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Schweiz oder etwas [12:55] (Dr_Death16); I swear, the word drama needs to be stricken from the dictionary, for I've heard it so many times, it will permanently be imprinted on my brain                    Since: 11-17-05 From: Kingston, Rhode Island Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| If Anya can't answer it, and Elmo's not up to the task, ask me. If there's anything you wanna know, or even if you're seeking a little bit of "alternative" advice, let it all out. | |||
Anya   Since: 11-18-05 From: South Florida Last post: 6283 days Last view: 6281 days |
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| Is it okay to get tired if giving advice to a bunch of people that you really don't know? | |||
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Schweiz oder etwas [12:55] (Dr_Death16); I swear, the word drama needs to be stricken from the dictionary, for I've heard it so many times, it will permanently be imprinted on my brain Since: 11-17-05 From: Kingston, Rhode Island Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| Of course! Sometimes you have to mix things up a bit. It's normal to feel like sometimes people are relying on you too much when you are, in fact, providing them with some kind of service of this sort. The quick fix is to just take a break for a while. Keep in mind, though--- You established the idea of giving advice to people. There are most definitely people out there who respect your opinion to a degree where just giving up would be a letdown to them, whether you knew them or not.
Try immersing yourself in your own personal affairs, first... If you do, you may find that it's a little easier to gain insight into other peoples' lives at the same time. You, especially you, have a lot going on right now. Take care of that first. |
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Ziff B2BB BACKTOBASICSBITCHES Since: 11-18-05 From: A room Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| Is there time for lollygagging? | |||
NSNick Gohma IF ALL ELSE FAILS USE BOOZE  Since: 11-17-05 From: Last post: 6281 days Last view: 6281 days |
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Trapster King Dedede Since: 11-19-05 From: Sweden Last post: 6388 days Last view: 6280 days |
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| Have you been in love with someone over the net? | |||
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Schweiz oder etwas [12:55] (Dr_Death16); I swear, the word drama needs to be stricken from the dictionary, for I've heard it so many times, it will permanently be imprinted on my brain Since: 11-17-05 From: Kingston, Rhode Island Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| Ziff: NO. NOT AT 3 AM.
NSNick: I figure we have a male point of view, and a female point of view, and there ARE three genders on the board... And hey, sometimes there are some questions that Anya and Elmo just can't answer amirite. Trapster: No. |
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Iori Yagami Hardhat Beetle  Since: 11-18-05 From: Hell's keeper Last post: 6487 days Last view: 6487 days |
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Three genders... but green is not a gender though Grey... you're not an eunuch are you?  |
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Thoughtless [Danielle] Thoughtless is my secret lover [Danielle] *flutters eyelashes* [Thoughtless] SECRET IS OUT I miss my two pussies :( (Part II) Since: 11-17-05 From: PR Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| What are your hobbies?
(I know, simple question, but the fact is, I really don't know anything about the mysterious Grey...) Oh and this one. And why are you so cool? |
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Wurl Since: 11-17-05 Last post: 6321 days Last view: 6321 days |
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Originally posted by Thoughtless Grey is the sole survivor of the Ice Age. Because he killed everything else. |
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NSNick Gohma IF ALL ELSE FAILS USE BOOZE Since: 11-17-05 From: Last post: 6281 days Last view: 6281 days |
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Originally posted by WurlOriginally posted by Thoughtless With ice. |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji  Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6325 days Last view: 6325 days |
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| Wow, Grey. People are already depending on you for advice. I mean, these are some really serious issues in our society today.
