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| Uncle Elmo Posts: 96/308 |
Umm.. can we keep the flaming and off topic chat here to a minimum please or I'll be forced to close this thread. Ta. |
| Kutske Posts: 121/171 |
Yeah yeah, I'm done. Sometimes I just like to see how far I can push before someone says something. Oh and, while we're on the topic, you know "monochromatic" doesn't mean "gray," right? Technically, something that was all red to the exclusion of other colors would be considered monochromatic. Try "#444444 feline." Or better yet, 1j/kg feline. That's one joule per kilogram (which is equal to one Gray, the SI unit of measure). |
| Schweiz oder etwas Posts: 425/2046 |
Now you're going too far, Kutske. You better hope insectduel's taking this with a grain of salt, 'cause if you don't stop picking on him, I'm gonna tear you a new one myself. Keep it civil, and try not to make your rapier wit poke a scratch that "'tis enough". Back on topic, people. |
| Kutske Posts: 118/171 |
Yoronosuku: insectduel is a man, too. Hypocritical, if he was generalizing.. and I hope you don't get the impression that I think males are 'evil', or unfavorable, or I purposly don't like them. I just have a tendancy to not make friends with them as easy, and it already isn't very easy ._.;; Just to clear it up so I don't sound like a sexist! Oh no, I'm just poking fun at insectduel. He has a certain...way with words. The same sort of way a atom bomb has with delicacy. |
| netscape Posts: 54/90 |
Originally posted by Kutske I got your point, just my world view is different then yours. Originally? oil. This started over resources. Then in the second gulf war Bush jr's ego. Now let me counter with would Bush's campaign of falsely linking Iraq to Al Quada have worked on a population more informed then his misinformation and half truths?
Insectduel has a point. This culture is still getting over its male dominated roots of treating women as property. The sooner people wake up and realize women have souls too the better. |
| Yoronosuku Posts: 190/1239 |
insectduel is a man, too. Hypocritical, if he was generalizing.. and I hope you don't get the impression that I think males are 'evil', or unfavorable, or I purposly don't like them. I just have a tendancy to not make friends with them as easy, and it already isn't very easy ._.;; Just to clear it up so I don't sound like a sexist! |
| Kutske Posts: 113/171 |
netscape: Bah we're getting off topic. What breeds war is lack of information and empathy, or lack of resources. People will fight for resources, competition is human nature. The way to combat that is to make sure people can get what they need and educate them to be open minded about other cultures so government demonizing campaigns to prep public support for war will fail. Murder has many causes stemming from from a range of issues. Once again, you've missed my point in it's entirety. But oh well. Hey, lemme ask you, what resources did America go to war in Iraq for? insectduel: I kinda wish males in general will stop using women as objects. Even, I been used as an object back at my senior year. Why do guys always doing this. Why? Because all men are evil and women are the only real good in the world, obviously. |
| Bella Posts: 125/169 |
Nah, I'll see him later today at work.
I'm not going to sit here and say "Oh, it's so bad that guys do that" because they do but not all are that way so I'm not going to complain about that one. I just ignore those type of guys and move on. Yeah, it's hard to approach someone, for anyone. It's hard to get passed your past experiences and I don't know how I'm doing it. Something is helping me gain confidence to talk to guys. With this guy right now, I think it's easier because he's just as shy too so we both stand there and look stupid  . |
| insectduel Posts: 268/768 |
I kinda wish males in general will stop using women as objects. Even, I been used as an object back at my senior year. Why do guys always doing this. Why? |
| Trapster Posts: 1586/3604 |
Originally posted by Yoronosuku Yeah, I can understand that after they did that to you. I hope it´ll get better for you, though. I hope you´ll get more friends IRL someday. Hmm, a little off-topic there. Are you making any progress, Bella? |
| netscape Posts: 50/90 |
Originally posted by Kutske Bah we're getting off topic. What breeds war is lack of information and empathy, or lack of resources. People will fight for resources, competition is human nature. The way to combat that is to make sure people can get what they need and educate them to be open minded about other cultures so government demonizing campaigns to prep public support for war will fail. Murder has many causes stemming from from a range of issues. |
| Kutske Posts: 108/171 |
netscape: Actually it's a psychological tool. Preserves one's feelings. If I'm not interested in someone I have no problem with them figuring they're too good for me. No skin off my nose really, and it'll help their confidence for the next one. My point was, that was an everyday sort of example of what I see to be a growing social problem -- everyone thinks they are the be-all end-all, when in reality, a single person is just a drop of water in the vast ocean of life. It seems like everyone has inflated themselves up to be God on Earth, and it seems like people are more and more often making important descisions based solely upon their tiny, skewed view of the world. It's dangerous, it's what breeds war and fosters murder. Uncle Elmo: Either way, good luck Bella. It's good to see in this age of sexual equality, some women take the initiative. *drops the bomb* Now about paying for the meal... |
| Uncle Elmo Posts: 88/308 |
Do I like being approached by women?
