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| Acmlm's Board - I3 Archive - General Chat - What qualities do you look for in other people (ie, friends, partners, etc)? |
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Tarale    2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata                   Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6301 days Last view: 6301 days |
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| Humans are fairly social creatures, but we're not necessarily social with everybody either. Generally there are things that we seek out in other people, and there are things that we avoid.
I was wondering, what is it that you seek out in other people that you wish to associate with, such as friends and such? Things like honesty, good listening skills, sense of humor, etc. And what characteristics do you tend to avoid in other people? |
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Koitenshin +∞ Moblin  Since: 12-24-05 From: Misery Last post: 6303 days Last view: 6303 days |
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| I tend to avoid people in general. Simply because most of them turn out to be idiots anyway. As for qualities I look for. I tend to go for the typical introverted shy cute girl. Simply because they tend to be very intelligent (another big plus). Looks are optional but they do help. Basically if I think you look cute you could wake up with bed hair and I'd still like you (i've been told that's a rare quality for a guy to have) | |||
spel werdz rite Since: 11-19-05 Last post: 6302 days Last view: 6301 days |
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| For friends, someone who is smart and has a sense of humor.
For girlfriends, same thing but cute too!  |
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Alastor Fearless Moderator Hero  Since: 11-17-05 From: An apartment by DigiPen, Redmond, Washington Last post: 6301 days Last view: 6301 days |
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| Basically... Someone who's intelligent (or really, just not an idiot), has a nice sense of humor, and... Is good at the kinds of videogames I enjoy. | |||
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Tarale 2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6301 days Last view: 6301 days |
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| I have a tendency to be drawn to people that I percieve have integrity and honesty, and that act with consideration towards their fellow human beings. Conversely, I find myself very put off by those who lie and deceive, and act with disregard towards others. I really don't have much respect for those who are sneaky, because I find it difficult to establish any kind of trust with such people.
I'm also drawn to those who are intelligent; but I strongly dislike those who are arrogant, and who act as if they are better than others. I don't think that anybody is better than anybody else, and I don't think that people have the right to treat others that way. A sense of humor is also important; although I will admit that I do find it hard to find people with the same kind of sense of humor I have. A lot of people say that I have a very "dry" sense of humor. As for who I'm put off by, well I've already stated that. People who are deceptive, people who act with disregard for others and people who are arrogant. And while I consider myself to be a fairly patient person; I also find it difficult to tolerate those who will not help themselves at all. In a partner; I want somebody who is honest, compassionate/considerate, intelligent and has a sense of humor, AND... supportive. Above all else, somebody who is going to support me in my goals, and support me when the shit hits the fan. I don't want much  |
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Randle Bronto Burt Since: 12-05-05 Last post: 6692 days Last view: 6692 days |
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| I look for people who are kind, considerate and hopefully honest. Thats maybe the most important thing. I've had enough 'friendships' in the past where those qualities were absent and I understand now that without them, they aren't really friendships.
Intelligence and a sense of humour are of course important qualities as are common interests. I could go into details as to the kind of things I would look for in a prospective partner or friend but I've come to realise that this just limits you to an almost impossible ideal. I've had a few things happen recently that have shaken my confidence. They have not made me question whether what I look for is correct but rather make me wonder whether I can actually spot when people are being genuine. I had a really close friend who turned into a partner and I thought I had found my ideal. However as it turned out, after things came crashing down, I saw in them the kind of things that they had always claimed not to be. Cruel, vindictive, dishonest, going out of their way to cause pain. I just couldn't believe I had gotten someone so completely wrong and had let them get close enough to hurt me. So yeah, I look for those good qualities and hope I'm right when I find them in someone. |
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firemaker Cheep-cheep Since: 12-13-05 From: Somewhere in a place called Berkshire Last post: 6379 days Last view: 6379 days |
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| If I'm actually looking for a serious girlfriend as opposed to the usual slut on the street then there are a number of things that I would like them to have. Firstly they have to be honest and caring. I also prefer it if they are not self centred. They don't have to be amazingly nice to everybody but they should be kind. My problem like randle's is the fact that poeple can put on mask's that show one thing but when in comes to the crunch they can be the complete opposite of who you thought they were. | |||
Trapster King Dedede Since: 11-19-05 From: Sweden Last post: 6409 days Last view: 6301 days |
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| "In a partner; I want somebody who is honest, compassionate/considerate, intelligent and has a sense of humor, AND... supportive."
