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Could you live with somebody, after you've broken up with them?| Yes |
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drjayphd Torosu OW! BURNY!                  Since: 11-18-05 From: CT Last post: 6282 days Last view: 6280 days |
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| My non-evil ex-girlfriend (the one where we dated for three and a half years, then broke up a year ago) and I have gotten to talking again. Since we were together, she's moved out, and has a fairly sweet place. Her roommate's moving out at the end of the month, and she needs a new roommate. So she came to me with an interesting proposal... move in with her.
Considering that we ended on bad terms, BUT enough time has passed that we're starting over, and that our relationship is strictly platonic, I'm tempted. However, we broke up because I didn't want to commit by moving in with her, and although circumstances are different... well. What do you think? Here's the relevant details. * The apartment is two bedrooms, two bathrooms, so we'd only be sharing a kitchen and living room, really. * We work on completely different schedules, and wouldn't see the other much during the week. * Both of us have agreed that if this happens, boundaries will be important and that it's strictly business. * We are not dating now, nor will we should we move in. * The apartment is much nicer than anything I could afford in my budget, with free Wi-Fi, a parking garage, gym, tennis/basketball courts, pool, etc. There are economic issues which could make this whole discussion moot, but that's not the point.  The question is, if you get along well with an ex, could you still move in with them? |
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Danielle     6730 Administratorrrr HELLO THERE      Since: 11-17-05 From: California Rate me ^_^ Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| Why not?
People break up, it happens. If you both know that it'll remain "professional" so to speak, and that a relationship isn't going to come from it, then it sounds like an awesome proposition. A nicer place with a whole bunch of bonus gifts thrown in, with someone that you obviously get along with at least as friends. And you're not even going to be seeing her that often, anyway. There's no rule saying you can't ever be good friends with an ex, and friends room with each other when need be. I'd say go for it. |
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drjayphd Torosu OW! BURNY! Since: 11-18-05 From: CT Last post: 6282 days Last view: 6280 days |
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Originally posted by Danielle That's the questionable part, though. If we can keep it professional. I mean, I know I can. |
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Simon Belmont Except I'm totally fucking hyped about Dracula X: Chronicles.  Since: 11-18-05 From: Pittsburgh Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| It really depends on the situation and how you feel about being around her (and also how she feels about being around you) in a long-term situation. You can set rules and boundaries, but if either of you drink I can see the boundaries not lasting very long, you'll have to put up with the little things about her you won't like, but not recieve any of the benefits you used to (as well as constantly being reminded of the "us" that used to be).
Three and a half years is a good bit of time to be with someone, you can get more attatched than you think, it could bring up urgers/angers/lusts that you thought you didn't have anymore. But hey you get access to a poll, go for it. Maybe you'll get lucky in a few months and she'll decide since she's not evil and you're not evil you two can get together and you'll live happily ever after playing tennis. (edited by setz on 01-09-07 09:51 AM) |
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Sweet Kassy Molassy Out of ice cream and PB. Would KILL for a milkshake right now.  Since: 06-17-06 From: LoozeeAnna Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6280 days |
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| I couldn't do it.
I spent last Friday with my ex and we had a really good time. It was nice being comfortable with each other again... she was the closest friend I ever expect to have... And it was good to be finally ok that we're not together anymore, and that she'll probably marry the guy she's dating now... But if I were to spend that kind of time close to her, I'd ... meh I will always love her and I couldn't make it work as friends if I saw her every day. Are you sure neither of you still have any sort of feelings for the other? Because if your answer is no, I'd say don't go for it. |
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Shadic The Adventure of Link Perfect Member Since: 11-18-05 From: Olympia, Washington Last post: 6286 days Last view: 6282 days |
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Perhaps in a different situation.. But I don't know if sure do it, considering what she's done to you. Whatever happened to the guy she was all over after (And possibly during) your relationship? Okay, I take that back. Wrong girlfriend. Considering the fact that this is a different, non-evil girlfriend, I think that if you feel ready for it, then by all means, go for it. Imagine what the evil-ex-girlfriend will think, if you really want to have an alternative motive behind all of this. Besides, the place sounds nice. (edited by Shadic on 01-11-07 04:02 AM) |
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Ziff B2BB BACKTOBASICSBITCHES Since: 11-18-05 From: A room Last post: 6279 days Last view: 6279 days |
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| The business side of it says yes.
The other sides are saying yes too. And my two exes be my best friends. Even if it was on the worst of terms that we severed  |
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NSNick Gohma IF ALL ELSE FAILS USE BOOZE  Since: 11-17-05 From: Last post: 6281 days Last view: 6281 days |
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| Quick question: Would she be fine with you bringing girls home should you find any. And the flipside, would you be OK with her bringing a guy home? | |||
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Cruel Justice I have better things to do. Since: 11-18-05 From: At my house! Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6280 days |
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| I could have a nice conversation without any rash emotions attached but living in the same dwelling would make matters VERY awkward. My ex was quite sadistic and she'd probably try to kill me in my sleep. | |||
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drjayphd Torosu OW! BURNY! Since: 11-18-05 From: CT Last post: 6282 days Last view: 6280 days |
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Originally posted by NSNick Doesn't sound like she would. I'd probably be okay, anyways. 'Sides, now it's a moot point because I told her I was having second thoughts. She's looking at one-bedroom places, I'm looking elsewhere. |
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Sweet Kassy Molassy Out of ice cream and PB. Would KILL for a milkshake right now. Since: 06-17-06 From: LoozeeAnna Last post: 6280 days Last view: 6280 days |
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| That's probably for the best. Even the best roomates can be trying at time... So why have one that comes prepackaged with the potential for extra strife? |
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