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Squash Monster Bouncy                    Since: 11-18-05 From: Right next to myself. Last post: 6305 days Last view: 6298 days |
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| For reference: I'm absolutely crazy about the girl in this scenario and have been for three years. In less than two weeks a whole bunch of stuff happens and, while I think I could hold onto a relationship with her through it all, I will not get to be with her if nothing has happened by then.
Anyway, she's sending mixed signals like crazy and I desperately need help figuring this out. Random events from this week that prove how mixed her signals are getting follow. Tuesday: Her: Wow, it's getting hot. I'm going to have to start wearing shorter skirts. Me: I'm sorry I'll be missing it. Her: Oh, that's right, you're not going to be here tomorrow. I'll have to wait until Thursday. (she wore a much longer skirt on Wednessday and a much shorter one on Thursday) When I mentioned her doing this on Thursday, she said something about how the skirt she was wearing was two layers, then hiked it up really high so I could see her thighs to prove her point Yesterday I was about to sign off my messanger because there was a lightning storm outside, and she told me to stay. She's only ticklish in three spots, and each is only known by one person. I've found two of those spots this week. This morning when I was trying to tickle her, she kept telling me not to. And then giving me a hint when I was about to give up. Today, I was petting the back of her head for some reason or another, and she hissed at me, then I tried again and she told me to stop in a tone that didn't sound as playful. There was an awkward silence for a while, and the next conversation we had she started talking about how strange the word "kiss" sounded. ...help? (edited by Squash Monster on 06-02-06 06:14 PM) |
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witeasprinwow Since: 12-29-05 Last post: 6406 days Last view: 6406 days |
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| I don't see how this is mixed signals at all. Is there significant stuff you're not posting? You just posted a lot of evidence to say that she wants you and almost none to say she doesn't. Still, it's sorta hard to tell if someone wants you from a tiny cross-section of your interactions. You have to look at the whole picture and all the little details, and you probably don't have time to type that up.
She probably doesn't like you petting her like a damn cat, which is why she hissed, instead of purring or something. See the metaphor? If you want to ask her out, go for it. Three years is sorta late to make a movie, but it doesn't seem like it's too late to her. What's the worst that can happen? Is she gonna run you through with a knife for daring to ask her out? I've done more awkward things than asking a friend out, I can assure you, and I am still intact. |
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Squash Monster Bouncy Since: 11-18-05 From: Right next to myself. Last post: 6305 days Last view: 6298 days |
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| Okay, yeah.
I was confused because she's never really seemed interested before, and always batted me away. But witeasprinwow just owned me, and I'm embarassed 'cause I'm a gorram idiot. Thanks man. ...now it's a shame I can't unpost threads. (As for the worst that can happen, well, I have asked her before, quite a long time ago, and that never worked. And while the fear of rejection has never been a problem to me with other girls (you lose that fear after a while in Improv (and trust me, you win the "most awkward moments" contests after a while in Improv too)), it's nearly paralyzing with this one. Ah well, I'm going to lose her if I don't do something so fear's a pretty damn dumb idea.) (edited by Squash Monster on 06-02-06 11:59 PM) |
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Skreename Giant Red Paratroopa Since: 11-18-05 Last post: 6303 days Last view: 6297 days |
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Originally posted by witeasprinwow From what I've seen (which isn't much), that whole thing seems rather hit-or-miss. There are some who appreciate it, some who don't enjoy it, and those who will go BERSERK on you for trying it. Kinda weird, really... I can understand the first two, but... yeah. Actually, I just piped in to say that. I'm really not good at the other stuff... |
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witeasprinwow Since: 12-29-05 Last post: 6406 days Last view: 6406 days |
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Originally posted by Squash Monster Sorry, I absolutely did not mean to try and cut you down or something... I just didn't understand. It seems like you are worried that her behavior isn't genuine; That she is playing you somehow, or that she will change her mind when you make a move. But really, at this point, what do you have to lose? It seems like you decided to ask her out, which I'd say is the right move. PS: Most awkward moment? At least you didn't wake up next to a platontic friend. I haven't touched grain alcohol since. PPS: I am tired as fuck and probably accidentally said something stupid here. I'll probably edit this post tommorow morning to make it more coherent. (edited by witeasprinwow on 06-03-06 12:23 AM) (edited by witeasprinwow on 06-03-06 12:23 AM) (edited by witeasprinwow on 06-03-06 12:38 AM) (edited by witeasprinwow on 06-03-06 03:15 PM) |
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Squash Monster Bouncy Since: 11-18-05 From: Right next to myself. Last post: 6305 days Last view: 6298 days |
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| Oof.
My most awkward moment? Wake up to find yourself massaging your friend's girlfriend's breasts. I haven't trusted that couple farther than I could throw them since. |
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Vyper Kodondo Raging Venom  Since: 11-18-05 From: Final Fantasy Fire Last post: 6314 days Last view: 6314 days |
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| Ask her to a movie or dinner or something. Don't say "Will you go out with me?" or anything like that. Be casual about it and ask her to a specific place/event/thing.
If she says yes, score one for you 
Ever seen the movie "Just Friends" with Ryan Reynolds? Friend zone sucks. Do your best to get out of it  |
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Cruel Justice I have better things to do. Since: 11-18-05 From: At my house! Last post: 6297 days Last view: 6297 days |
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| Just try to play around a bit. Use a playful tone of voice with her and say things like, "Why are you so mean to me!? Goooosh!". Or ask her, "How ya doin'?" or "What's the matter for you? Huh?". If she says good or something less than that say, "Not great!? You mean to tell me I spend this much time with you and you're not feeling great? I'm gonna give you a hardtime nexttime and if you're not feeling great then, I'm gonna have to spank you!". Just remember to smile when you say this so she doesn't think you're mad at her. | |||
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witeasprinwow Since: 12-29-05 Last post: 6406 days Last view: 6406 days |
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Originally posted by GGS Cruel Justice And this will solve the problem by...? (edited by witeasprinwow on 06-04-06 12:41 PM) |
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Thoughtless [Danielle] Thoughtless is my secret lover [Danielle] *flutters eyelashes* [Thoughtless] SECRET IS OUT I miss my two pussies :( (Part II) Since: 11-17-05 From: PR Last post: 6297 days Last view: 6296 days |
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Originally posted by witeasprinwow Apparently by spanking... Which is the only way to solve problems.
In seriousness. I agree with witeasprinwow on. Also, just don't read too much into signals. Many men have fallen victim to be imagining more than it is. Don't become paranoid and believe that just because she *sighed* and winked at a certain time she is interested or vice-versa. Trust me. It happens. Casual calmness is the key my friend. And, not to put GSS down but don't say what he suggested. That is just way too open for interpretation. Even if you smile, the context of "What's the matter for you? Huh?" seems a bit rough. And don't mention spanking. Just don't. Also, the smile proves nothing while saying these things. It could either mean 'I'm just playing around" or "I'm creepy like that" And we all know how much the girls like creepy guys. (edited by Thoughtless on 06-04-06 01:35 PM) |
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