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Clockwork JB Flurry                    Since: 02-12-06 From: Melbourne, Australia Last post: 6291 days Last view: 6291 days |
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| I fell in love with the only girl I ever liked, the only one who was ever nice to me. We went our seperate ways yesterday though and now I feel so empty. Nothing really feels like its worth it anymore. Why do I feel like this? (edited by Danielle on 05-10-06 09:00 PM) |
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Silvershield   580  Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 6292 days Last view: 6280 days |
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| You're only 15. I went through a shockingly similar experience at that age and, while I regret painting myself as some sort of wizened elder, I really do just have to advise you to get over it. It hurts, yeah. It really hurts, and it really sucks. And, if someone came up to me and told me to get over it, I would've been terribly angry. But, if you can muster the strength to just look past your current emotions and understand that you'll heal within two, maybe three weeks from now, you'll see that it's not really a big deal. That's not what you want to hear - hell, it's definitely not what I wanted to hear when I was 15 and I was beating myself up over a girl - but it's reality. | |||
Tarale 2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata  Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6280 days |
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| Yeah, sometimes stuff like this happens, and yeah, it doesn't matter if you're 15 or 25.
The thing to do is to concentrate on what else is going on in your life. There ARE other things going on in your life that are good and worth your time and attention, it's just at the moment you might be having trouble remembering what they are. So, have a look around you. What's going on? Anything happening with your friends at the moment? Going out anywhere? Work to do, etc? Games you haven't had the time to play, books to read, etc? Get out there and do it! It's one thing to say "get over it", but really there's no easy way to just "get over" something. In the meantime, just keep yourself busy, keep yourself social and give yourself lots of fun stuff to do. In time you'll feel better. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 6292 days Last view: 6280 days |
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Originally posted by TaraleAbsolutely. When I found myself in similar straits, the consensus among my friends was that I should simply put it behind me, but it's not easy. To be honest, I just sulked around the house for a few days. And, I'm still alive today, so it must've worked  .
Edit because straights does not equal straits. (edited by Silvershield on 05-09-06 06:34 AM) |
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Clockwork JB Flurry Since: 02-12-06 From: Melbourne, Australia Last post: 6291 days Last view: 6291 days |
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| It's just harder when it's the only girl who was ever nice to me. All the other girls I meet are total bitches, yet this girl was nice enough to distance herself from her friends to be with me. (edited by Danielle on 05-10-06 08:59 PM) |
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Danielle 6730 Administratorrrr HELLO THERE   Since: 11-17-05 From: California Rate me ^_^ Last post: 6281 days Last view: 6280 days |
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| It sounds like you were infatuated more than in love, simply because she showed you a courtesy you've never seen from a girl thus far.
Like SS said, you will be able to move on from this. Sure, it sucks now, but it's not the end of the world. There will be other girls, I promise you. |
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Clockwork JB Flurry Since: 02-12-06 From: Melbourne, Australia Last post: 6291 days Last view: 6291 days |
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| (Sigh)...
Love bites. With sharp, pointy fangs. (edited by Danielle on 05-10-06 08:59 PM) |
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Skreename Giant Red Paratroopa Since: 11-18-05 Last post: 6286 days Last view: 6280 days |
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| Fangs, claws, chainsaws... lots of things. I know it hurts, but... life's not over. I'm not going to tell you just to get over it; nor am I going to tell you to try to fill in the gap with something else. You mainly just have to remember that life still has meaning; you can still have happiness.
Just... be really careful. Situations like this are the ones in which people tend to be the most vulnerable. |
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Tarale 2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6280 days |
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| Hmmm... my suggestion wasn't so much about "filling a gap", it's about....
Generally nothing can actually really fill a gap left behind by a person who has made a significant impact upon your life. They will always be there in your heart. Everybody who touches your life in a profound way will leave such a mark on your heart. Usually such things wind up being a good thing... although it may not feel so at a time like right now. Keeping yourself busy while you're still hurting is a way of coping. It's okay to hurt, but if you're always caught up in those feelings you can get overwhelmed by them. If you're doing other things, you have opportunities to take your mind off of it, to give yourself some rest from the sadness. Not to mention it means that you will stay on top of anything you need to as well, like schoolwork or other life commitments. If you focus always on what's upsetting you, it can take control, and you can get overwhelmed by it. If you're able to remember -- even in difficult times -- to have balance in your life, chances are things will be easier for you to deal with, whether its relationship things, financial stuff, or whatever Life has decided to throw at you. And make sure you have friends around to give you a pep talk when you're feeling really crappy  |
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Clockwork JB Flurry Since: 02-12-06 From: Melbourne, Australia Last post: 6291 days Last view: 6291 days |
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| Thanks guys. I probably won't be able to get over this gitl fo a while, but at least it's not the end of the world. Maybe there will be another... | |||
Anya  Since: 11-18-05 From: South Florida Last post: 6283 days Last view: 6281 days |
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| You are human, its only natural to feel this way. It'll pass, but I know at this time you don't believe me.
Hey, the best feelings that are out there can make you feel like shit. But when you feel like shit and that happy feeling returns, it makes it feel that much better. |
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Grunkles Micro-Goomba Since: 06-12-06 Last post: 6487 days Last view: 6487 days |
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| Every woman I've ever met in my life (that I can recall) has been... truthfully, a complete and utter bitch to me. My mum starts off as the prime example. She is evil incarnate herself. Then from my group of friends, I've seen some pretty disturbing things from the girl side of the group. Stuff that makes you shake your head and wonder, "What the hell is wrong with these people?"
So, I pretty much go day to day witnessing one travesty after another. There is one girl though. She is brilliant, funny, kind, warm, and caring. Thing is, she lives in England. I spend a lot of time chatting to her over MSN (well, I did, until I told her that I loved her and never logged on again... but let's not go there today (laughs)). I guess the point I'm trying to get across here, before I blew all my help-giving credability, is that... Well, you should be happy that you had her company. Remember her with fondness. Just because she's moved away doesn't mean that you have to forget about her, or that you have to deny ever having liked her. Just know that she is gone now, and it is time to move on. That doesn't mean you have to put aside the impact she has had on your life. You do have to make sure it doesn't strike you immobile though. It's a tricky balance, but you seem to be doing alright. Hang in there. |
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Forte.EXE When life seems to get bad, just suck it up and deal with it!  Since: 11-18-05 From: Singe City, Ajiina (Davenport, Iowa) Last post: 6283 days Last view: 6281 days |
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| I can somewhat relate to your pain. Heh... love is a fickle thing. Also, fate has a way of controlling you, though you have control over your feelings. My first girl left me after I leanred her horrible truth.
The bitch tore my heart and left me in the darkness. Heh... never thought I woudl find another girl like her again, then I met Kristi, who today is my wife. I guess all I can say is that even if pain torments you, you should move on, and know that you still have other chances. One day the right girl will enter your life... |
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Danielle 6730 Administratorrrr HELLO THERE Since: 11-17-05 From: California Rate me ^_^ Last post: 6281 days Last view: 6280 days |
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In the future guys, let's check thread dates...  I'm sure he's over said girl by now. |
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