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| Doritokiller Posts: 23/369 |
If I have a girlfriend and/or wife, I'd be saddened to hear that from her. It would mean that we would never experience what it's like to see your own child and think that you created such a thing. To experience something that every single person should experience at least once in their life... |
| Sweet Kassy Molassy Posts: 6/886 |
I'd be pretty devestated... I've just always seen myself with a nice girl and 2 or 3 children. I've always been good with kids and little kids love me. My sister has a 19 month old now and I love her to death.
Still, I think I would be able to love a child who didn't carry my genes just as much. The joy is in the raising them and helping them grow anyway. My little bro's fiancee has cysts on her ovaries and she miscarried when they got pregnant. So even if you save eggs you might not be able to carry to term without your ovaries simply because of hormonal issues. But on the same token... you may very well be able to. I think you should have it done now or you might regret it for the rest of your life. Surrogacy could also be an option. Or you could adopt. I recommend adopting in a foreign country (such as Russia) as that would eliminate the possibility of certain complications down the road and also the waiting list could potentially be much shorter. I know I'm new here and you don't know me, but I hope for the best for you in this situation. Maybe you'll be able to keep your ovary. And just because you don't ovulate doesn't mean you don't have viable ova. Stay optimistic. |
| Rydain Posts: 445/633 |
Originally posted by Black Lord +It works the other way as well. I always liked other people's well-behaved kids, so I assumed I would want one or two of my own someday. I gradually came to the realization that I do not have a hole in my heart for children. While planning my wedding, I read a message board where women would go on and on about "baby fever" - constantly noticing kids, having kids on the brain, just feeling incredibly excited about becoming a parent. I have never felt anything like that - ever. There is no missing piece of my life that a child would fill. Furthermore, I like my lifestyle the way it is. Within reason, I can do whatever I want whenever I want to do it, and that's very important to me. My husband and I can go out of town overnight without doing anything special, and we can have a friend or sitter take care of the cats during longer absences. I need a significant quantity of personal time and space and quiet on a regular basis...and how much of that would I get if I were the main caretaker of a baby? |
| Black Lord + Posts: 129/273 |
Originally posted by witeasprinwowOriginally posted by Vyper werd... I was gonna say, when I was in high school, I never wanted to have kids, I hated kids, and the like, but then you get a little bit older (I'm only 19), and it seems like something in your head makes you want them.... and stuff... |
| witeasprinwow Posts: 12/613 |
Originally posted by Vyper Dude; You are sixteen. You will not be sixteen forever. Your mindset will change somehow. I can't say it will change on any one specific topic or exactly how it will change, but it WILL change. I know because I have gone through it myself, and recognize it in other people. As to what I would do... It depends on my situation in the future. Right now I would just sorta shrug it off, as I plan on not having children for at LEAST three more years, probably more like five. I want to be at least done with undergraduate college and on towards a masters (Or a career path if I want to go that route) before I even start thinking about children. But if I had a wife who wants children... I'd look into other means. Artificial injection if that's available... whatever method lets me pass on my DNA, if that is at all possible. If for some reason I'm sterile because my little soldiers are all fucked up, a sperm donation would not be out of question. And guys, don't get all excited about not having to wear condums. STDs are a bitch. You better TRUST that girl. |
| Danielle Posts: 3912/6737 |
Eh, it's obviously no desire of mine, but I can understand how upsetting it would be to lose the option. I mean, that's what being female is all about, in a way, and to be told you can't have a child the traditional way... meh.
I hope it doesn't resort to that for you, Taryn.  |
| Clockworkz Posts: 719/984 |
I'd be excited. I am not interested in being a dad. At all. That would make my life. |
| Blades Posts: 9/19 |
Like Rydain said, no interest in prenthood so I'd be happy as hell  |
| Ailure Posts: 1458/2602 |
Originally posted by VyperThe problem with this, being infertile dosen't protect you from various diseases. :/ If I were infertile, I probably would adopt a child or wait until technlogy allows me to get children wtih my DNA (which is already actually possible, but legal and technical reasons needs to be resolved first. With that technology, you can make a egg fertile with DNA from two people of the same gender...). D3stiny_Sm4sher: Becuse some is black, dosen't mean he have to get into black culture. I grew up with some black girl in my class, and she was as much Swede as everyone else, expect for not having a snow-white skin colour of course. |
| cpubasic13 Posts: 442/1193 |
Well, let's see...
