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Tarale    2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata                   Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6296 days Last view: 6296 days |
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| Ever since I got off my antidepressants nearly two years ago (and even though I'm back on different ones again now) I've been working a bit on self improvement. I want to be a better person.
When I was more seriously Depressed, I didn't care. Didn't care what I looked like, didn't care what anybody thought of me anymore, etc. But since the Depression's improved, I have cared about such things, and have been trying to be a "better person". Mostly I've been trying to lose weight, be more organised, etc. Things I've been trying specifically have of course been weight loss, exercise and diet (I've lost 24kg - 52.8lbs in the past 17 months, and I seem to have bought an acid reflux problem under control for the most part). I've been trying to be more organised with money and such; so that all bills get paid on time, and I've been saving for certain goals (I've managed to buy a bed; some furniture, a new computer, etc in this time, through saving). I've been trying to be a bit better with control of emotion as well, although this is hard with the Depression still a problem that has come back to bite me; apparently because I repress anger. I'm not sure how to deal with this one, as I don't want my anger to bother other people; partly why I think I repress it in the first place. 
I'm also thinking that at some point I need to look at some assertiveness training; because I think sometimes I can be passive-aggressive; which isn't good.
And I'm trying to learn PHP, which is a bit funny. I understand what I've learned; but seem to have difficulty tying together what I've learned to suit a useful purpose. However, as I seem to just now be coming out of a long-term period where I've had some fairly marked concentration and learning difficulties, this could be related to that... I also learn and understand stuff, only to forget it all five minutes later.... Are any of you trying to improve yourselves? What are you doing to do so? |
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Sweet Kassy Molassy Out of ice cream and PB. Would KILL for a milkshake right now.   Since: 06-17-06 From: LoozeeAnna Last post: 6296 days Last view: 6296 days |
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I'm working on getting my bulimia under control. I've been pretty good lately, but not perfect. I've gained some weight  I'm also going to try to REALLY finish school this year. We'll see how that goes... |
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Danielle 6730 Administratorrrr HELLO THERE   Since: 11-17-05 From: California Rate me ^_^ Last post: 6297 days Last view: 6296 days |
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| I've been trying to improve myself as well, which I suddenly decided to do this summer. Came out of nowhere, really... I didn't care for the longest time, for one reason or another.
I've cut out pretty much all sweets (except the occasional treat, if I'm out with friends and whatnot), stopped drinking regular soda, and greatly GREATLY reduced my coffee intake -- I used to drink 2-3 cups a day every day, but this summer I've probably only had 2-3 cups total. Woo. I've done a little bit of exercising, but I'm still just a tad too lazy to really go to the gym and work out. Despite that, I've still lost about 30 pounds since July 1 (ideally, I could lose a little more and be really happy with myself). I've also tried to improve myself in terms of the people I surround myself with -- I found some new friends that don't bog me down with unnecessary emo bullcrap every day. And these friends actually WANT to hang out with me, imagine that. I've tried to be a good friend, a good daughter, a good sister, a good aunt, etc. I think I'm doing pretty well here, too. Now with school starting, I want to keep my GPA up and do really well this year, apply to colleges on time, and have some options on where to go when next fall rolls around. That will be quite a challenge... but I'm going to try. Tarale, you amaze me with how you deal with everything in your life and still find ways to improve yourself. You've got to be the strongest person I know. Keep it up. 
I could also do with some assertiveness training, because I am definitely passive-aggressive... in pretty much everything I do. It's just how I am, I don't like to cause problems or encourage a potentially icky situation. Which can at times be good, but... most of the time it's not. =\ |
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Scatterheart Paratroopa Since: 11-18-05 From: Sydney, Australia Last post: 6320 days Last view: 6296 days |
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| I'm glad that there was a thread like this here.
