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Silvershield   580                  Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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| I find myself labeling all females - well, all girls my age, at least - as utterly untrustworthy. The development of my first and only girlfriend being unfaithful, coupled with my soon-after move to college, has quite honestly frightened me. At school, it seems, cheating and infidelity are just a matter of fact. I know a considerable number of people, mostly girls, who have an attitude regarding relationships that really turns me off of the sex as a whole. It's a sort of mentality that, as long as one's significant other is not aware of any infidelity, it's perfectly acceptable. Even encouraged, maybe, since the nightly hookup seems to be a cornerstone of the social scene.
I've met few attractive girls - attractive not solely in a physical sense, but in any respect - who stray from the norm. I could not trust my heart to someone who sees nothing wrong with declaring her love for me while, at the same time, doing God know what with God knows who. I've seen it at least twice in my first semester: someone laments their troubled relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend back home, but takes every opportunity to hook up or sleep with a mess of other people at school. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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Originally posted by ZiffHah, if I were told that only a single person here is on the same page as I am regarding relationships, I would've guessed it would be you  .
What really disgusts me the most is the lack of any guilt whatsoever when people commit acts that are flagrantly unacceptable. One girl frequently gets upset that things are not working out with her boyfriend at home, but she's been with at least two guys (that I'm aware of) at school. And then she freaks out when she gets the feeling that her boyfriend at home is cheating as well. Another girl has actually transferred to a different school so that she can be with her boyfriend, even though she's been with a number of guys in his absence. And they are in a declared monogamous relationship. Most revolting of all is my roommate - a guy that I'm really fond of, but with whom I share absolutely no sense of values - who is also involved with a girl back home (in Texas, mind you, while we're attending school in New York state). He's had a number of sexual partners while he's been here in the Northeast and, not only does he hide them from his girl in Texas, but he keeps them unaware of each other. Even though he's with all of them at the same time. And then he gets upset when he catches wind of his girlfriend's cheating back home. Honestly, it feels inescapable. It feels like everyone's doing it. My other roommate's girl - not his formal girlfriend, though they are close enough that she could be considered off limits - tried to get with me one night at a bar. My roommate wasn't there because he is getting over mono and isn't allowed to drink yet, and I was there just to make sure everyone got home safely (because I don't drink at all). She tried to convince me to hook up with her, thinking it would be alright because "he wouldn't have to find out about it." |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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| If you're so terribly in love with this person, how do you even bring yourself to become involved with someone who is not him?
I'm not condemning the action, but maybe it's wise to first reassess your own feelings. If your profile's accurate, you're only 16 years old; admittedly, my own first relationship began at that age, and I had no doubt in my mind that we'd be together forever. (Needless to say, that relationship has since ended.) If you really feel like you're in control of the situation, more power to you. Otherwise, take a moment (or an hour) to sit down and think through the process you use to justify physical involvement with someone whom you're not emotionally attached, all the while professing genuine love for someone else. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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| It always baffles me when, given a hypothetical situation in which a set of specific options are provided, more people make up their own choice than choose one of those given. Is it so difficult, people, to understand that the purpose of this or any similar question is not to find out how you'd handle the literal circumstances? It's supposed to reveal something on a larger scale.
A while back, a topic came up asking whether one would rescue a drowning dog or a drowning man, given the ability to save only one. In a show of glaring, ludicrous stupidity, about ten times as many people remarked that they'd save both - often through some detailed account of the specifics of the strategy that would allow both dog and man to be rescued - as answered the question as it was intended. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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| My parents were among the most loving I've ever seen. I got all the attention I could've ever asked for as a child. But I still got my ass kicked when my behavior called for it.
Now, I don't encourage wanton brutality against misbehaving kids, but a spanking (or something more, if the situation calls for it) is a useful and acceptable tool in disciplining a child. If he says a bad word, a bit of soap in the mouth goes a long way, or if he hits his little brother, allow him to experience a bit of physical violence as well. It's not brutal or inhumane, it's necessary in raising a person who won't think he's entitled to everything and then some. But, when appropriate, shower the kid with all the love and affection he could ever ask for. |
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Silvershield 580  Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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To call corporal punishment (thanks to Rydain for that term, I couldn't remember it for the life of me  ) an example of the "eye for an eye" mentality is ultimately inaccurate, I think. In the case I outlined - that is, spanking a kid for hitting his little brother - a physical punishment just happens to be an appropriate measure. I wouldn't advocate breaking the kid's toys, for example, if he does the same to his sibling, nor would I expect a parent to curse at a child who's learned a new bad word.
