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Snow Tomato Snap Dragon                    Since: 12-31-05 From: NYC Last post: 6316 days Last view: 6301 days |
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| Okay. Confusion.
How do you know when a guy likes you? Preferably answered by guys.. but girls.. go for it. And I guess we can turn this the other way around to... how do you know when a girl likes you? There can be that fuzzy inbetween in a relationship.. when you first start hooking up or whatever.. and you don't know for sure. Just... how do you know for sure? Do you ever know for sure? Discuss. I'm interested. |
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Forte.EXE When life seems to get bad, just suck it up and deal with it!   Since: 11-18-05 From: Singe City, Ajiina (Davenport, Iowa) Last post: 6298 days Last view: 6296 days |
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| Hmm... well... a known way that a guy knows a girl likes him is when she is interested in some of the things they both like/dislike.
For me, when I first met Kristi (who's now my wife), we've hit it off real good. We both had similar interests in like anime, music... basic teen stuff. I dunno really, but I'm sure other people may have different opinions on the subject. |
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neotransotaku Sledge Brother Liberated from school...until MLK day  Since: 11-17-05 From: In Hearst Field Annex... Last post: 6298 days Last view: 6295 days |
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easiest way is to ask 
signals are always mixed and interpretation is not always correct. what you think may suggest interest could just be your imagination... although, maybe if the guy is willing to walk you home, go out of his way to talk to you, take the long way to class because he is talking to you...probably that suggests something. |
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Ziff B2BB BACKTOBASICSBITCHES Since: 11-18-05 From: A room Last post: 6295 days Last view: 6295 days |
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You won't know. If a guy wants you to know that he likes you, he'll let you know. And that's the skivvy of it. And it'll only be on his terms. Trust me  |
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Silvershield   580  Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 6308 days Last view: 6295 days |
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Originally posted by Snow TomatoYeah, I dunno about you but, in my experience, most quality relationships don't begin with the people involved "hooking up." But that's neither here nor there. For many guys of type "x" - for the sake of the discussion, the kind of guy who's with a new girl every week and is reputed for his promiscuity - if he's genuinely interested in you for your nonphysical attributes then you know you've got him. That is, he'll not make any advances in an attempt to kiss or be otherwise physical too early in the relationship. That's a rarity, though, both because such guys usually don't change their stripes until later in life (if at all), and because they're often quite the charmers who may appear to be after you with pure intent but, in reality, you're just another notch on their bedposts. Type "y" guys - again, an alphabetic distinction just for the sake of simplicity, and referring to a shyer introvert - are sometimes less obvious in their advances. I'd set myself in this category and, in my own experience of observing my behavior around a girl I've got a crush on, I'll tend to pay less attention to her, and be more shy around her, than around anybody else. Edit because, of course, a double negative equals a positive... (edited by Silvershield on 05-03-06 03:26 AM) |
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Skydude Armos Knight  Since: 02-18-06 From: Stanford, CA Last post: 6569 days Last view: 6569 days |
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| I mostly agree with you on SS, but I think this is one of the occasions where relativism may in fact come into play, as it's not necessarily a discussion of right or wrong. What I mean by this is that if the "hooking up" as the norm is deeply entrenched enough, then even the "nice guys" who really do genuinely care a lot about a girl may do that relatively early on.
