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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get.  Level: 73  Posts: 1987/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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| Why is it that bad things all happen at once? Oh well, this is why I drink. Most of you know by now that I'm not having a good time as far as my health goes, but there are a few other nasties happening lately too. First off, I'm breaking up with my long-time partner of three years. The relationship was abusive and difficult and I am better off without it. Secondly I have a big ovarian cyst on my right ovary that hurts like hell but only ocasionally and for short periods. I'm more concerned about the possibility of it twisting or bursting. Lastly, today I was served with a Bankruptcy notice. I either have to find $25,238.18 or be bankrupted. I'm particularly miffed about this, as the ex generated this debt under my name without my express permission and without me knowing what exactly was going on either, and I'm the one that's going to be fucked over by it. This is why I drink, people. I don't cope with shit like this, and when the shit hits the fan, I drink. Now, shit quite this serious has never hit the fan before and not all at once, I've just had things like deaths in the family, stalkers, rape etc before, and they only attacked singularly, not in triplets like this. *sigh* Gah! Pfftttbbppptt... I don't really know what to do with all of this right now, but I'm going to try to sort it all out. My health, obviously is the priority, but how to buy time with the other two issues? The last issue in particular scares the bejeezus outta me and has the ability to fuck up my life significantly! I want a day or a week off work.  And more beer. (edited by Tarale on 05-28-05 05:04 PM) |
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Xeolord - B l u e s - Power Metal > All Level: 81  Posts: 1984/3418 EXP: 4884196 For next: 108653 Since: 03-15-04 From: Yeah Since last post: 15 hours Last activity: 15 hours |
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| I know this probably won't help a bit, but please be open minded about my opinion here ... Beer. How is that truly going to help? There goes a lot of cash. And I seriously doupt drinking is all that "healthy" for you also. Then again I guess there's nothing you can really do about it, can you? Have you tried? My mom still smokes, and I used to tell her to stop all the time. She never did, and cigarettes go for what, $20 in those large packages? That seriously adds up to be a lot of money. I do feel bad about all your issues, but I'm sure there's other decisions for you that would actually make a better outcome of your current situations. (Yes, bad things do seem to all happen at once though. Very true.  )Well there's my 2 [worthless] cents I guess. Sorry. Best of luck. =\ |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 1989/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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| Eh, Beer is just... good... right now. It's calming down the mounting feeling of fear and worry and panic. Besides, once I've calmed down, I might be in a better mood to actually start investigating things like Legal Aid. Beer isn't truly going to help, but it's going to make me a lot calmer, and in the immediate short term (ie, right now) numb. And numb would be good right now. |
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Slay Level: 25 Posts: 122/339 EXP: 85592 For next: 4028 Since: 04-28-05 From: Threshold Between Heaven and Hell Since last post: 1 day Last activity: 1 day |
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| I hate to be the one to say it, but I have no sympathy for the weak-hearted. Pain is what makes us real, suffering is what makes us human. We deal with loss, pick up and move on. You either face up to reality, or you hide from it. The curse of humanity is our capacity for thought. Our consciousness and free-will have enabled us to progress more than any other creature in the history of existence as we know it, but at the same time, it allows us to experience mental anguish of an intensity that lesser beings wouldn't be able to handle. It's all about balance. If we didn't experience pain, we wouldn't be able to appreciate pleasure. If we knew no sadness, we could not know happiness. So you can complain about your problems on an anonymous message board, or you can go and solve them. You always have the luxury to choose your path. Don't take that for granted. | |||
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 1990/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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| Frankly, I'd like not to consider myself weak-hearted. I've been through stalking, rape, death of several close family members (including my father), abusive relationships and clinical depression/mental illness, and I would like to think I've come out of it all fairly well. I'm just having difficulty with it all attacking all at once. I feel like... I'm not being given enough time to... plan my next move... if that makes sense. And that half the time, I don't even know what my next move IS, particularly with this legal minefield I'm about to walk into.  I've also lost the ability to concentrate at work, and I just feel fucken irritated all the time.I really wish I wasn't prone to worry/panic attacks, because neither the panic attack nor the bottle(s) of Cooper and Son's Ltd. Pale Ale I'm using to numb it, is helping me plot this all through.  I don't want to take depression meds for that kind of stuff again though either or I'll be even more out of it. |