Now this IS strange but in every one of my relationships, the woman made the first move, every time I'VE made the first move I've been rejected offhand. Strange that. Perhaps I need to start giving women the brush off. 
I personally though find it very flattering, other guys might not see it in that way, and some more unscrupulous men might even see it as a sort of predatorial advantage and try to progress the relationship towards sex quicker than they usually would. Either way, good luck Bella. It's good to see in this age of sexual equality, some women take the initiative. |
| Yoronosuku Posts: 174/1239 |
I never ever ever make the first move  Not so much...I am really a shy person in real life, and I only have a couple of good friends (and a bunch of 'casual' ones...if that makes sense? Like I just sort of see them there during the day)..but if I know you or once I get to I can be fine..but I will never approach a guy to tell them I like them, or even just...to start a conversation. I have very few male friends in real life......actualy, Tony (Keitaro/Majin, to you people..) is the only male friend I actualy have, at all in real life .__.;;
I just have had so many bad experiences with males back at home. After dad left, a really stupid boy that used to be my friend gave me such a hard time. And then his stupid friends all started being really really mean to me. Its just so hard for me to want to approach guys anymore..even just on a friendly level. It makes it really hard for me to get close to guys around here, or even at home, since I don't know them, and I'm too scared to get to know them...you know =| Its so much easier online I think because you kind of don't have so much to loose, you don't see the people every day and it is a little less nervewrecking. Ahh...but I guess to answer the question, no I don't approach guys, never ever ._.; maybe they like it..but you know, I don't feel like I'm missing so much. I love my friends I do have to death, I never felt like I absolutly needed to make friends with guys (but do not think I am sexist and only do not want to be friends with them, you know what I mean right?) for the sake of doing so. You know? |
| Jomb Posts: 45/448 |
Me personally, i love it when a girl approaches me. I'm a very shy person, it could literally take me months to build up to talking to a girl the first time. After that first time it is much easier, so if she already broke the ice life is all around better |
| netscape Posts: 49/90 |
replies in no particular order:
Originally posted by Bella It'll get easier -b Originally posted by Kutske Actually it's a psychological tool. Preserves one's feelings. If I'm not interested in someone I have no problem with them figuring they're too good for me. No skin off my nose really, and it'll help their confidence for the next one. |
| Bella Posts: 120/169 |
HA...HA he is so damn shy it's not even funny. It's cute, but then it can start to get annoying, but he probably didn't expect it so now I'm just gonna keep it on the down-low to "Hi's" and "Bye's". While talking to me he'd look at me and look away and he'd look at me for a little bit then look somewhere else. I'm that way too if someone I wouldn't expect, comes up to me..especially if the guy is attractive. I have heard some things about how shy he is, like run away and hide shy  . This other guy told me he's not shy but then he said he's probably shy around you because you're a girl..or something but anyways. That question is still held up, it's weird how some guys like it and some guys don't. I've always been told that you never know until you try. I was pretty sure that guys do like to get approached by the girl. I do notice when I'm approached by the guy..I don't know how to deal with it but that's just me. |
| Kutske Posts: 103/171 |
Bella, my opinion might not be of much value seeing as I don't like the whole concept of "dating," but in my own personal experience, looking for love is a fool's game. I think that love is uncontrollable -- you can't form it over time, even if you can fake it or make-believe it -- it's either there or it's not. What I personally look for is a connection, something that makes you the same, and I don't mean common interests. Plus, dating tends to be based on physical appearance alone -- I mean, if you're going to go up to a guy, you're not going to go for the ugliest one in the room now, are you? That's why I so despise dating; false hopes and shattered dreams, but that's another show. To me, the saddest thing in all the world is when two people date, go steady, eventually engage and marry then "fall out of love." Why? Because I say, you can't "fall out of love." If you think you're falling out of love, then it was never there in the first place.
Instincts; intuition. That's what you follow, and you won't be lead astray. Snow Solanum lycopersicum: Also, telling some guys that you really really like them alot.. scares the poop out of them for some reason. At least, that's happened twice with me. I think that's true of either sex. Guy walks up to a girl and says, "Hi, I'm Darren, I really really like you." zomginternetpredator!!1 Girl walks up to a guy and says, "Hi, I'm Melissa, I really really like you." zomgclingydesperatevirgin!!2 netscake: On the off chance you get a negative don't take it personally, just means you're too good for em. That's kind of a shitty attitude. What if you were the one turning someone down? Does that make you not good enough for them? Really, I hope this isn't how people actually think. Otherwise, the world's a lot more dangerous than I thought it was. |
| Arwon Posts: 65/631 |
Nice girls talking to me = good.
Duh. |
| netscape Posts: 48/90 |
Being approached can be cool. Just don't come on too strong. Too strong can = omg get the expletive away from here. However just right can = whoa cool she digs me. Just keep it real, casual, and cool and you should be fine. On the off chance you get a negative don't take it personally, just means you're too good for em. |
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