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acillatem98 Crow                     Since: 11-18-05 From: Barberton, Ohio Last post: 6300 days Last view: 6296 days |
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| This is a longer story, if anyone has a hope to help, you have to read this:
Two of my friends were dating. Their names, Alex and Amanda. They were dating, not quite a year, maybe 3 or so months. After that, they weren't mad at eachother or anything. A month or so later Amanda started talking to a guy named Ryan. She told him stuff about Alex that wasn't true and is trying to have Ryan fight Alex. She stopped for a while, and started doing this again. This time she went to his myspace and started talking shit and saying more stuff that isn't true. Me and Alex were talking about it, he showed me their messages. The way they were threatening, name calling, all this on him and he did nothing to cause this. Nothing at all has happened since they broke up to make her do this. I helped him fight back by replies to their messages. They were both my friends, but the way she is acting isn't right. I chose my friend Alex's side on this. He marked the messages he sent back to them with his and my name on them, to show he didn't work alone. She sends me a message then saying she isn't involving me in this so why start with her, and she also said I look gay because of how were always together, but truth is, I'm not gay. I told her that I am fighting for what I believe is right, which I think this bullshit of a fight needs to end. I'm not sure how to take this. She was a friend of mine, but attacked another friend for no apparent reason. I'm not sure if I'm doing the right thing by helping Alex with this. Any suggestions? |
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neotransotaku Sledge Brother Liberated from school...until MLK day  Since: 11-17-05 From: In Hearst Field Annex... Last post: 6297 days Last view: 6295 days |
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| stick with your friend and forget the girl... if she was really your friend, she wouldn't do shit like this. Also, you should probably start ignoring her because probably responding to her is giving her more motivation to keep this stuff up. Maybe if you don't respond to what she says, she will get tired of this game and go away | |||
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Sinfjotle Lordly? No, not quite.  Since: 11-17-05 From: Kansas Last post: 6297 days Last view: 6295 days |
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| No offence, but that is HORRIBLE advice Neotransotaku. You can't ignore someone that was once your friend, especially if you'd still like to be their friend.
I suggest you talk directly with her, alone. Find out why she's doing it and try to resolve it, don't stop being her friend, just try to get them under an agreement. It is possible though, that Alex did something wrong to bring this on, don't assume he's innocent untill you know both sides of the story. Seriously though, resolve it, don't stop being either of their friends if you like them both. You aren't doing the right thing, you shouldn't take sides untill you know the full story, and even then you should try to resolve it and not take sides. If she refuses to explain it, try and talk to Ryan, see what she told him. |
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neotransotaku Sledge Brother Liberated from school...until MLK day Since: 11-17-05 From: In Hearst Field Annex... Last post: 6297 days Last view: 6295 days |
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| from the way he is talking, i figured he has already tried to reason with her and he is getting tired of it... people change and you can't always be friends with them forever. I had good friends before, but their attitudes changed after certain things and we could never see eye to eye after that, and things just basically dissolved. | |||
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acillatem98 Crow Since: 11-18-05 From: Barberton, Ohio Last post: 6300 days Last view: 6296 days |
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| Alex sent me the messages from them, and it wasn't right. It first got started when he got a random IM from Ryan. Ryan was saying all this crap like their going to fight or back off of her, when Alex and Amanda hadn't talked in a long while. I read all those so I decided it was best to stay on Alex's side. I would hate to lose either of them as a friend but what Amanda is doing isn't right. It's a bullshit fight that needs to stop but Amanda keeps it going. It should only be between her and Alex but she brought two people in so I'm helping Alex out. She has Sam and Ryan tying to get into a fight with Alex now. (edited by acillatem98 on 02-06-06 03:23 PM) (edited by acillatem98 on 02-06-06 03:25 PM) |
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Sinfjotle Lordly? No, not quite. Since: 11-17-05 From: Kansas Last post: 6297 days Last view: 6295 days |
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| Maybe you should confront Amanda directly and talk it over. Hell, get Alex to do it, they're all being immature brats, and blaming people isn't right, by involving yourself you're keeping it going just as much as anyone else.
End it or step out. Talk to Ryan, talk to Sam, talk to whoever the hell you need to, but end it. There is no point in losing a friendship over something that stupid. |
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acillatem98 Crow Since: 11-18-05 From: Barberton, Ohio Last post: 6300 days Last view: 6296 days |
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| Ok, we did all that and it helped. Thank you guys for helping us out. Amanda said she blamed Alex for talking to her friends wrong which makes no sense but the fighting stopped so I can't complain. Personally I think she still likes Alex but hates not being with him anymore. Again, thanks for your help everyone. |
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