'm not ready for them yet? You don't have to be madly in love with someone to kiss them, but based on where I am, right now, I don't want to kiss a girl unless I am at that point. RIGHT NOW. As I've said, that could very well change. "I used to not want to date anyone unless she was "the one", then i would invest a tremendous amout of emotion in my GF about a month or 2 after we started dating. In my opinion you are setting yourself up for some serious depression when you do meet a girl and start dating her. Its very very rare for that first or even 2nd or 3rd or 4th one to be truly lasting." You think I don't want to date someone unless they're 'the one?' That's ridiculous, I'm not that naive. I KNOW full well the first person I date will probably not be 'the one.' The problem is that you just don't realize that girls around here ARE like that. They don't want to date guys until they know they can get married to them first. So before you think it's my fault, acknowledge the environment I'm in. "You dont have to date multiple girls at once, but you're better off dating without a whole lot of emotional investment right away, this is not to say treat her badly, but be realistic about whether or not this is the girl you will one day marry, or would really want to marry." No, I don't, but I don't WANT to just DATE people just to get 'experience', I think that's insensitive and foolish. Note--I think that. In my situation, that just isn't something I'm going to do. I didn't think I needed to specify this, but that doesn't mean I don't appreciate your insight and advice, it simply means I don't agree with it. Advice isn't something one shou;d just TAKE just because someone tells them to. I think that's very foolish, too. "Being at a Christian College full of conservatives does'nt necessarily mean what you think it does either. I dated a girl who went to a Christian College full of conservatives once. She was very conservative when other people were around, but it was a sham, she was extremely kinky and perverted in the bedroom and at any time when no one she knew was around. She was the wildest woman i ever dated when you get down to it, but she was like another person when her family or friends from school were around." No offense, but she doesn't sound like she was a good Christian. Not saying she's a bad person at all, just saying that Christians believe lying to others and passing yourself off as one person and acting like another outside of the community is, well...lying. Being fake. She was being fake to someone, obviously--acting ne way around some people and the opposite around others. She shouldn't be at a Christian College if she doesn't enjoy it there or has to pass herself off as something she's not. Human nature IS human nature, and lying is also lying. No offense. I think that maybe, JUST maybe, I might understand how the people around here think a little better than you. Not trying to be mean, I just don't appreciate you implying that you somehow know my friends better than I do. You could be right, EVERYONE I KNOW could be a fake. Possible. Definitely. Likely? Not very much at all. Anyway, I'll re-state again: I am appreciative of your insight and perspective. It helps me look at things in a different light and go, "Oh, hey, here's a new perspective that most people probably follow." But at the end of the day, I shrug and go, "Well, that's fine and good, it just doesn't sound right in my situation." This thread as well as the other (and some convos with my friends) has led me to change a number of my opinions on this matter, and that was why I started the threads in teh FIRST place--to learn new stuff, see new perspectives, and see what I would alter in my own beliefs. But there are some key aspects of who I am that just don't change, you know? This has been an educational thread. Sorry if I don't seem appreciative for the opinions/advice the whole throughout, I just like pressing the issue so that people will tell me more and more of their side of things, thus enabling me to potentially learn more and more. It's been a good thread, I apologize for any bitterness, it was unintentional, I'm merely thirsty for learning more of the world around me. I'm sure some of you guys will hear about my 'adventures' in college with girls as time goes on. Well, I'm done here, then. Thanks for your time, guys. |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6340 days Last view: 6340 days |
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| Yea, I almost forgot the double damage badge!
I think I'll add that to my checklist. But no, see, I don't want to limit my abilities/stats in that type of way (never upgrading FP). Then I can't do anything! I want to be able to use any attacks/abilties, just limit certain aspects. Like, Mario should be as buff as he would be, I'll just make some other elements restricted. Thanks for the ideas. I need to remember how to get Double Pain so I can get it really early. |
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