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| Danielle Posts: 626/6737 |
That's... odd. I swear I posted a very long, detailed reply to this thread yesterday. I wonder if it... somehow got deleted? 
Ah well, I will again when I wake up a bit.  |
| Trapster Posts: 842/3604 |
Too bad it hasnīt gotten better for you. But itīs good that youīve less money to pay on that debt. Iīd like to be there to comfort you but that isnīt possible.
I donīt really know much about helping people that have problems with stress. Sorry. I hope it gets better, though. |
| NSNick Posts: 182/2228 |
I'm sorry. If I was there, I'd give you a back rub, but I guess the best I can do from here is tell you you'll manage, and to drink one for me.  |
| Iori Yagami Posts: 131/570 |
With the housemate thing I can only say what my best friend told me that helped A LOT to get over my first love and now my second love got over about the same amount with keeping that advice in mind. Which is, "I don't need him/his name." Technically my mind went a blank at the moment when thinking about that but that's basically it though and said out loud works. I'm not sure how well that will work out for you but it's there.
As for giving yourself a break I don't have much to offer for advice there. All I can say is talking to your close friends and listen to what they have to say. |
| Tarale Posts: 120/2713 |
There's still entirely too many things on my mind lately.
I had my previous threads about some of this stuff deleted, for security reasons, and I apologise if I have to do it again later. Well, the debt issues are still problematic, but clearing up. Instead of $35,000 of wrongful debt, it may now only be $10,000. Which is MUCH more manageable - I may actually be able to get a loan for that amount of money! Problem is my credit rating isn't all the best; and I've been trying to fix it with Baycorp to little avail.... I think as of end of last week I've done all I can with my credit file, and I need to find a time (when it's not friggen Christmas, so probably not this year then) to go and apply for a loan. There's still the issues with my housemate. I'm an idiot and I fell in love with him, he doesn't seem to know I exist anymore. I want to tell him how I really, REALLY feel, but I think it's just going to be a waste of time. I can't help but get the feeling he's still holding a candle for his ex.
Moving house at the beginning of the year... this bothers me too... partly because of all the packing and moving, partly cause I don't know if it's wise to live with my housemate again considering my feelings for him. It probably isn't, but finding a home is expensive if you're by yourself; and I can't (mentally) afford to go back to my mother's -- she only triggers and worsens my clinical depression by treating me like I'm 13 years old. What really really bothers me though is -- none of the things I've written about above are things that I need to deal with right now and probably not till next year, but I can't turn my brain off and stop thinking about and worrying about it all. I guess it's because this entire year (with the debt and all) has been so highly stressful that now I'm in a cycle of adrenaline and cortisol overproduction/use that I can't switch off. 
With the debt issue partially resolved (or at least, time bought), I *should* be able to lie back and take a deep breath and chill the hell out, but I can't! Instead I'm stuck in this weird cycle where I still feel like it's a matter of daily urgency to plan things, sort things out, etc. Rationally I know I have time on my side now though... (which I haven't had for the last 6 months at least) Any hints on turning off the overthinking/overplanning/worrying/stress? Any hints on how to just "let go" of your worries after they've been problematic for a long time, and convince yourself that it's okay if you give yourself a break? |
