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Stalle Red Goomba                  Since: 11-20-06 From: Atlanta, GA Last post: 6343 days Last view: 6343 days |
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| I'm not trying to be offensive towards your obviously smart female members, but I'm really at a loss for why a majority of females cannot be in a relationship with someone who simply loves and respects them.
I've been through three relationships in the past three or so years.. Each lasting about a year and each ending the same way. Cheated on and left for someone who treats them like complete shit. I just really don't understand it.. I'm smart enough to realize that I used to have some serious personality flaws that could've caused problems with the previous two exes.. but I took some time to correct those before beginning a new relationship with my most recent ex.. Long story short.. she just simply couldn't respect and love me because I respected and loved her. I'm not asking for a wife. I'm not asking for some sort of love story.. I just want a normal relationship with someone who can love me and not expect me to treat them like dirt. That's just not who I am, and if that's what it takes to achieve a "normal" relationship.. I just don't want one. |
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Thexare Metal battleaxe Off to better places    Since: 11-18-05 Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| Welcome to life, it doesn't make sense, and you picked the wrong forum. This should be in Officer's Club. Someone will move it though. | |||
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Stalle Red Goomba Since: 11-20-06 From: Atlanta, GA Last post: 6343 days Last view: 6343 days |
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| Feel free to move it wherever someone sees fit, It could really match up anywhere.
After looking through some of the other forum descriptions, I have to agree with you though.  |
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Danielle     6730 Administratorrrr HELLO THERE    Since: 11-17-05 From: California Rate me ^_^ Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| The only possibility I'm thinking of, other than the whole "that's life, it sucks" scenario, is that you're dating the wrong crowd. We all know there are two different kinds of people when it comes to relationships. I know it's not black and white, but eliminate the gray area for a moment to get the idea. There are the people that date because it keeps their confidence up, it keeps them from being bored, it gives them experience. Then there are the people that really do want a relationship, and go into it with a positive attitude and the promise of commitment. Maybe you're dating the first person, when you really should be dating the second person.
Or, you know, life could just suck. |
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Stalle Red Goomba Since: 11-20-06 From: Atlanta, GA Last post: 6343 days Last view: 6343 days |
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| That's some good advice..
I guess next time I decide to get involve with someone I should ask them up front what their intentions are going into it..  |
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ibz10g Spiny Since: 08-10-06 From: Altoona, Iowa Last post: 6324 days Last view: 6324 days |
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| My school influences what I know and believe. At my school, a lot of the girls want a nice, smart and caring guy. The problem is, these girls always go with the wrong guys who only want sex. Yeah, there are people like that in the world. It's weird, I know. So anyways, these relationships always end like crap. | |||
Valcion Knuckle Joe too much high power man  Since: 11-17-05 Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| mainly a confidence issue. Girls dig confidence and assholes are the way they are because they'vegot loads of it. | |||
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l0rca Since: 07-23-06 Last post: 6358 days Last view: 6301 days |
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Originally posted by Valcion This is true. Assholes have a confidence about them. Girls aren't so much after the asshole side, but at a young age I think, this is the only quality in most boys which carries much confidence. There is a charming confidence you might consider developing. Sometimes it comes with being erudite, sometimes it just comes with experience and simple self esteem. Women, like men, like other animals, will prey on a person who seems weak. |
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Clockworkz Birdon Since: 11-18-05 Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| EDIT: Tired of looking at my ineptitude. (edited by Clockworkz on 12-03-06 07:11 PM) |
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Tarale 2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| I've fucking had enough.
I've had enough of how every single time some guy posts on here about a bad relationship experience, several other male participants of the forum join in with sexist comments like the above. Just because you've had a bad relationship experience, is that reason to hate the the entire female population, to paint them all with the same brush? And the cunt comment -- that's real classy. How's somebody supposed to feel about an insult like that -- one that insults who a person is, something a person can't (easily) change? We don't get to choose prior to birth what gender we will be you know. Put the blame where it belongs -- on the individual that did you wrong -- not on all women. I am sick of the sexist crap that goes on in this forum. |
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Metal Man88 Gold axe It appears we have been transported to a time in which everything is on fire! Since: 11-17-05 Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| I would be inclined to agree that this sort of sexist junk is worthless; if you blame it on a gender, you may never fix problems with yourself that could be causing the problem. And from there comes the whole rant and stuff; it's not about the gender, a lot of it can be turned around in some way to reflect on the speaker. Either way, it's a bunch of hasty generalizations against something people can't change;
In short, sexism sucks. |
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Stalle Red Goomba Since: 11-20-06 From: Atlanta, GA Last post: 6343 days Last view: 6343 days |
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| I'm ashamed that this thread has attracted sexism in ANY way. It was 100% not my intent and am sorry for anyone it has hurt as a result of my posting.
I made this thread as a means of getting advice for moving on with my life and not making women feel bad for the actions of one. |
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l0rca Since: 07-23-06 Last post: 6358 days Last view: 6301 days |
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Originally posted by Tarale ++ |
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Arwon Bazu Since: 11-18-05 From: Randwick, Sydney, NSW, Australia Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6280 days |
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| Maybe you just got boring.
