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Pyris Goomba                   Since: 07-05-06 From: Chicago Last post: 6513 days Last view: 6513 days |
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| Big bad hairy sticky situation. My girl is just too damn nice.
She always puts everyone before herself. You cant hate her. You cant be sad or mad around her. Its like shes got a little good atmosphere that she drags around with her. And of course this will be my downfall within the next twenty four hours. Why you ask? Its very simple. Her good friend of 10 years recently has become interested in dating me. And that STUPID ANNOYING LITTLE BUBBLE OF HAPPY THAT FLOATS AROUND MY GIRL ALL THE TIME KICKED IN. So of course, she feels sorry for her friend, and doenst want to make her sad, and doesnt want to lose her friend or somesuch. So, she all of a suddent doesnt think im such a good idea because of her friend, who I also cant be mad at because than MY girl would get angry, or a least her DAMN HAPPY BUBBLE. So I talk to her friend. She sais she doesnt care. A few minutes later, a mutual friend calls me, and starts yelling at me, yelling "what did you do to her, you f***ing arsehole, you stupid fag**t, shes crying to me on the other line" or somesuch. Anyways, the issue is, that as soon as my girl finds out about how upset her friend is, im out on my arse, because she doesnt want to hurt her friend. Freakin happy bubble. Break my a f**king give. -Pyris |
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pokerutoman Kabu   Since: 07-02-06 Last post: 6517 days Last view: 6517 days |
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| Well, don't worry, you'll find someone else. | |||
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Pyris Goomba Since: 07-05-06 From: Chicago Last post: 6513 days Last view: 6513 days |
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| Maybe someone can give me something more productive?? | |||
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pokerutoman Kabu Since: 07-02-06 Last post: 6517 days Last view: 6517 days |
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Originally posted by Pyris Well sorry! I have girl troubles of my own. |
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Kingpin Since: 11-21-05 From: Amarillo, TX Last post: 6302 days Last view: 6295 days |
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Originally posted by Pyris What? Anyway, you didnt do anything wrong, you can't do anything to fix it. Tell your girlfriend to get over her "make everyone happy" deal because it makes everyone miserable. She obviously doesnt care much for you, or she wouldnt just break it off with you because her friend wants you. In the end, your better off, and its her loss. |
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Pyris Goomba Since: 07-05-06 From: Chicago Last post: 6513 days Last view: 6513 days |
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| True enough. I dont see who she thinks its benefiting to get rid of me. So im gonna get rid of her before she gets rid of me.
Peace. -Pyris |
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Sweet Kassy Molassy Out of ice cream and PB. Would KILL for a milkshake right now.  Since: 06-17-06 From: LoozeeAnna Last post: 6296 days Last view: 6295 days |
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| She sounds pretty ...neurotic to me. It's all well and good to care about other people and about what they think of you... but that's just asinine. And if she doesn't care about you enough for anything like that to matter... to hell with it. She sounds pretty immature to me.
I'm not trying to be an ass, just calling it like I see it. I hope it works out for you and everything turns out fine. But if it doesn't she's not the person you want to be with anyway. |
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witeasprinwow Since: 12-29-05 Last post: 6405 days Last view: 6405 days |
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| She is being crazy. You recognize that, I recognize that, we all recognize that.
Basically, you can either try and talk it out with her, and be completely honest about it all. This may or may not work. Or, you can just let the relationship end. It's your decision. Sometimes in life, people will get mad or upset or sad, no matter how much you do. She obviously cannot handle that reality right now. |
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HRBEK Micro-Goomba Since: 07-04-06 Last post: 6478 days Last view: 6478 days |
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| The 'plenty more where that came from' perspective is the wrong one. If she was the right girl for you, talk over the matter with her. Be as serious as is humanly possible, and tell her that you only want to be with her. Tell her that, it is the choice of the individual, whether or not they wish to have a crush on you. Tell her that you respect the fact that someone may have a crush on you, but you do not want to be dating everyone who happens to like you all of a sudden. Regardless of whether they are good friends or not.