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MathOnNapkins Math n' Hacks Level: 67  Posts: 1924/2189 EXP: 2495887 For next: 96985 Since: 03-18-04 From: Base Tourian Since last post: 1 hour Last activity: 32 min. |
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| Well first things first is your health, get the cyst taken care of, and take your Ex to court over the debt if you can. $25,000 is a shit ton of money not everyone has lying around. I don't even know what he could be doing racking up that kind of money. I went to college four years and came out owing $10,000 less than that. | |||
Dark Vampriel Lynel "Life is just a dream on the way to death." Level: 57  Posts: 1222/1658 EXP: 1400355 For next: 85573 Since: 08-29-04 From: Somewhere..... Since last post: 2 hours Last activity: 4 min. |
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| I suggest that health is indeed the first priority on the list to take care of. As for the ex gaining that much debt in, either over the years or just over the past months, needs to get taken care of after the health. Try going to the bank and make a compromise if you could pay it off a little at a time, ask your mother for some help, take your ex to court as MathOnNapkins suggested, or all three. Lastly, the break up would be slightly more easier to comprehend with seeing as you already know that you can do better without the abuse. | |||
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Legion banning people for no reason sure is fun Level: 101  Posts: 4133/5657 EXP: 10399737 For next: 317938 Since: 03-15-04 From: The Crossroads is under attack! Since last post: 5 days Last activity: 5 days |
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Originally posted by Slay Some people have different ways of doing it though. Her way isn't weak-hearted. She's just seeking a kind word or two, maybe some reassurance that everything is going to be fine and a bit of advice. Personally, I keep my problems to myself because I just prefer dealing with them on my own. Never really like to tell people what's bothering me. I take it you're the same way? Either way, no one way is better than another. It all comes down to personal preference and how you cope with things best. |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 1992/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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Leg's right, I'm not the kind that finds bottling up things to be helpful. Even if I don't get any actual help, I do find it useful to get things off my chest.  If I don't get things off my chest, I tend to stew on things and build stuff up to bigger than what it is. I don't know why it is, but when I get things out, for some reason writing it out, or talking to somebody enables me to put things better into perspective and it all isn't so..... scary? Talking things out helps me... think things out. Although I gotta admit, this law stuff freaks me *right* out . I'm pretty sure I need one of those.. laywer things.Course, everybody deals with things differently. I like to get stuff off my chest, some people keep things to themselves. |
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Kasumi-Astra Administrator Level: 62  Posts: 1532/1867 EXP: 1971846 For next: 12840 Since: 03-15-04 From: Reading, UK Uni: Sheffield, UK Since last post: 1 day Last activity: 12 hours |
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Originally posted by Slay The fuck you don't. Until you're there you won't ever understand. There are powers in life that just won't see your point of view and will love to wring you of every penny you have. That's what bankruptcy does. That's what health matters do. Fine, accuse n00bs who complain about their daddies but Christ, THINK before you say something to people who really do have a case. Taryn, you've been doing great so far. I think you've been doing well on the health front and you've been persuing this monster cyst as best you could've... I think legal aid would be well worth a try, there's got to be someone who can prove that you're not responsible for your debts. |
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NSNick Laidback Admin Level: 85  Posts: 2329/3875 EXP: 5895841 For next: 2699 Since: 03-15-04 From: North Side School: OSU Since last post: 9 hours Last activity: 1 hour |
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| I've never been good with knowing what to say, but- hang in there. You'll sort through everything, it'll all get worked out in time. Just take it one day, and one thing, at a time. | |||
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Slay Level: 25 Posts: 124/339 EXP: 85592 For next: 4028 Since: 04-28-05 From: Threshold Between Heaven and Hell Since last post: 1 day Last activity: 1 day |
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The Darth Legious says... Quite. Some people explode, some people turn to self-destruction, some use drugs and others vent their agression in violence. I choose another path. I contain my feelings of hurt, of loss, dismay, fear, of opression and anger, and wrap them around my heart like a smoldering flame clinging to a blackened log. There, these powerful emotions lay dormant, but under my control. I see this as useful, for if the need ever arises, I know I can unleash them as I see fit. Tarale, I'm sorry if what I've said has hurt you. I didn't intend the tone of that post to be so harsh, nor judging. I suppose that post of mine was a venting rant, of sorts, even if it lacked capitalized words and exclimation points. I read a lot of complaints throughout the internet, as we all surely do, but I rarely respond to any of them. I suppose I just clicked one and mouthed off, without considering the fact that the problems of the person I was speaking towards could be grave and justifying of a malcontented oration. Obviously an ovarian cyst and $25,000 debt are no small gripes. I wish you speedy convalescence. |