Like I said before, my parents are among the most loving I've ever seen. My dad, while fairly aloof by nature, is an excellent father figure and I respect him more than anyone. My mom is his opposite, taking every opportunity to make sure that my brothers and I are made aware of her love for us. I kind of resent your opinion, max, that corporal punishment is a universal sign of bad parenting. If anyone I know deserves a child, it's my mother, who might as well have been born for the job. She's the most loving mother I know, but has the nerve to seperate her fondness for her children from the fact that, at times, her children do indeed screw up and unavoidably need some sort of punishment. My two siblings and I were physically disciplined when we were growing up, and I sincerely think we're better people for it. On the other hand, my ex-girlfriend was physically abused - note the difference in terminology - as a child, and she is displaying a number of problems to this day. There's a line between the two. Not even a fine line, just a definite distinction between what's acceptable and productive and what's unacceptable and brutal. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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Originally posted by Rom ManicMy ancestors were firmly established in Italy, Ireland, England, and other European countries at the time of the greatest black oppression (that is, slavery). I'm disgusted every time someone brings up the idea of a modern race or ethnicity being entitled to some privilege or allowance, at the expense of another race or ethnicity (usually white), based on the actions of each group's ancestors. I'm white, sure, but my ancestors didn't own slaves. And, even if they did, I don't deserve to be held accountable for my great great great grandfather's evil acts any more than my black neighbor deserves reparations for the trials of his great great great grandfather. Even if my ancestor "owned" his ancestor, I would balk at the notion of being associated in any way, beyond the irremovable ties of blood and heritage, with a centuries-ago slaveowner. In any case, I'm a white person, and I'm proud of it. That doesn't mean that I belong to the local chapter of the KKK, or that I believe myself to be of some superior race. It means whatever it means when a black person says that he's proud to be black, or a homosexual says that he's proud to be gay. Not everyone (read "every white person") is a racist, so quit the witchhunt. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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Originally posted by TommathyNo, because it's a term that generally doesn't apply to guys, but if you can come up with the male equivalent then it would certainly be appropriate to use. |
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Silvershield 580  Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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Originally posted by TommathyAnyone who says boys are supposed to "get play" and actually believes it is a moron. No virtuous person devotes him- or herself to achieving the greatest number of sexual conquests he or she is able. Hell, forget about virtue, no reasonable person sets such a goal. A society that encourages the male to be as promiscuous as possible while encouraging a female of similar age to appear "virginal" is a flawed society. Though, I would argue that modern America (and the entire western world, for that matter) compels its young girls to be promiscuous just as thoroughly as its young boys. I know a fairly comparable number of guys and girls who have or have had multiple sexual partners, and neither of the two groups receive significantly more notice, either in the positive or the negative. To call a guy a "player" isn't a compliment, at least not as far as I've witnessed it. While the player may be renowned for his sexual prowess and experience, he's not admired for his strength of character. |
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Silvershield 580  Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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| I'm not at all politcally interested - not even politically informed, for that matter - but one issue I can take some sort of stance on is that of labor unions. It's painful to witness, first hand, a man struggling to keep his job of several decades in the face of his company's desire to eliminate higher-paid, more experienced workers. My dad drives a truck for a living, a less than glamorous job, yet he finds his weekly paycheck in jeopardy as his business cracks down on the labor union he belongs to. This is after he's been there for twenty-some odd years and is supporting two kids in college, with a third entering in two years.
So, yeah, I'm for unions. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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| Yeah, I don't need to be yelled at by this overzealous Neko fella, so I'll just contribute one tiny little idea:
Tommathy, I have legitimate respect for you for a number of reasons, but I take issue with your interpretation of life as a span in which each human would be wise to devote himself entirely to the pursuit of pleasure. I really don't think that's what it's all about, and anytime I hear the phrase "life life to the fullest" or something similar, I need to question its speaker's intent. Honestly, if each person were to devote himself to the hedonistic quest for pleasure in every aspect of life - whether through sex, or drugs, or any other questionable activity - do you not think it would injure the state of society? The state of humanity, even? I'm all for enjoying oneself, but I can't bring myself to agree that, in your words, "it is our responsibility to [...] squeeze every last drop of joy that we can out of [life]." Sometimes, the path that will bring about the greater good is not the path that will bring about the most pleasure for oneself. Now, naturally, that's not to say that to have casual sex will cause an orphanage to explode, but I can't help but perceive it to be an absurdly selfish and immoral goal to live life solely for pleasure. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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| Unless we were all to agree on life's ultimate "goal" - and, it's easy enough to see that we're not about to do that - I don't feel like I could make any progress to continue with what seems to be the developing theme of this thread. I'll leave my input at this: sometimes, when I see how certain people live their lives, I feel disgusted. It may be for any of a million reasons, from an excessively hedonistic streak to the more obvious crime of outright disregard for one's fellow human. But, it is not my place to act as any sort of influencing force on that person, beyond the act of voicing my own opinion and leaving it open to either acceptance or rejection. If that person's actions are really so wrong - whatever "wrong" is - he will be subject to a fitting afterlife. Or, at the very least, his survivors on Earth will remember him in a suitably negative way.