I agree with Tarale on this part. I´d really appreciate if she was into gaming too. If she woudln´t be good at the games I like, I´d gladly teach her. People works better together if they´ve similar interests. I´d like her to be somewhat cute but I mostly see that as a bonus. Friends don´t have to be cute. That´s not what friends are for at all. The most important thing is that you can have fun with them. Intelligence doesn´t hurt either. Most of my friends are into gaming so that´s a good thing. I also like friends to be honest. (edited by Ran-chan on 01-06-06 12:22 PM) |
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Ziff B2BB BACKTOBASICSBITCHES Since: 11-18-05 From: A room Last post: 6301 days Last view: 6301 days |
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Shadic The Adventure of Link Perfect Member Since: 11-18-05 From: Olympia, Washington Last post: 6308 days Last view: 6304 days |
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| Honesty, general kindness... Doing doing anything too stupid, or "shady," and several other things..
Most my friends are smarter than me too. Gwarh. As for a girl, looks don't really matter, (Even though the one that I have now is very, very sexy,) nice, fairly quiet, (Willing to open up though is a must,) and a few other things are what I'm into. |
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Danielle 6730 Administratorrrr HELLO THERE   Since: 11-17-05 From: California Rate me ^_^ Last post: 6302 days Last view: 6301 days |
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| What I like: Loyalty, honesty, kindness, intelligence, and a great sense of humor are most important to me. Someone I can trust myself with.
What I don't like: Pessimism, poor attitude, bad manners, secretive, unwilling to make sacrifices when needed. |
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HyperHacker Star Mario Finally being paid to code in VB! If only I still enjoyed that. <_< Wii #7182 6487 4198 1828 Since: 11-18-05 From: Canada, w00t! My computer's specs, if anyone gives a damn. STOP TRUNCATING THIS >8^( Last post: 6302 days Last view: 6302 days |
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| They have to not be a dumbass (rules out 90% of people already). Humour helps too, and honesty is very important. | |||
Snow Tomato Snap Dragon  Since: 12-31-05 From: NYC Last post: 6322 days Last view: 6307 days |
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| I hate malicious people. Anyone who can go out there with the intent to hurt someone else.. I avoid. Whether it be physically or mentally. Sarcasticness and humor is something else, but when it comes to the point of like "I'm going to ruin his/her day" shit.. then no. Not cool.
I tend to be attracted towards anyone who's not a dumbass. And there's a large amount of non-dumbasses who surround me. Then again there's like 6,000 kids in my school. I guess most of my friends are music, drama club geeks.. as am I.. so it works. Genuine niceness in a person is a must.. I don't like backstabbers or liars. And if you're going to talk my ear off about some asshole you don't like... every time I see you.. chances are I'll cease talking to you. I'm drawn towards creative and artistic people to for some reason.. people who have a passion captivate me. With boyfriends, looks don't matter at all really. In fact, it's really all about the mind. Think what you will (if you've read my other threads), but I'm serious. Attitude, personality and a passion... otherwise the person is just vacant and boring to me. I hate when a guy says to me "Uh.. so when are you going to break my heart? I don't deserve you.".. when everything is like.. good.. it makes me think there's a problem I don't detect. Underconfidence= uncool. |
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Sin Dogan 860  Uoodo Original Blend Armored Trooper Votoms Canned Coffee! Since: 11-17-05 Last post: 6306 days Last view: 6304 days |
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| Loyalty and a sense of humor. That's all you really need. | |||
Ryoku Tooky Since: 01-07-06 From: sandiego CA. Last post: 6442 days Last view: 6442 days |
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| pretty much i dont realy care for what a person is like (as long as they are not some self centerd conceided freak who thinks that the world revolves around them)
but this is only in friends. when it comes to getting a girlfriend then i realy just want someone nice and who i can get good vibes from. other wise anynice person is a person i can get along with. |
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spel werdz rite Since: 11-19-05 Last post: 6302 days Last view: 6301 days |
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Originally posted by TaraleWhat does that mean? The one thing I hate about everyone saying that they're looking for someone who's smart, funny, and caring is that I hang out with guys who are smarter, funnier, and more caring (or so you would think). So oppurtunity for dating in my world stays shut what with the competition I'm up against. Plus all the girls I know are already dating. (either that or they don't like me) |
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emcee Red Super Koopa Since: 11-20-05 Last post: 6301 days Last view: 6301 days |
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| Eh, I guess I'm kind of cynical about all this. I see these advertisements for dating sites where they say they can find your ideal partner, based on your individual preferences. But really, doesn't everyone want basically the same thing? I don't see anyone saying they want some ugly obnoxious idiot with no sense of humor.
