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Vyper

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Since: 11-18-05
From: Final Fantasy Fire

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Posted on 08-07-06 07:11 PM Link
So I'm heartbroken again, go figure. I put it all out on the line and she just didn't do the same for me. And that was what I was really looking for.

But life moves on. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right?

Tell us your stories of grievances and miscomings that you're recovered from to become a better person. Go ahead. Lay it all out on the table
ziffhasnoaim/password

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Posted on 08-07-06 07:40 PM Link
Last year. That's my giant grievance of life.
witeasprinwow









Since: 12-29-05

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Posted on 08-07-06 07:42 PM Link
I try to look at things this way:

If things didn't go as planned, at least I had the balls to put myself out on the line, and got my failure over with, instead of living in limbo, not risking failure but therefore not succeeding, and never knowing what might have happened if I did try.

Probably my biggest problem is overcoming that problem in and of itself. I had no great failures, because I never used expose myself to the risk of failure; And as such I had no great successes, either. I am slowly getting over this, and starting to take hold of my life, but it is no small task to reverse ~18 years of precedence.

I am determined to become better than the rest, though.
jeff

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Posted on 08-07-06 08:17 PM Link
Originally posted by Vyper
So I'm heartbroken again, go figure. I put it all out on the line and she just didn't do the same for me. And that was what I was really looking for.

But life moves on. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right?

Tell us your stories of grievances and miscomings that you're recovered from to become a better person. Go ahead. Lay it all out on the table

well, you're sixteen right? it shouldn't be too bad for now. be glad you made the mistakes young. besides that, no man should really lay himself on the line so young. you shouldn't expect any women to. if i weren't so happy being a nerd, i'd be out getting laid every day.

and besides that, she put out, so everyone's a winner.

(edited by jeff on 08-07-06 07:22 PM)
Tarale

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Since: 11-17-05
From: Adelaide, Australia

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Posted on 08-07-06 09:30 PM Link
Ugh... the whole "she put out so everyone's a winner" thing really disgusts me. The fact that Vyper has mentioned he's "heartbroken" seems to say to me that he had a deeper connection with this girl than just that. Sure, sex is enjoyable, but I really dislike the way people cheapen more meaningful experiences with "at least she put out". It was probably worth more than that.

But yeah, as for experiences that have been bad that I have "bounced back" from and that have I guess made me a better person...or at least who I am today...
  • Lost my father when I was 14, when he passed away due to septaemia
  • Lost my grandfather that same year; to lymphoma
  • Was raped by somebody I trusted when I was 16
  • Was suspended from high school for smoking weed later that same year
  • Lost my other grandfather to a stroke on New Year's Day 1998
  • Got into an abusive relationship
  • Got out of the abusive relationship and was stalked
  • Developed Clinical Depression (2002)
  • Got into another abusive relationship
  • Left abusive relationship and again was stalked
  • Discovered that my ex has racked up $37,000 of debt under my name and have had legal procedings against me for it
  • Lost my right ovary due to a very large, septated cyst
  • Got into an awkward "relationship" and had my heart broken when I realised he wasn't really interested in me
  • Was blackmailed by my ex in relation to the debt (ongoing)
  • Relapsed into Clinical Depression (ongoing)


And a bunch of other things I'm sure. Without all that I wouldn't be who I am, but I dunno if it's all for the "better" or the worse.... you can't really tell....
Vyper

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Since: 11-18-05
From: Final Fantasy Fire

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Posted on 08-07-06 09:39 PM Link
Yeah, I thought I had a stronger connection with this girl, but obviously, that didn't last long

As for sex, it only happened once. And it wasn't very good

People like you inspire me, Taryn. You've overcome so much in your life and you're still standing. Good for you
jeff

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Posted on 08-07-06 10:01 PM Link
Originally posted by Tarale

  • things i wouldn't wish on anyone

well, you don't know me much so it's okay, but my post was sarcastic(or at least the last few sentences were).
just remember the rule of my posts: if anything sounds like i'm being an ass, i'm being sarcastic. btw you're dumb lolol.

aside from that, wow. that's one hell of a not quite success yet you're still a good person story. i'm amazed you haven't gone insane from it. you're such a nice gal, it kind of makes me mad to hear people did crap like that to you.

(edited by jeff on 08-07-06 09:01 PM)
(edited by jeff on 08-07-06 09:04 PM)
Tarale

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Persona non grata


 





Since: 11-17-05
From: Adelaide, Australia

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Posted on 08-08-06 04:13 AM Link
How do you guys know I haven't gone insane?

But yeah, I guess no matter what happens, you CAN bounce back from it. I dunno.... things like a lot the stuff I've mentioned leave you forever changed, but you can always move on with life. It's amazing actually... how things can change you, but you're also still the same person.

But yeah, this whole experience will change you too, Vyper, in its own little way. Maybe you'll be more cautious with laying things on the line, or maybe not. Only time will tell
Yoronosuku

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Since: 11-17-05
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Posted on 08-09-06 11:30 AM Link
Where to begin, where to begin...hope you don't mind if I borrow your idea of list format Tarale ^^

  • Grew up with an abusive father. He treated mom like dirt and would beat/threaten to kill me if I ever told anyone what he did.
  • Never had many friends as I was often just used due to my kind, trusting and naive manner. People I trusted betrayed and hurt me.
  • Dealt with being a burden to my entire family, and left the country hoping I'd ease their problems.
  • Finding out I had 3 illegitimate siblings, one of whom is now the only person I truly trust in the world these days.
  • Was used by a once trusted female aquaintence for sexual gain but got out of it before anything actualy happened.
  • Had dad literaly force me in to oraly pleasuring his friend.
  • Still feeling ashamed and dirty more than a year after the fact.
  • Having no one ever truly take me seriously or believe me, and just living life out of the way of everyone who I'm inconveniencing.
  • Being homesick and knowing you were never really welcome there.
  • Bottling everything up so I don't burden people with all my problems. Which is just what I'm doing now..
  • Putting on an act and acting like everything is fine so people won't have to worry. No one is really this happy all the time. Don't let me fool you.