Switching gears, I just feel like responding to the original poster by submitting my own reasons for living life as I do. Specifically, regarding sex. Now, I'm not a virgin because I'm a hideously ugly social outcast who can't "get any." I'm no ladies' man by any stretch, but the opportunity has presented itself and I have consciously rejected it. My reason is at least idealistic, if not totally naive. Like most people, I intend to get married someday and live the "typical" American life, and I earnestly feel as if my body is the one unique and priceless gift that I can give to the person I finally fall in love with. Certainly that sounds, as I cautioned, either idealistic or completely naive - maybe outright stupid, or sappy - but it's a value I hold dear. I abstain, not because I think sex is evil or immoral, but because I feel like, in a way, to give it up to someone now would be to cheat on my eventual wife. She hasn't asked me to save myself for her - I probably haven't even met her yet - but I'd like to think that she'd appreciate it. And, if she's compatible enough with me to marry me, I'm sure she will appreciate it. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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| For whatever reason, I wasn't in all that much pain at all when mine got yanked. Granted, only two needed to come out, but it was nowhere near as terrible as I'd been made to expect. The laughing gas was quite an experience (though some people get sedated while others only receive novacaine), and I remember my main problem being the massive bleeding afterwards. I only took the prescribed painkiller once, and later realized that I really wasn't even feeling mild discomfort, so I didn't have to resort to it again.
If not for the blood (which lost me a good pillowcase or two), and the accompanying need to frequently change the gauze and occasionally gargle salt water, it wouldn't have been much of a problem at all. Your mileage will certainly vary. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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Originally posted by WurlFirst of all, Whirl, it's Silvershield. 
And who ever said I threw them away? By "lost," I mean I had to stop using them for their original purpose (as pillowcases) and instead begin wearing them as t-shirts, to display my sheer masculinity to the masses. Note that I did all this while chewing on nails and punching small animals in the face. Yes, I am that hardcore. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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Originally posted by WurlOk, ok, hardcore it is. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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| I have to disagree with the popular sentiment that it's "reasonable" to reach the custom title requirements with only casual posting. As it is, I only respond to a thread that I feel like I can contribute something of value to; I tend to avoid those silly "Hey, this is what I do/like/feel, what do you do/like/feel?" because they tend towards nothing more than long lists of individual posters wandering in, jotting down their three sentences, and strolling out without adding much of interest. Give me a good discussion any day - otherwise, I'd rather sit out. But I still think of myself as a relatively intelligent and respected(?) member.
In any case, I had a title way back when, why can't I get one now? I'll never reach 2000 posts, maybe not even a thousand, so I'm kinda bummed. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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Originally posted by ArwonYeah, not to second guess you, but I think you'd struggle to find a single pro-lifer who doesn't support abortions in the case of threat to the mother. Even the Vatican, the Catholic authority on this and essentially all matters, makes an allowance when the mother's life must be sacrificed to save the child's; in such instances, it is not immoral to trade one life for the other, if such a trade had to be made no matter what.Originally posted by Jin Dogan |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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Originally posted by KoitenshinThat is hardcore. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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Originally posted by ArwonDefinitely, but it's often promoted with the intent of allowing the survival of the individual. That is to say, by creating a strong community, the evolutionary benefit is that each specific member of that community reaps greater benefit in terms of survival chances. But among modern humans, I'd argue that an individual is afforded no greater chance of passing on his genes as a social butterfly than as a bona fide hermit. Except, of course, that a hermit has nobody to pass them on with, but you get what I'm saying... In any case, the mental capacity of humans is so advanced relative to that of lower animals that we don't really rely on the tenets of the "survival of the fittest" theory any more. Obviously, as has been pointed out, medical technology allows even the most severely unfit to survive and even to pass on their genes, but I don't perceive that as a general weakening of the species. Any physical or genetic disability can be overcome by the products of the human brain, I think. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 5920 days Last view: 5908 days |
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Originally posted by ||bassNo, it means survival of those whose traits most fittingly match the environment in which they live. A mouse on steroids will not survive if obtaining food relies on running a maze. Likewise, even early humans did not survive on strength of body alone, but by perceiving the habits of prey animals, discerning healthy plants from dangerous ones, understanding weather and climate, etc. Surely a muscular hunter could more easily bring down his target or could physically best a rival when seeking a mate, but humans are definitely not a species that has or currently does rely on physical strength to an enormous degree and above all else. |
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