A decent indicator with that in mind, perhaps, is look at the dates you go on. If they seem to be designed for hooking up in the places, times, methods, etc. then that's not exactly a good sign, though not necessarily the be-all and end-all of it. On the other hand, if what you do tends to focus on other things, and it doesn't seem like he's just doing those and going through them (rather, that he's actually enjoying the other things) in order to hook up later, that tends to be a pretty good indication of genuine interest. Beyond that, well, there's not much you can really do. Asking would be the ideal solution except that, from what I've seen, shallow assholes can certainly pretend to be "nice guys" for quite some time...which is where you get the girls crying "but he used to be such a good boyfriend!" when, in fact, they're just finally seeing the guy as he actually is. |
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Silvershield 580 Since: 11-19-05 From: Emerson, New Jersey Last post: 6308 days Last view: 6295 days |
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Originally posted by SkydudeI don't think hooking up is by any means "wrong." I don't do it, myself - I'm completely turned off of the idea of any sort of physical intimacy with a girl who I don't even know or with whom I am, at most, barely familiar with - but it is very much a norm and so it may be a bit imprudent of me to make the sweeping generalization that a hook up does not yield a lasting relationship. Simply from what I've seen though, both at home and here at school, any two people who start off with a hook up and then progress to a less physical, more emotional relationship still retain a very strongly physical aspect. To put it simply, they often base their relationship significantly around sex. Hey, that's what kids want to do at this age, but no healthy bond is going to be centered around getting laid every night. Originally posted by SkydudeTo any girl: the worst and most pitiable thing you can do when dating a guy is believe that he really is as good as he seems. You'll get thrown for a loop every time, and the right way to avoid it is to expect it. When a good guy finally comes along, it will be a pleasant surprise and he won't hold it against you for not always giving him the benefit of the doubt. Not to generalize my own sex but, as teenagers and in the early twenties, many many guys are really quite digusting. The ones with the good hearts aren't usually the ones with good looks and charm. |
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Schweiz oder etwas [12:55] (Dr_Death16); I swear, the word drama needs to be stricken from the dictionary, for I've heard it so many times, it will permanently be imprinted on my brain  Since: 11-17-05 From: Kingston, Rhode Island Last post: 6295 days Last view: 6295 days |
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| The ones with good hearts can still be monsters when they're forced to, though... Keep that in mind if you DO find a good guy. | |||
LizardKing Bullet Bill  Since: 11-18-05 Last post: 6299 days Last view: 6295 days |
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Originally posted by Silvershield Yeah, that pretty much sums up what I do.. or did, as it's starting to get a while since I was in love with someone, and I have only seriously been in love with someone once. To be honest, I really have no idea how I would deal with something like that today. 
Though, I have been told by friends of a colleague at work that they actually thought that I was in love with her.. But I just see her as a good colleague, or friend. I feel I can joke with her, and I do, but I have never meant anything like that with it. It's all just for fun, and because I was bored at work. I can joke with other people too, but not so much, as I, in general, is quite shy around people. |
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Deleted User Banned    Since: 05-08-06 Last post: None Last view: 6296 days |
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Yes Snow Tomato, I WILL love you forevaaaaaaaa! Let's see, we both have a band.....  .......that most certainly qualifies for a meaningful relationship..... 
I think you CAN'T tell whn someone likes you. They tend to "back off." To suggest that you are not too into her/him. Also, the person can gived you mixed messages. My girlfriend at first, was happy and "lovey" around me, but sometimes she was like, "woah, back off budy." So, in conclusion, it's hard... |
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Rom Manic Since: 12-18-05 From: Detroit, WHAT?! Last post: 6295 days Last view: 6295 days |
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| Look for teasing and poking fun at your expense in a joking around kind of manner. Fish a bit, and if he catches, you've got one. Also observe for nice gestures that go out of his way to accomplish. | |||
The Red Snifit Ropa  Since: 03-05-06 From: Here Last post: 6297 days Last view: 6295 days |
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| From experience from... how I once acted...
They sometimes do nice things for you, just to be with you, without doing it in a way that seems they like you. They may also look at you differently than they look at anybody else, and they may seem nervous around you. When they look at you, they seem not aware with anything else. After this goes for a while, they start to go a little more directly for you. They also are usually "just friends" until they do things like going to a dance with you. If they go to a dance with you more than once, usually, it means they like you in a way. Remember, great love is never exp |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji  Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6341 days Last view: 6341 days |
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| Of course not.
