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| Danielle Posts: 2050/6737 |
What's to say?
"You're cheating on (insert guy's name) and it's wrong, if you don't tell him and be honest I will. He deserves better." |
| Yoronosuku Posts: 302/1239 |
I just need...some advice, on what to actualy say. I think, I'm going to confront her, but...I really don't have any idea how to go about this >.<; I'd really appreciate some direction, anyway. I'm not very good at this sort of thing, you know? |
| Silvershield Posts: 44/587 |
Originally posted by WurlI'm a bit overzealous, maybe, but I mean everything I say  . |
| Wurl Posts: 515/842 |
The phrasing was kind of harsh. I'm not all like "l3t5 ch33t 0n 34ch0th3r!?!?!? lol." |
| Silvershield Posts: 42/587 |
Any romantic involvement relies on at least some small sacrifice of one's own personal security. To open oneself to another person as fully as such a relationship requires, one is taking an enormous risk. To take advantage of the person to whom one declares love (or at least affection) is a violation on two counts: first, it is simply a betrayal, and second, it is the flagrant and damaging misuse of the deep emotions that have been entrusted to the cheater by the person being cheated on. |
| Danielle Posts: 2043/6737 |
How so, Wurl? |
| Wurl Posts: 511/842 |
Originally posted by Silvershield Wow, that's harsh. |
| Snow Tomato Posts: 368/798 |
Here we go.
me: the fact that we're not "official" yet.. kind of bothers me a friend: u can wait all ur life he wont ask u out me: but at the same time.. I'm not sure why it would matter.. cause I don't think he'd go for someone else. a friend: who knows a friend: when you two just like started ur thing a friend: he said he liked julie and wanted to go for her also a friend: and that you knew about that a friend: im not sure if he likes u or not, he probabley does a friend: but he said something about he doesnt wanna be tied down me: I knew that julie liked him kinda me: but he didn't tell me that. An example of a friend being honest to with me... because he's concerned that the person I'm "seeing" might cheat on me. He was trying to warn me to not be so trusting all the time and stuff. But point? I'm happy he told me... cause now I know what questions to ask... and how he really feels about this whole situation. |
| Silvershield Posts: 41/587 |
A cheater is a vile person. Plain and simple. I've been on the receiving end and, let me tell you, the guilty party deserves no mercy as far as being implicated to his or her significant other. He needs to know, one way or another; if she tells him, perfect, but otherwise it's your moral responsibility to do so. |
| Snow Tomato Posts: 364/798 |
I'd tell the guy. I had to tell one of my friends that her boyfriend was cheating on her... it's rough. She eventually thanked me for it when she found out it was true from him. Of course... they broke up bitterly... but that's better than being lied to longer. If I were in that predicament I think being told by my boyfriend would be harder... cause that has happened to me. I would have rather found out from someone else... so I can confront him in an angry rage and make him feel like a dick. Kind of.... a pathetic revenge.
But that's just me. |
| Yoronosuku Posts: 293/1239 |
I've been thinking about it...and I think, it would be best, to at least talk to her and tell her why I feel how I do about this. If she doesn't end up telling him, I might have to tell him myself. I appreciate the offer, Apophis, but, I think he might want to hear it from someone that he can trust and can back it up (he might not believe just anyone telling him that, you know..)
I appreciate the suggestions though...If I end up doing this, I'll probably be doing it some point tonight. How depressing, and on valentine's day =| I'll keep you guys posted if I do end up going through with this. |
| acillatem98 Posts: 23/387 |
I know if I was being cheated on, I don't care who tells me, as long as I know and know it's the truth. I'd just be happy to get the girl out of my life. It probably isn't going to happen having her confront him, if you tell him, he'll confront her about it, that should be good enough. Just as long as he knows before this goes on anymore. No matter how, just let him know, so he doesn't think he has something with her that he doesn't, the love. |
| Tzepish Posts: 105/117 |
I agree with the previous two. He needs to be told. You know that what she's doing is wrong, and that isn't enough (IMO) to allow it to happen simply because you're just as much her friend as his. He's being dicked over and doesn't deserve it; it needs to stop.
It's true that he would probably rather hear it from her, but it's doubtful she'll ever tell him, considering she seems to be fine with what she's doing. Also, if he finds out (through her or on his own), he may actually be pissed at you for knowing about it and not telling him (I would be). My recommendation: Confront her about it, try to convince her to tell him. Failing that, tell him yourself. |
| Sion Posts: 257/639 |
Im with Apophis, that way he will know and youll never be suspected. |
| Apophis Posts: 331/734 |
give me his email. I'll tell him. |
| Trapster Posts: 2257/3604 |
Hmm. Maybe you could drop hints to him so he can figure it out himself without knowing that you knew about it.
Or you could tell him in a nice way about it because you care about him and think he deserves better than that. This is quite hard. |
| Yoronosuku Posts: 292/1239 |
Oh, she knows full and well what she's doing, which is what makes me hate this so much. Like I said before...he deserves so much better than this, just because he's given her so much and this is how he's being repayed.
As for my friendship with either one, I'm trying to be as neutral as possible, but at the same time I know in my heart the girl is in the wrong and I in no way intend to defend her actions. This is just way too confusing  |
| Trapster Posts: 2251/3604 |
Originally posted by Yoronosuku Yeah, that´s a real dilemma. I think you should confront the girl about it and make her realize what she´s doing. Then you could try to make HER tell him, like Danielle said. He´d probably take it better if he gets to hear it from her. I hope this won´t turn out too bad. For your friendship's sake. |
| Black Lord + Posts: 76/273 |
Originally posted by Danielle That's where you're long Danielle, my third leg always bodes well... or beyond well. As for the situation at hand... it's a tough one, but I think I'd like to be informed by anyone if my significant other was cheating on me, just so I know, and that I don't go on thinking everythiing is alright. |
| Danielle Posts: 2015/6737 |
If I were in his position, I'd rather SHE told me, not you Yoro. Sure, he'll be happy later on, now that he's out of the relationship... but wouldn't it be better for both of them if they talked about it? I mean, a third leg never bodes well... =\
But if after all efforts she refuses to tell him.. then I would agree that you should. |
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