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Deleted User Posts: 334/-7750 |
If I've projected the image that I want to be with someone desperatly, I didn't mean to show that; I appreciate your advice everyone, but I AM over my ex, and basically I have analized everything that's going on, and I'm ready whenever. I'm not going to use anyone as emotinal support, I actually feel good again; I'm not depressed, I WAS depressed, but not anymore; I'm going to play the "calm" card. I'm not just going to ask her out too soon, like I used to do all the time. Honestly, I enjoy being just her friend at the moment, and if I feel any kind of childish attraction, I'm going to delay these feelings until I disect and analize the situation, and make sure my thoughts and past history aren't throwing me off. I have learned so much from my past relationships, and I plan on taking it slower than ever. |
Jagori Posts: 87/155 |
Originally posted by Plus Sign AbominationOriginally posted by Plus Sign Abomination He speaks the truth. I know from experience... I made the mistake of doing that once. It could well be the only thing in my life that I regret, and would do differently if I had the chance. Do NOT get a girlfriend for the purpose of emotional support. |
Muzgash. Posts: 35/77 |
Skyon...
I'm gonna go with Plus Sign here and say that if you want anything good to happen, do not make a move while you are down. All you are going to do is bog her down with all the same stuff that is getting to you. I have seen it happen too. Find out why you are depressed and work from there. And if is about another girl, say, what your ex did to you or something. Drop it, get over it. There are too many people out there for you to get hung up on a couple that weren't right for you. And you're an idiot if you still let your ex's get to you now. Keep in mind, it is not about showing too much heart. That is just an excuse. To have a heart is to be human. We don't have to show it to prove it. Showing or telling someone how you feel is not weak. I don't think it makes you vulnerable either. I think it just tests our character. If you show or tell someone how you feel and they take that and make fun of it or use it to try and hurt you, all it does is test your character. If you let it bother you, if you get upset, angry, hurt or depressed... you let someone get you to. You let them get to you. That is because you are the only one who can hurt yourself. Anything anyone says or does, doesn't matter. We let things get to us because we doubt ourselves or see something in ourselves we don't like. Someone saying something makes us see it or reminds us that it is there. But if you love yourself enough... If you have a strong enough character, nothing and I mean nothing can get to you. It will bounce right off and make them look like the ass. So show your heart. It may make you feel a bit vulnerable, and it may seem like you get a couple scratches from it, but eventually you will get that you are invulnerable and nothing can put a dent in your character... except what you do to yourself. On a seperate note: Shouldn't this be in the officer's club? |
Ziff Posts: 899/1800 |
Originally posted by Skydude Originally posted by Plus Sign Abomination A lot of people take it when I say this as an insult, but this is the absolute truth. I've seen the effects way too often. |
Deleted User Posts: 329/-7750 |
Well it kind of falls on what I said before; I should totally just be her friend for now and we'll see if anything opens up for anything more than a boy-girl friendship. |
Skydude Posts: 1822/2607 |
I definitely have had to come back from a depression, and I wish I could give you some advice, but there's not really much that works too well for me. It can help to be around friends and do stuff with them, but at the same time, when I'm feeling depressed A) I don't really feel like doing that and B) I'm not that much fun for them to hang out with.
Sounds like the girl would help, though. That helps me when I have that bit of...assistance. |
Metal Man88 Posts: 138/701 |
I can't GET depressed, so I wouldn't know. In fact, I continue to smile at everything, including my own doom, during times when I trip and fall on my face, and even very bad moments.
It helps me get through the day. As for you being mushy, it's fine with me. Just don't get all Shyguy on us. I nearly used my April Fools comic on him in that one topic >.> |
Ziff Posts: 897/1800 |
Originally posted by Skyon Nein. |
Deleted User Posts: 326/-7750 |
She's relaxed, and I just got off the IM with her, and I think there was "something" great that happened maybe, but I can't lose my mind, I'm cool and calm; she's sweet. Forgive me for being mushy guys... |
Tatrion Posts: 1323/2467 |
I say what I think all the time but people still disregard what I say
But otherwise, I can't help you. My idea of hitting on a lady is finding some junk on the floor and throwing it. (joking, I don't do that... often but still. You get my point.) But I don't get depressed, I just try to be funny. Is she serious or relaxed? |
Rom Manic Posts: 100/557 |
Still there, but I've never thought about killing myself. I just look onward, but maybe someday I'll get lucky again...The first love is always the hardest to overcome, as they say |
Deleted User Posts: 325/-7750 |
I'm just now coming out of long seven-month darkness of misery ever since my last girlfriend broke up with me, but now I'm feeling pretty good about life again. If I wasn't christian I would have killed myself by now. But her name is Aleisa and she's pretty cute, and she's very suprisingly bold! She just told me flat out that I was cute, I was surprised, because I thought she would be too embarrassed to say anything like that, but I like how she says what she thinks, I like her as a friend at the current moment, and I'll keep my cool this time, and not ask her out right away, I even have to like her like that first. My problem with the last two girls I was with, was that I showed to much heart, and now I will take it slower than I ever have. So now I'm a little rusty on how I'm going to act around this girl, but I should be fine, I've always been good with girls, but we'll see this time. Have you guys had to come back after a depression like me? |