Tell her not to forget, that you want her, and times like these make relationships very confusing. Lol, my girlfriend is like that too (as in she is kind to everyone, and has the 'turn that frown upside down' attitude), but I don't think she would take too kindly to me dating other girls. Talking to her alone, would be your best option, and really letting you know what your opinion of the situation is. Do not hold back either... Thanks, HRBEK. |
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witeasprinwow Since: 12-29-05 Last post: 6405 days Last view: 6405 days |
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Originally posted by HRBEK I think you are misunderstanding the situation. She is not just "bubbly," she is going to break up with him because if she doesn't her friend will be mad, and she doesn't want that. She is letting other people decide her life. It is the fact that her friend has a crush on him that upsets her; anything else doesn't matter, because she is already upset. Unless he can somehow convince her to change her entire outlook in the series of a few conversations, it isn't going to work. Also, this guy is 14... Nobody knows who the "right girl for you" is at that age. They're just fucking getting started. |
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Pyris Goomba Since: 07-05-06 From: Chicago Last post: 6513 days Last view: 6513 days |
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| Ummm ya the friend who wants to date me...asked me out...I said I was taken...and she went off and sobbed on the phone to my girl for an hour...who dumped me...what a bitch (EXCUSE ME MODS, TERRIBLY SORRY) | |||
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witeasprinwow Since: 12-29-05 Last post: 6405 days Last view: 6405 days |
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Originally posted by Pyris Welcome to the world of women. Many of them are indeed crazy. I don't think calling her a bitch will get you in any mod trouble in this situation. Just out of curiousity, now that you're dumped, is the friend going to ask you out again? |
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ziffhasnoaim/password Snifit Since: 06-07-06 Last post: 6487 days Last view: 6487 days |
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| You're only 14. Consider this a learning experience and put off dating for a while. | |||
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Pyris Goomba Since: 07-05-06 From: Chicago Last post: 6513 days Last view: 6513 days |
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| I doubt it... of course, now shes sorry and thinks its her fault...this would make a good episode of that 70's show, or the OC or something like that. | |||
Sabishii Red Paragoomba Since: 02-26-06 From: Georgia Last post: 6463 days Last view: 6463 days |
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| While I can understand being upset about her friend liking you and I can understnad not wanting to hurt a friend (doubly so if it's her best friend), I don't think either of them consider the awkwardness this whole mess could bring. It's awkward to date a friend's dude even if they've broken up and you have her blessing.
Don't date the friend if she asks again, it'll only cause a whole other mess of problems. Girls at your age seem to have a talent for causing themselves imagined misery. I'd walk away from the whole mess and just find someone new or leave the whole dating thing alone for now. At that age, it seems like people change significant others more often than they change underwear. Have fun with it for now, it's not worth the drama. |
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Kingpin Since: 11-21-05 From: Amarillo, TX Last post: 6302 days Last view: 6295 days |
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| Oh, I didnt realize he was 14. Yeah, wait till you grow up. Your just a kid. Pretty much every relationship around your age is shortlived and ultimately pointless. | |||
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witeasprinwow Since: 12-29-05 Last post: 6405 days Last view: 6405 days |
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Originally posted by Sabishii Oh my fucking god, this is SO extremely true. I could not have worrded this better. Hell, I'd say with some girls this persists even through high school. I wouldn't tell him to not date, though. He has to build up experience with the opposite sex sometime, or else he'll grow up to be a 20 year old boy. Just don't take it too seriously. Keep in mind that you aren't gonna marry any of these girls. |
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Pyris Goomba Since: 07-05-06 From: Chicago Last post: 6513 days Last view: 6513 days |
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| Hey hey hey, can we PLEASE stay away from the ageism? Just because I'm 14 doesnt make me less of a person, and I date girls for the exact same reasons that the rest of you all do, minus marriage.
Anyway, its over now. And thinking about it now, it was bound to happen. |
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Sabishii Red Paragoomba Since: 02-26-06 From: Georgia Last post: 6463 days Last view: 6463 days |
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| Definitely continues in high school, but that's when you begin to seperate the drama queens from the rest of us.
This reminds me of a joke article I read once on translation of the male language to the female language. "What's wrong, sweetheart?" came out as "What self inflicted imaginary trauma have you caused youself now?" You need the social experience, very true, but I find that there is no distinguishing the drama from anything decent at that age. It's all puppy love that everyone winds up regreting and being embarrassed about. Maybe I'm odd, but I try to imagine myself married to the guys I date and if I can't see it, I get out of it ASAP. I imagine the ideal boyfriend as being my best friend with benefits, but under a title and a husband to be a boyfriend under a legal title. I was never able to find personal justification in dating for "fun" or in dating multiple people, so I can't offer any advice there. |
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Pyris Goomba Since: 07-05-06 From: Chicago Last post: 6513 days Last view: 6513 days |
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| 9th grade dating is not "puppy love" when you are living through it. Thats like sharing a soda at a park somehwere. THATS puppy love. It just seems like puppy love when you are older. I bet that when you were in 9th grade you didnt consider your dates to be puppy love, did you now?
There is little difference between 9th grade dating and 30 year old dating. We go out on dates, we get together for breakfast, lunch, dinner, movies, plays, theatre, sports, etc. We do physical things as well, and I dont mean sitting on a couch cuddling (lol). IMHO, it only seems like puppy love looking back on it 20 years later. It doesnt seem like puppy love to us. And than again, I think of my 3rd grade proposal to this girl was kind of embarrasing, so I can definately see where you are coming from. |
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