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Simple question, are you shy? If so, how shy are you?| Very Shy |
17.6%, 9 votes | Sorta Shy |
56.9%, 29 votes | Hardly Shy |
19.6%, 10 votes | Not At All! |
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Bella Ludwig Von Koopa You're Gonna Love Me Level: 76  Posts: 1677/2962 EXP: 3891483 For next: 114577 Since: 03-29-04 From: Groovy Way Since last post: 8 min. Last activity: 6 min. |
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Is that the only person you know like this or is there anyone else? It depends on the person. You have a chance to change as you get older and you just need to go with the risks in life, it's better to take risks then none at all and have nothing happen to you. I need to start going by that myself  |
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Synneth Relmn Paratroopa Level: 20  Posts: 116/144 EXP: 36477 For next: 5962 Since: 08-13-04 Since last post: 16 days Last activity: 7 days |
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He's the only other shy person I know, but maybe that's just because I don't know many people, being shy myself. Anyways, I have a rampant fear of fKitten Yiffer, so risk taking really doesn't work for me.  |
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Bella Ludwig Von Koopa You're Gonna Love Me Level: 76 Posts: 1678/2962 EXP: 3891483 For next: 114577 Since: 03-29-04 From: Groovy Way Since last post: 8 min. Last activity: 6 min. |
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Just be more positive about things, don't think of failing . I think confidence will come with that  . You just have to start off slowly and work your way up with things. I need to do that too.  |
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Synneth Relmn Paratroopa Level: 20 Posts: 117/144 EXP: 36477 For next: 5962 Since: 08-13-04 Since last post: 16 days Last activity: 7 days |
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| Much, much, MUCH easier said than done. | |||
Danielle Local Moderator  Level: 76  Posts: 1592/3359 EXP: 3958078 For next: 47982 Since: 09-15-04 From: RATE Since last post: 3 hours Last activity: 3 hours |
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| Well like she said, and like I've said before.. a good attitude will get you far. There's always going to be shy people in the world, but don't compare yourself to them. Let yourself open up a little, things will be okay. You'd be amazed that there are friendly people out there. |
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Shadic Cukeman Level: 27  Posts: 273/304 EXP: 111073 For next: 5086 Since: 08-20-04 From: Somewhere, Over the Rainbow! Since last post: 9 days Last activity: 2 hours |
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| I'm hardly shy in real life... I'm not exactly the most social person. But I'll talk to anybody that I feel like... But yeh, the girl I like knows I like her... It's sort of nice to get that out.. But everybody knows... And yeh... It's sort of the thing I just shrug off. I've gotten a lot better at speaking in front of people... Guess High School does that to ya. |
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Bella Ludwig Von Koopa You're Gonna Love Me Level: 76 Posts: 1679/2962 EXP: 3891483 For next: 114577 Since: 03-29-04 From: Groovy Way Since last post: 8 min. Last activity: 6 min. |
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| If you compare yourself to the shy people then you won't open up as much and keep yourself at that level..it's better to rise above. Like she said too, there are some decent people to meet. | |||
Seph2k4 Bob-Omb Level: 39 Posts: 582/619 EXP: 376086 For next: 28685 Since: 03-16-04 Since last post: 6 days Last activity: 6 days |
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| I am sorta shy (only in certain situations, though, in the same degree that I don't have exactly stellar social skills and I find it difficult to start up a conversation often times), but then again, I am also autistic (there's a confession for you), another personality trait about me that I've been born with and simply cannot change, sadly. | |||
Tamarin Calanis We exist. Earth exists. The universe exists. Do we really need to know why? Level: 59 Posts: 731/1802 EXP: 1672751 For next: 377 Since: 07-12-04 From: The gas station on the corner... Since last post: 5 hours Last activity: 5 hours |