Trouble in paradise for me. Just hoping it'll pass VERY soon. Some of you Officer's Club regulars might remember me from the last version of Acmlm's, where my posts flooded KT's Club for the Lonely Hearted. The good news, is that in two days, Jayde and I will have been together for 13 months. The bad news? If we make it that far, it might not last long after that. Two days ago, Jayde and I went bowling with my brother and his fiancee. My brother has the typical male "tough as shit" attitude, and it always bugged Jayde a bit. That night, my brother kept making fun of everyone. Jayde eventually snapped, and left, almost leaving me to walk home in the process. She drove me home, asked me to get out of her car, then drove off to think about things. I'm scared of work environments. I've had a couple of bad experiences... People pointing at me, smiling, talking to each other in their native languages about me...y'know. I'm the shy type. Me not working has really taken a toll on the relationship. Other things include smoking, not having a license (for travelling to work), and getting upset or angry when she talks to me about her being depressed and wanting to sleep forever. She doesn't know what's causing her depression. I don't know what to say to her, as I don't know the cause. I've asked her to maybe go see a therapist, but ofcourse, she got offended. Anyway! She basically broke up with me for about 24 hours, but even if we're kind of back together, it's still nowhere near the same as it used to be. She's only said "I love you" twice, once which was out of habbit. I'm trying my best to do and say everything right. I feel as if I've accomplished a lot so far... Here's hoping that it does something. I havn't smoked yet, and I've taken an online driver's license test a couple of times. 
Saying all of the right things is the most important thing, I think. Wish me luck. |
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Tarale 2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6296 days Last view: 6296 days |
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Originally posted by Danielle Uh... thanks I guess I try to improve myself as a way of coping though..
30 pounds is a lot to lose, so it sounds like you're doing well. Might I ask how much you intend to lose? If you don't like exercising much, there are ways to exercise without really feeling like you are too much -- I think all you really need to do is 30 minutes of something like walking a day, and that's enough And it doesn't need to be all at once, so that could be a bus stop early on the way to work... one on the way home... and a walk at lunch time 
Kasdarack -- I've never had bulimia, so I don't have much advice to offer you on this one Do you have friends or family that are supporting you with it? |
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Danielle 6730 Administratorrrr HELLO THERE Since: 11-17-05 From: California Rate me ^_^ Last post: 6297 days Last view: 6296 days |
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I would gladly walk to school or work or something, but both are waaayyy too far to walk to. My mom doesn't let me go out walking to myself when it finally cools down in the evening, either (she worries too much ). Now that school is back in session I'm walking more, but I'm also sitting on my ass in class more and eating more (3 meals a day again as opposed to 2). That's definitely a problem for me, because I have to eat breakfast if I want to function at all in the morning. In the summer I just slept through breakfast, but... that's not an option anymore. 
Maybe when it stops being 100 freaking degrees in the afternoon, I can start going on walks after I get home from school. What I really want is a bike, because I loved riding my bike as a kid... but I don't have one anymore and I'm not up for spending $300 on one. 
A few years ago, I was 5'7", and weighed 165. It would be awesome to be at that weight again, with the extra inch that I've grown since then. I just have to figure out how to get there. Hmm... |
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Tarale 2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6296 days Last view: 6296 days |
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| I dunno if this would work with your Mum, but it would work with mine -- ask her to come for a walk with you
If you get along reasonably well with your mother, it's a good chance to do something together, you both get fit in the process too
Course, that all depends on your Mum and your relationship with her |
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Danielle 6730 Administratorrrr HELLO THERE Since: 11-17-05 From: California Rate me ^_^ Last post: 6297 days Last view: 6296 days |
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| My mom and I get along great, but we don't have time... when she gets home from work, I'm usually leaving to work, and I leave for school at the crack of dawn so we can't do it in the morning either. Perhaps on weekends, but that also depends on my work schedule. =\
If I can just figure out a way to exercise a little more, I'd be happy. I really want a bike. |
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Sweet Kassy Molassy Out of ice cream and PB. Would KILL for a milkshake right now. Since: 06-17-06 From: LoozeeAnna Last post: 6296 days Last view: 6296 days |
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| Well, no one in my family really knows about it. I can tell people online because I don't have to worry about you thinking badly of me for it. My ex girlfriend knows, and she's good about calling me and making sure I'm okay when she gets the vibe that I'm not doing well. She saved me from having a nasty panic attack today. But she's an ex g/f and gone away to another school now so I don't really have anyone directly supporting me. I just try to go out and be with friends and be happy. The last month or so has been pretty ok. | |||
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Tarale 2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6296 days Last view: 6296 days |
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| Well, you're lucky you have her support with this. I hope she's able to help you out when things get bad with this stuff.
I was naughty today... I had a little binge on some cake. Oh, it was so tasty.... but I'm not used to the sugar and it went straight to my head! |
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