"I love you" and "I like you" ae FAR from the same thing. Here's one way to know--they tell you. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I'm all into the whole, 'talk so there's no confusion' thing. It really works, at least, when you're dealing with two mature people. I wouldn't listen to teasing/poking fun at your expense thing. Maybe not even the 'going out of their way to do something nice' thing, either. But maybe I'm weird in that I'll do things just as nice and out of my way for friends as I will for a girl I like, although yes, more so for a girl I like when opportunity arises, I suppose. But seriously, TALK about it. That doesn't mean ask them if they love you, ask them if they LIKE you in that way. If you're both mature about it (and honest) you can work it out. And if you both can't be mature and honest, you're probably not ready for a serious relationship, anyway. -- "signals are always mixed and interpretation is not always correct. what you think may suggest interest could just be your imagination... although, maybe if the guy is willing to walk you home, go out of his way to talk to you, take the long way to class because he is talking to you...probably that suggests something." -- Not necessarily. Some guys, like myself, do those things for friends in general. I did those things for a girl I liked, but ALSO for my friends, but because she didn't know, she thought I ONLY did it for her, which I didn't, and it made her catch on that I liked her when it shouldn't have because it's just something I do. I still do those things, and I still like her, but she doesn't like me (or doesn't want to, at least) so it doesn't matter, because we talked about it. If something's meant to happen, it'll happen. Talking is the best answer, as it avoids all misinterpretation--assuming both parties are honest and mature, which isn't always the case. (edited by D3stiny_Sm4sher on 05-04-06 03:58 AM) |
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Deleted User Banned Since: 05-08-06 Last post: None Last view: 6296 days |
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| Here's my opinion...
With some guys it depends on their life... like if they have a lot of friends, then they might not necessarily pay as much attention to you as much as someone with less friends... but that doesn't mean he don't like you... it's just he's got other priorities too... Some guys will REALLY show it if they know you like them, therefore there is no awkwardness with him letting you know he's into you... (this is me currently in my life) ...and sad to say that a lot of guys put "love" on another table, and don't really want to commit (this may be with girls too) they would rather just have you as a girlfriend and that's it... just someone to totally use for his own desires or lusts you could say... So be careful if a guy wants to concentrate on making out and/or other "fun" activities...  LOL... but seriously make sure he digs you as a person too, not just as some hottie (because I know you are Snow Tomato) make sure, and be so careful.... there are too many jerks in this world today, sweetheart... |
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Deleted User Banned Since: 05-08-06 Last post: None Last view: 6296 days |
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Back off Ghost, she's mi-......I mean, you already HAVE a girlfriend........ j/k, so do I.... |
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Deleted User Banned Since: 05-08-06 Last post: None Last view: 6296 days |
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Originally posted by ||EyeL E Ss|| ....Hey hey hey hey hey!!!??? Don't hate the playa'! Hate the game!! LOL j/k
You can have her if you want....
 Hey, Snow Tomato wanna go out with Eyeless?........... sorry dude she won't respond..... j/k |
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Vyper Kodondo Raging Venom  Since: 11-18-05 From: Final Fantasy Fire Last post: 6313 days Last view: 6313 days |
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| If I (and I'm guessing any "normal" guy) like a girl, I'll show interest in what she likes. Actually make an effort by taking time out of my life to spend with her what she likes doing. | |||
emcee Red Super Koopa Since: 11-20-05 Last post: 6296 days Last view: 6295 days |
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| If you like someone, tell them. If you want to know if they like you, ask them. Simple. | |||
Skreename Giant Red Paratroopa Since: 11-18-05 Last post: 6302 days Last view: 6295 days |
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| I don't know how well the direct approach works, emcee. You'll always have the ones who are too shy to answer directly.
And... it's hard to say how a guy will act. They could try to do things to be with you, yes, but... there's always the chance that they'll get qualified as "creepy" and stop doing anything that even resembles affectionate. |
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Uncle Elmo Porcupo Loved up and ready to go :) Since: 11-24-05 Last post: 6312 days Last view: 6352 days |
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| ooh! Paradise by the Dashboard Light!!! LOVE that song!
Sorry, digressing there... Anyway... how do you know? Hmm, well it's tough as most blokes find it hard to exp I'd also hazard a guess that 80% of men don't show if they like someone unless they're reasonably sure that person likes them. I suppose the best way to find out is start flirting with them. Men don't flirt back unless they;'re interested. |
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