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| Maybe 'shy' isn't the word, but it's close enough to my problem. Quite ironic, too... I spent much of my time when I was younger trying to help other people (all girls, actually) overcome their shyness, and then it ends up hitting me. I have no problem trying to help customers when I'm at work (even though it's not my job to help them), and even sometimes offer before I'm asked to, but when it comes to actually trying to have a conversation... eheh, I'll just find some excuse to go away. As for why, I dunno. Perhaps it has more to do with the shy girls that I was helping; they were picked on pretty frequently, so in trying to help them perhaps I got to know the cruelty of the world, which made me withdraw more. Maybe it's being unceremoniously and callously torn from my friends years ago (wouldn't have been so bad if my grandmother at least pretended to care =/) and a subconscious fear of that happening again. Maybe it's fear of losing my temper in public. And maybe it's pointless trying to figure out why. (edited by Tamarin Calanis on 08-12-05 01:04 AM) |
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MorbidMolly Octoballoon Level: 21  Posts: 164/171 EXP: 46523 For next: 3420 Since: 08-26-04 From: my house, a state, USA Since last post: 70 days Last activity: 5 days |
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| I am shy around people I like. Wich sucks because then they won't know the real me untill much later. I am a farely quiet person regardless. |
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PumpkinPie Boo! I'll scare your dad!  Big Boo Pretend Moderator All hail the Pumpkin King! Level: 47  Posts: 896/1158 EXP: 718208 For next: 47995 Since: 12-05-04 From: Halloween Town Treats: Many Tricks: Oh yes Since last post: 2 days Last activity: 8 hours |
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| In public, I'm pretty quiet... hopefully in a cool way. However, when I'm with people I know, I'm completely different. There's hardly a moment that I'm not talking. | |||
Zer0wned Cheep-cheep Level: 17  Posts: 6/181 EXP: 21472 For next: 3271 Since: 08-16-05 From: Hermosa Beach, CA Since last post: 30 days Last activity: 30 days |
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| sorta shy I used to be a street vendor and a cashier, so I can be semi-social when I have to be. I can't mingle, large enough groups of unfamiliar people freak me the hell out if I have to interact with them (it's a problem when I can't view them as objects anymore). I was the unofficial "head" of a sizeable group of people, a leader of outcasts if you will. In the form of an analogy, on a football team I'm a hell of a teammate, but don't ask me to talk to reporters.... Until very recently I've been very isolated, I've literally gone about 6 days without talking (verbally, plenty of online communication) several times (it'd be 7 or more, but I see my girlfriend once a week). So I think my outwardness has been affected accordingly... I can barely form complete sentences sometimes now. |
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Shadow Red Red Koopa Level: 15  Posts: 79/133 EXP: 13999 For next: 2385 Since: 08-11-05 Since last post: 72 days Last activity: 71 days |
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| I'm not shy at all, the only time I am is when im with a group of dumbasses. (potheads, drunks) Some can be alright though. I usually go somewhere everynight with friends and/or girlfriend. You should be confident, why defeat yourself in your own mind. Other people can try to do that for you. Plus, confidence shows through to the opposite sex. |
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Zer0wned Cheep-cheep Level: 17 Posts: 8/181 EXP: 21472 For next: 3271 Since: 08-16-05 From: Hermosa Beach, CA Since last post: 30 days Last activity: 30 days |
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| I don't think it's so much of a lack of confidence as it is sometimes a general distrust for people in general, or the fact that less people in your life means less obligation to others. I'm borderline cocky and I know most people like me, it's just a matter of having to deal with them again. I'm referring to shyness around people you don't already know. That's totally different in my opinion. I just think each person needs to find their own balance between being introverted and... whatever the opposite of introverted is. Either extreme is unhealthy. |
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Shadow Red Red Koopa Level: 15 Posts: 81/133 EXP: 13999 For next: 2385 Since: 08-11-05 Since last post: 72 days Last activity: 71 days |