    • That was longer than I thought it would be. Well, Vyper's right I guess, what dosn't kill you makes you stronger...heh ^^ I'm sure glad no one has to go through such terrible things, too.

    (edited by Yoronosuku on 08-09-06 10:32 AM)
    Black Lord +

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    Since: 11-17-05
    From: Where indians still roam...

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    Posted on 08-09-06 01:24 PM Link
    Women just want your money.

    On a more seroius note, sucks dude, at least she let you off early and didn't lead you to believe you had something, and then let you go (what I'm fearing is gonna happen to me). You'll find someone eventually ( I think ). Just make sure they're into video games too, and I've found the nerdy ones are the best too ( not just as girlfriends but in the sack too ).
    Vyper

    Kodondo
    Raging Venom








    Since: 11-18-05
    From: Final Fantasy Fire

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    Posted on 08-10-06 10:00 PM Link
    This is fucked up. Now she's saying she's all depressed because she hurt me. She said the reason she was distant was because she was getting attached to me and was scared of being hurt.

    I really do love her, and I want to get back with her, but I just don't know what I should do. My dad thinks she's just leading me on for more shit down the line, but I'm really in love. I need some advice...
    witeasprinwow









    Since: 12-29-05

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    Posted on 08-10-06 11:28 PM Link
    I can't make your decision for you - you have to do that - but there is one piece of advice I've learned from this:

    If you do get back together with her, be on your toes. I don't know if she's intentionally leading you on, but even if she isn't doing it intentionally, it might be the end result of the relationship. Don't go setting yourself up to get hurt.
    Black Lord +

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    Since: 11-17-05
    From: Where indians still roam...

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    Posted on 08-11-06 02:34 AM Link
    Well, I'd like to look at it this way, if she had the guts to call of the relationship once, even if it was for a stupid reason, it just makes it easier to do it again.

    I like to think breaking up isn't just something that happens out of the blue, one of the parties involved does a lot of thinking about it, and if you get back together, whatever it was that caused the first breakup will be in the back of her head all of the time....

    I guess I just said what wite said, only a wee bit longer. Girls can be really evil sometimes, so beware.
    Tarale

    2710
    Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!!
    Persona non grata


     





    Since: 11-17-05
    From: Adelaide, Australia

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    Posted on 08-11-06 05:04 AM Link
    Originally posted by Black Lord +
    Girls can be really evil sometimes, so beware.


    Boys can be too

    I doubt it's "evilness" anyways, sounds more like confusion. Sounds like she's really not sure what she wants / is a bit scared of the whole "relationship" thing, but still likes and respects you.
    Vyper

    Kodondo
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    Since: 11-18-05
    From: Final Fantasy Fire

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    Posted on 08-11-06 02:56 PM Link
    Ok, what happened was I broke up with her because I was the only one that put any effort into the relationship. I bought her things, took her places, did anything she wanted. For the first two and a half months, she was great, she showed me affection and interest and everything was great. Then she started to get distant becuase she was afraid to get hurt. But the affection and caring and everything just stopped, and I couldn't take not getting anything out of it anymore. Last time I checked, a relationship is supposed to be 50/50. Right? Well it was more like 100/0........

    My dad thinks she's just pulling my strings and is eventually going to humiliate me to get even for breaking up with her in the first place. Like BlackLord said, evil. I want to trust my dad because he's my dad and he's always been there to give me good advice. Yet at the same time, I love Tara and want to trust her.

    Either way, I'll be optimistic but at the same time prepared for the worst.

    Thanks for the advice so far
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    Since: 05-08-06

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    Posted on 08-12-06 06:33 PM Link
    Originally posted by Vyper
    Last time I checked, a relationship is supposed to be 50/50. Right? Well it was more like 100/0........

    The only 50/50 relationships are divorce.
    Vyper

    Kodondo
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    Since: 11-18-05
    From: Final Fantasy Fire

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    Posted on 08-12-06 07:41 PM Link
    The sad thing is that it's often true.

    Anyway, I'm through playing her games. She just keeps stringing me along. She tells me she's all depressed because she doesn't want to hurt me, yet she does it all the fucking time. So fuck her

    Besides, now I can worry about me and not have to throw how I feel out the window to make someone else happy. And I don't have to spend money on her anymore

    (edited by Vyper on 08-12-06 08:02 PM)
    Wurl









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    Posted on 08-15-06 12:24 PM Link
    Originally posted by Vyper
    As for sex, it only happened once. And it wasn't very good


    Well, three inches only goes so far.
    Vyper

    Kodondo
    Raging Venom








    Since: 11-18-05
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    Posted on 08-15-06 06:21 PM Link
    Originally posted by Wurl
    Originally posted by Vyper
    As for sex, it only happened once. And it wasn't very good


    Well, three inches only goes so far.
    Don't even get me started. I'll fucking prove to you you're wrong (or I would if I didn't get banned for it). I could only get two fingers in there... and my penis? I maybe got it half in, if that. And everytime she gave me oral she gagged (which happened maybe 5 times?). Not to mention she could never finish :/

    I realize you're trying to use sarcasm to your advantage, but I have to expose your lies
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    Posted on 08-15-06 06:39 PM Link
    i sense insecurity issues
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