Really, everyone has a good and a bad side. And they all generally try to show only their good side. Its only once you really get to know someone that you see their bad side, and at that point you can just accept that its there and deal with it, or move on to the next person (who of course, also has a bad side). |
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Hiryuu Sword Maiden Retired Admin  Since: 11-17-05 From: Nerima District - Tokyo, Japan Last post: 6301 days Last view: 6301 days |
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| People in general - Someone that isn't an asshole. You know, the type of people that generally make themselves out to be dumbasses which in turn get laughs by hick communities, etc. I grew up in such places so, not surprisingly, I hated high school like that. I think the whole thing of having a decent sense of humor is a good thing but, at the same time, it doesn't hurt if the person knows when to draw the line. If I'm always thinking you're in sarcastic mode, I wouldn't know when to take you seriously.
Friends in general - Step up from people in general. Basically, I know you well enough that I'd personally trust you with my life if it came down to it. I probably overkill on the amount of trust that I put in people sometimes, which can be a good or a bad thing depending on the circumstance, so what I would expect in return is the reinforcement to that which, most times, comes anyways. I don't take well to backstabbers or people that put me in a situation that I don't want to be in, but at the same time I can forgive easily if rectified correctly (i.e. I'm not a dumbass to let some person who thinks they're my friend to walk all over me). Otherwise, go to the asshole people pile. I'd want nothing to do with you and I can give you a cold shoulder worse than the general public and not give it a second thought. Partners in general - Ohhh god this is a pain in the ass to get right. You know I looked into several types of relationships and I've only had four but I know what I would want out of someone and so far each of them seem to fail in the category of settling down/submitting to maturity for once. I'll clarify: there've been times where I've had the other want something out of me that I can't possibly do or I can't possibly do ALL THE TIME. Rather than coming to an understanding about this, however, the person would rather bitch, moan, and complain about it. Not cool. Out of a person like that, I wouldn't give you much more really. I HAVE to have someone who's understanding in a relationship. Not just one aspect...I'm talking everything that encompasses me. I don't have the slightest problem doing it the other way around and if there's something that I don't like, I ask and try to find out why the person is the way they are. I mean, isn't that the whole point? If you're going to be with someone the rest of your life, wouldn't you want to know everything about that person; wouldn't you want to understand that person so that you wouldn't be met with something down the road that could screw you over something royally like I've seen so many times in relationships/marriages? People just don't exercise this. That and keeping things serious. Personally, I'm not in relationships for a one night, month, or year time period. Uh uh. When I get to that point of saying the three words, I mean it; I want no one else. Then things tend to iron out the way they always do. I get uninteresting, the other wants stuff out of me that I can't possibly do, yadayada the thing fizzles out like a can of soda on a hot day. So, anymore, I don't really look for relationships. They just keep adding on more trouble than they're worth most times. That's not to say I wouldn't enjoy having a relationship like the one I described but...I have a feeling that it won't happen anytime soon, if at all. |
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Ryoku Tooky Since: 01-07-06 From: sandiego CA. Last post: 6442 days Last view: 6442 days |
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Originally posted by spel werdz riteOriginally posted by TaraleWhat does that mean? pretty much dry humor basicly it meens no good sense of humor very plain and boring. atleast thats what my definition is of this. if im wrong pleez someone correct me. |
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Tarale 2710 Affected by 'Princess Bitch-Face Syndrome' ++++!! Persona non grata Since: 11-17-05 From: Adelaide, Australia Last post: 6301 days Last view: 6301 days |
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Originally posted by xxweirdalfanxxOriginally posted by spel werdz riteOriginally posted by TaraleWhat does that mean? You indeed shall find that I have "no good sense of humor".  Am I to take it that English is your second language? |
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