I would be saddened. I actually want children when I am older. If I am infertile, I'd just be... saddened. It wouldn't be the end of the world, but still, it would impact my life somehow. (First post in this forum.  ) |
| Tzepish Posts: 111/117 |
"This is a real primitive point of view, but here goes:
Good. Now I can have sex with whoever I want and no matter what, she won't get pregnant! And if she's 100% clean, unprotected sex here I come! ! This is, of course, assuming I don't want kids. And I don't." I actually think this is a much more enlightened view than "I'd be devastated because I want children because... well, because that's what people do!" I'd be happy to be told that I'm sterile, because that will save me the trouble of paying for and going through a vasectomy. I'm not interested in having children - who am I to create more people when there are already so many children out there who need parents? If/when I'm interested in having a child, I'll adopt. |
| Vyper Posts: 269/575 |
Adopt a baby. Have a surrogate mother. Try injection (test-tube baby). There are many ways to counter the problems of infertility in women.
As for my mindset, it's not going to change. Trust me on that. |
| Tarale Posts: 1002/2713 |
Originally posted by Vyper Okay, but at your age I didn't want kids either. What if it was something you might want later on? Say you met the right girl and all of course...? That's the thing I think that really shits me. I may have lost the choice...  |
| Vyper Posts: 268/575 |
This is a real primitive point of view, but here goes:
Good. Now I can have sex with whoever I want and no matter what, she won't get pregnant! And if she's 100% clean, unprotected sex here I come!  !
This is, of course, assuming I don't want kids. And I don't. |
| MathOnNapkins Posts: 455/1106 |
I wouldn't call it the end of the world but it's certainly not anything I would want to happen to me. Perhaps in the future they will have ways to reverse such problems, even have you generate new eggs, who knows. But don't count on technology, I'd have eggs saved ASAP if I were you.
Though, if your ovar |
| Tarale Posts: 988/2713 |
Originally posted by NSNick I don't know for sure yet, I know that the other ovary hurts and I know that I have "general" issues. From what little information the doctors are giving me, I'm not ovulating, so I probably already am infertile  |
| NSNick Posts: 1107/2228 |
I would be saddened and possibly feel less masculine, I guess. I hope to someday have kids, so yeah, that'd be no good.
I know you had the whole thing with your cyst before Tarale, but did something happen to the other ovary? I hope everything's OK... |
| Jomb Posts: 233/448 |
If i were you, i'd look into saving some eggs sooner rather than later, because i get the feeling you want kids someday, and if you loose the ovary unexpectedly you may be sad unless you had some eggs saved for later. |
| D3stiny_Sm4sher Posts: 171/226 |
I'm not entirely interested in marrying someone (or dating someone) for sex, but I do really want to have children.
What would I do? I'd adopt. It would be really cool to, like,m marry an Asian woman, and adopt, like, an African/Asian/Latino kids, or something. But I'm all into the cross-cultural thing. Too bad people from other cultures often have beliefs so weird that I can't seem to work it out with them.
Like, "I have a policy to not ever spend time alone with boys." Right. Because obviously, all boys are evil, or something.  |
| Tarale Posts: 978/2713 |
I never really had much of a desire to parent till fairly recently. I don't know if this is something that's been heightened by the fertility scares / problems, but it is something I think about more now, and I think it's something I'd like the option of doing, one day, in the distant future....
I don't particularly like the idea of having the option taken away from me. I don't know what options would be available to me, but considering that my left ovary has experienced the same sort of pain that led to my right one being removed, the thought of freezing eggs has come to mind on multiple occasions, and if things have to come to that, it's something that I will most certainly try to do. |
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