"Oh and this one." Geez, man, I know how that goes. That is serious shit, man. Youch, good luck with that. XD *lolz* Anyway, 'kay, so here's my question. So I'm a freshman in college, right? Never had a girlfriend, any attempts at dating a girl turned sour--the first one was my best friend and betrayed me before we even started dating, and the second just...well, didn't start at all, either, and somehow destroyed our friendship. Anyway! So there's this sophomore girl, we've been friends since September, she's really busy, so we don't hang out for very long periods of time, and not all that often, either. So we don't know each other as well as I'd like. But I really like her for some reason. I didn't start feeling this way until November. Now, all of my friends know, some of HER friends know (and knew without me telling them) and other people who know her know, too...(I'd actually be kind of amazed if she didn't know, but I certainly hope she doesn't) So I really like her, really care about her, and really want to build our friendship, because I'm guessing that it would be smarter to do that before I tell her I like her. When I finally do decide to tell her I like her, how should I go about doing it? Should I just be flat-out honest and tell her? Should I take her to the Homecoming Banquet and tell her after that? Should I give her a poem I wrote about her? (she's a music major, I'm a writing major) And when I tell her, if she's not too enthused about it (or worse, upset) what should I do? I REALLY don't want my feelings for her to ruin our friendship like the past with other girls. These feelings should STRENGTHEN our friendship, not break it, right? I'm seriously thinking that when I tell her, I should go out and say something like, "So what should I do?" Basically asking her, "What do you want me to do with these feelings? Kill them, ignore them for a while, get rid of them, embrace them? What?" That probably sounds retarded, but... And if she doesn't like me liking her, and wishes I didn't have these feelings, what SHOULD I do with them if she doesn't tell me? I would guess try and destroy them somehow, but that's not too easy. Anyway, thanks for any wisdom you may share. |
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Schweiz oder etwas [12:55] (Dr_Death16); I swear, the word drama needs to be stricken from the dictionary, for I've heard it so many times, it will permanently be imprinted on my brain Since: 11-17-05 From: Kingston, Rhode Island Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| Well, well... A few easy questions and one wicked hard one. You're putting me through my paces and it's only my first day.
DV: No, I'm not a Eunuch. 
Thoughtless: Currently, I'm into modifying Nerf guns, World of Warcraft, staying up until 4 in the morning (certain people know why >8(), music, programming, and video games. Standard geek stuff. I also like to fence Saber style, and I DO do some roleplaying and a lot of writing in my spare time. When I'm not doing that, I collect Jim's Big Ego albums and Magic: The Gathering cards. I also enjoy musicals. Also, I'm cool because you guys think I'm cool, which makes you all cool too. 
And shit, Wurl, I CAUSED the Ice Age. Now, Destiny Smasher. As for you... This girl sounds like someone you could really get close to. I know the feeling, I've met some amazing people already, and I'm a freshman in college too. There are a few things you have to remember, though... You have to consider who you are in her eyes, how well you think she knows you. It's not always about how much you like her, you have to ask yourself if she even knows you exist. If you can get a date, then go for it! But whatever you do, don't be overdramatic, or try to make the situation into a bigger deal than it really is. It's a turnoff for a girl if a guy is overly ceremonious (by overly ceremonious I mean takes every little thing as though it's the most amazing thing that they've ever experienced: that's ok once in a while. Not all the time.). You're still young: You have to remember that above all else. College is a time for having fun and learning, too. It's not a time to think about settling down or the terrifying thought of getting into a serious long term relationship. It IS, however, still nice to have someone to spend your time with. Consider that, too. Oddly enough, this actually isn't one of those "follow your heart" situations. Stand down for a while, it's definitely a poor idea to be persistent. You're right to want to build a friendship first. In fact, you're right to just want to build a friendship. A lot of the time, it's best to see if the two of you 'click' as personalities. You really want to be with someone that you can talk to as a friend, as an equal, not that you idolize like a goddess or put on any sort of pedestal. Baaaaad decision, right there. |
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Iori Yagami Hardhat Beetle Since: 11-18-05 From: Hell's keeper Last post: 6487 days Last view: 6487 days |
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Hey don't be giving me the angry face.  I can't help it if I'm an addictive person to talk to and fun.  |
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Sion Im Back Baby!  Since: 11-18-05 Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6279 days |
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Snow Tomato Snap Dragon  Since: 12-31-05 From: NYC Last post: 6300 days Last view: 6286 days |
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| How can you tell if a guy REALLY cares about you... or they just are kind of in lust with you?