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| Distrust in people? what are they gonna do, chloroform you when you look the other way and tie you up in their basement? You can have a million acquantances without giving a oodle of obligation. Sounds more like an excuse than anything else. I can you give horror stories on getting screwed over and stepped on. However, that doesnt mean you have to shove everyone away. I'm pretty warm to strangers as long as they return the favor. Shyness comes from defeating yourself. (lack of a self esteem) pssf, dont let life pass you by. (edited by Shadow Red on 08-17-05 04:13 PM) |
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Zer0wned Cheep-cheep Level: 17 Posts: 9/181 EXP: 21472 For next: 3271 Since: 08-16-05 From: Hermosa Beach, CA Since last post: 30 days Last activity: 30 days |
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| Well, I was raised around criminals, salesmen, con men, (hell, my dad is a sales/conman) and manipulative people. I never said people shouldn't be trusted, I was saying I don't trust strangers, I have my own personal inhibitions from a background I've yet to manage to completely dissassociate from. Asking me to overcome that would be like telling a claustrophobic to just get over it. I'd work on it, but I actually enjoy just having a small circle of friends. Being outgoing in the social sense never really appealed to me, I've always found small talk to be rather pointless.Not even fun, really. As for the obligations part, I was referring to people that befriend almost everyone they see, ignore that part on the level of acquaintences. Anyhow, not being comfortable around new people isn't a direct correlation to confidence, as you seem to be so sure of. Yes, it's definitely one of the reasons, not mine, and not a lot of the people I know that are the same way. I can speak to very large groups of people, I can converse with people I don't know without freaking out, and asking questions/answering questions from random people doesn't bother me in the slightest. What I'm getting at is I have a preference against warming up anyone and everyone. A preference against is not a fear. (edited by Zer0wned on 08-17-05 04:50 PM) |
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Shadow Red Red Koopa Level: 15 Posts: 82/133 EXP: 13999 For next: 2385 Since: 08-11-05 Since last post: 72 days Last activity: 71 days |
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Originally posted by Zer0wned You make good points I understand what your saying, but this statement doesnt make much sense. I mean, insecuritys arounds new people is what leaves you quiet. Too many things going in your head to actually chill out and realize they dont even care. However, if your confident you can go right up and talk. Your SURE of yourself, it doesnt make a difference if someone else doesnt like you for something. All im saying is being insecure if like having your hands cuffed. You'll never experience some of the better things about life. If its your preference then your right, it has nothing to do with your confidence and thats a good thing. Its not like other people who desire to be in others company but cant because of their unrealistic image of themself. |
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aioria1981 Ninji Level: 20  Posts: 33/234 EXP: 36701 For next: 5738 Since: 07-20-05 From: Viña del Mar, Chile Since last post: 5 days Last activity: 5 days |
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Originally posted by Sukasa Pretty much the same as me. When it comes to talking with girls, i'm afraid of saying stupid things or annoy them. (Or worse, getting rejected  ) |
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Shadow Red Red Koopa Level: 15 Posts: 109/133 EXP: 13999 For next: 2385 Since: 08-11-05 Since last post: 72 days Last activity: 71 days |
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Originally posted by aioria1981 You really should just do it, dont show your afraid. If you want a girl to have you attention, be calm and confident in any situation your in. Life might suck sometimes in a relationship but being single forever has to suck more. Its their loss if they reject you. |
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Bella Ludwig Von Koopa You're Gonna Love Me Level: 76 Posts: 1820/2962 EXP: 3891483 For next: 114577 Since: 03-29-04 From: Groovy Way Since last post: 8 min. Last activity: 6 min. |
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I'm shy around guys  well attractive ones . It's like..I can't look them in the face. I'm sure I'll get over that, it'll take time for me haha. At my new 'lil college I don't really have any guy friends yet in the past years I've noticed that I haven't had too many guy friends but the ones I did have I could talk to easily but it's with the guys I find attractive .Sometimes stupid things are the best and cute  ..well to me |
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