I'm serious, not trying to be insulting despite stating it in an inflammatory way. Most relationships end, especially when we're young, and so it's fairly certain you two just simply just weren't to be and ultimately, weren't compatible. Being nice and respectful doesn't guarantee you anything, but you seem to feel that it does, or should. You seem to think you were being the ideal boyfriend, and maybe for some girls you were... but seriously, just because you think you were being nice and respectful and blah blah blah doesn't mean you were what she needed and wanted at that time. I mean, look at this:
Much more likely that it simply wasn't working out any more, you two had passed your used-by date, and so it ended, as these things often do, in flames. Buck up, learn from it, there'll be others, try not to blame all women. It sucks that it ended in cheating as opposed to, say, a serious talk and a mutally amicable parting of ways, but then, we're all young and stupid here, so sometimes things don't work out that well. Cheating is often simply a sign that a relationship is over and should be ended. (edited by Arwon on 11-30-06 07:07 AM) |
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jeff Double metal axe  Since: 11-17-05 Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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Originally posted by Tarale okay, i see where you are coming from, and certainly understand your frustrations, but you are flipping out way too hardcore about this. look at the demographics of this forum. 1413 specified males, and 156 females, and not even all of those are actually correct in their specification(and don't even forget about the unspecifieds). still, that's 1 female to every 10 males. when you see a thread about a male's relationship problems, you should expect other guys to join in, and even some to say something hurtful. they've got bad experiences and they're left with a bitter feeling. don't you have the same feeling sometimes? i don't mean to personally offend you, but you should understand that this is exactly what it's like. not everyone in the world can stomach things in a respectable manner or remain as nice as you do. we're all different and we all respond to things differently. you've just responded the best way. clockworkz seems not to have. that or he's being sarcastic. what he said was so bad it has to be. re: confidence, i really don't see how this is sexist at all. everyone likes confidence in each other. you feel more alive around confident people because they seem important, and usually are important, and would have never been without their confidence. as far as the topic at hand, i'm not sure what you're asking for. based on my experience, people i've met seem to be seeking either a commitment or just someone fun. you might be looking for a commitment but being with people who want fun. ..and fuck, this just sounds like restating dani's post. goddamnit. |
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Danielle 6730 Administratorrrr HELLO THERE Since: 11-17-05 From: California Rate me ^_^ Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6279 days |
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Originally posted by jeff I'll find it in my heart to forgive you! |
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Clockworkz Birdon Since: 11-18-05 Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| This is gonna be long.
To start, I'd like to thank the Staff of Acmlm's for allowing me speak here. Firstly, I'd like to make a board-wide public apology to any and all people that may have been offended by my statements. I admit that it was in exceedingly bad taste, and mainly due to thoughtlessness brought by a combination of lack of sleep and a stomach virus. However, that is no excuse. My behavior, to all involved, especially to you, Tarale, was uncalled for, and I honestly say, with utmost sincerety, that I apologize very deeply. I do not blame you, I blame myself for my true meaing behind my rather cryptic and poorly thought out post being misunderstood. I am not trying to defend myself, for I know that I have done wrong, and I am on my hands and knees begging for you to forgive me. For those of you that have known me: You know that I'm not an ignorant, idiotic, unkind or otherwise heinos person. The same holds true for sexism. You may call me whatever you want; you can scream at me until your face turns blue, and you can stab me with sharp words, designed to cut and tear the delicate fabrics of my mental well-being. But no matter what slings and arrows are hurled at me, no matter what instruments you use to bludgeon me, I stand by my word, even if it costs me my life, that I... am not... a sexist. Whatever you have come to think of me, if I can't take that away from you with these words spoken from the heart, then I have no place here anymore. I consider the majority of you to be my friends, and I don't want to see that get ruined over something as mindless and as petty as this. ...Thank you for your time. |
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Tarale 2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| I'm going to leave this fairly short to try to avoid derailing the thread.
Thankyou for your apology. I am still a bit upset with you (given some of the arguments used in your discussion with me earlier) but I am not going to pursue this any further at this time. I hope that I will not see any more of the comments seen earlier in this thread. If anybody wishes to discuss the issues surrounding sexism, please do so in a different thread. |
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Ogama Dobe Rope  Since: 11-15-06 From: The Darkness of my Soul Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| Why do girls have to pull that "Not ready for a relationship" stuff? Because that happened to me, and I loved the one who did it to me with all my heart. I would've died ten times over for her. Yet she pulls that I haven't felt normal at all since then. I don't think she understood what kind of effect it had on me. | |||
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Tarale 2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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Originally posted by Ogama Dobe It's not just girls that do this. I have had men do this to me too. All I can say is that human emotion is a difficult thing, and it makes human relationships difficult too. At least she had the sense to know that she was not ready for a relationship rather than try to force one when she's not ready. In the end you have to know yourself, and do what is best for you, otherwise if you force something you're likely to make things bad for everyone. |
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