Details: Been seeing this guy for about a month. We hooked up once over the summer. We both slept out.. met at a beach.. crashed there.. there was pot involved, and lots of cuddling.. kissing and the like. One of the best nights ever. Basically, I was scared of having a relationship at that point.. so we hung out one more time.. it was good.. and I ended it. This whole school year I've liked him.. and we've been friends. Fast forward to a month ago. We really started to hang out again... and we kissed one day. We've been togheter ever since... but he's never asked me out.. it's not official.. whatever. We agreed that the "rules" of a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship apply... but he still doesn't call me his girlfriend. I think he's scared of getting too involved after what happened last time. On top of that, this past week he's been kind of distant. I can tell he's just trying to keep the chase.... but I HATE IT. He's been like... soo frustrating. Just the way he's been acting. I just can't tell if he really cares about me or he just like lusts me. When we hung out two days ago... we talked, had fun... and then we were messing around for about an hour. I dunno, it was cool.. but I just can't shake the feeling that he's only in it for the messing around part. Just, how can you tell? What are the signs? Is he just being distant because he's scared of getting too involved cause I hurt him in the past.... or is he being lusty and dickish? (Yeah, I'm confused) [edit: decided to add more details] (edited by Snow Tomato on 02-16-06 09:20 PM) |
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Schweiz oder etwas [12:55] (Dr_Death16); I swear, the word drama needs to be stricken from the dictionary, for I've heard it so many times, it will permanently be imprinted on my brain Since: 11-17-05 From: Kingston, Rhode Island Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| Sion: You're a million feet of awesome. A million and one if that's Iori.
Tomato: You can usually tell by the way he looks at you and interacts with you. If he overdoes things, tries way too hard to be with you, he either really really really cares about you or else he just wants into the pants. Usually it's the second one. If he doesn't struggle to talk to you, he's probably not just infatuated. Like, if you can actually form a connection with him. There are other tricks, but usually you have to go with your gut feeling on a guy. Pay attention to what your friends say about him, too. I can honestly tell you, if all of your friends have it out for your current boyfriend and you can't see what's wrong with him, chances are you may be blinded by your affection for him to realize something they don't. Bottom line is, they've not steered you wrong before, so don't expect them to this time. I'll tell you... I've seen some good girls get dumped by some very bad men. I'd rather not see it ever happen again. And speaking of good girls, DV, I'd like to note that yes, it is your fault and yes, you can help it. I'm just hoping you don't. |
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Snow Tomato Snap Dragon Since: 12-31-05 From: NYC Last post: 6300 days Last view: 6286 days |
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| I added details but that was perfect.
Thanks <3 |
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D3stiny_Sm4sher Ninji Since: 02-04-06 From: Searching for t3h g4t3... Last post: 6325 days Last view: 6325 days |
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| Well, thanks, Grey. You kind of confused me...
Follow my heart, but don't? You tell me to follow it, but then you tell me I shouldn't be interested in exp And how is a long term relationship terrifying? I guess guys my age are terrified of it, but I would give almost anything for one--believe it. And of course I'm considering how well she knows me. That's why I have to hide my feelings for her for right now. It's not like we're strangers. We're friends, we're just not as close as I'd like. A professor of mine told me I should wait a couple years before I exp  ' That sounds really long to me, though. So much could happen.
And no offense, but I am SICK of people saying, "You have your life ahead of you." That's no good reason to sit and do nothing. People told me that throughout all of high school, so I waited, and waited. And what happened? NOTHING. I regret all of the things I didn't do in high school but could have. What if I die 5 years from now in an accident? I have no idea. I don't want to waste these 4 years like I wasted high school. I want to actually SEE some of these people when high school is over. I want to delevop lasting relationships, and I REALLY want to have a girl I don't have to hide my true self from. I'm sick of hiding myself from people. Whew. OK. Had to blow some personal steam. Sorry 'bout that. '
Thanks for your advice, though, but I just keep getting a lot of contradictions in the advice I'm getting from people. If I follow my heart, it might scare her. But if I sit around and don't think or worry about it, we'll never truly be friends, either, let alone a couple. |
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Thoughtless [Danielle] Thoughtless is my secret lover [Danielle] *flutters eyelashes* [Thoughtless] SECRET IS OUT I miss my two pussies :( (Part II) Since: 11-17-05 From: PR Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| Is there a reason why you stopped using the whole Trigun/Donut theme to your layout/userpic/etc...?
I thought it was cool. You know, kind of new and stuff. |
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