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Ran-chan Moldorm eek, when are they going to stop growing... Level: 143  Posts: 9701/12781 EXP: 35293588 For next: 538220 Since: 03-15-04 From: Nerima District, Tokyo - Japan Since last post: 12 hours Last activity: 12 hours |
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Originally posted by Tarale I hope that the cyst isn |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 1994/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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Originally posted by Slay That's okay, and no you didn't hurt me, but I did see "weak-hearted" as an unneccessary dig at me.  Particularly as -- as I said -- I certainly don't consider myself to be considering all the shiat I've been through The "complain" thing got me too; as it wasn't so much my intention to complain as much as it was to... unload some of the stuff on my mind.Anyways, I have a very loosely formulated "plan of action" so far, but I don't really know what's going to happen yet.... Tomorrow I intend to do the following: * Call Legal Services and discuss my options. See if I am eligible for legal aid. * Call the ex and verbally abuse the shit out of him * Call the ex's father as he is very smart and helpful and might be able to offer me some advice, as well as possibly give my ex a kick up the bum. * Call the lawyers doing this whole thing and let them know that I will be getting a letter from my GP / specialist regarding the cyst. As I still don't know if/when I may be hospitalised, the lawyers involved need to know about my current state of medical limbo and take it into account. * Speak to my boss about what is happening, see what can be done about either time off work or something as with all of this on my mind, I am not giving anything close to 100% at work; in fact I think I'm making tons of errors due to lack of concentration * Probably have more beer * See if I can piece together some written idea of what happened re: the debt; why it was out of my hands, etc. * Get mobile phone credit, as I ran out. Right now, I intend to: * go back to bed and try to sleep * failing sleep; meditate for a while and try to sleep * try to ignore the panic-attack I've been having for the past two hours * try to get enough sleep to be "on the ball" tomorrow I am prepared for the worst-case scenario here, I guess.... at the moment I am reasonably pessimistic. I'm expecting the worst, and if anything better happens it'll be a fucking brilliant surprise. |
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Graviteh Level: 31 Posts: 322/500 EXP: 165989 For next: 19374 Since: 03-27-05 From: The Internet Since last post: 42 days Last activity: 1 day |
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Slay Level: 25 Posts: 125/339 EXP: 85592 For next: 4028 Since: 04-28-05 From: Threshold Between Heaven and Hell Since last post: 1 day Last activity: 1 day |
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| I was going by the dictionary definition of complain, which is simply to voice feelings of dissatisfaction or pain. The internet seems to have turned the term synonymous with "whine," but I always go with the dictionary over other uses of a word. Edit And I didn't explain it, but it was using alcohol as a means to forget one's problems that I was calling weak-hearted, not you as an individual. It's my personal policy to never insult a person, only their actions. Suffice it to say that I've dealt with alcoholism around me in the past, and have formed a kneejerk reaction to the subject. (edited by Slay on 05-29-05 06:43 AM) |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 1995/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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Originally posted by Graviteh NEVAR! Geez, you people act like I'm a fucking alcoholic. Would it make you guys happier if I was hopped up on Zoloft again? Seriously, I do not have an alcohol dependency or anything, I can get on the wagon for weeks, months and years in a row. But when I am stressed, I do tend to drink a little, okay? It does help calm my nerves a little, and I enjoy it and it takes my mind off things. And frankly, I'd rather drink a little when I'm stressed rather than be on prescribed anti-depression anti-anxiety drugs again and be an emotionless zombie. If you ask me, prescription drugs for mental illnesses are more dangerous and fucked up than me having a little bit of a drink (edited by Tarale on 05-29-05 10:22 AM) |
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Kasumi-Astra Administrator Level: 62 Posts: 1533/1867 EXP: 1971846 For next: 12840 Since: 03-15-04 From: Reading, UK Uni: Sheffield, UK Since last post: 1 day Last activity: 12 hours |
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| If you still can't sleep and you don't want another b33r, play some Super Mario World, Link to the Past or some classic Final Fantasy. People always underestimate the simple pleasures in life when they're at their most stressed. I've got my last exam on Wednesday, and it's going to be tricky... I've revised for an hour and a half today, and played Zelda for about three Yet, I've still got the composure to carry on revising without losing the ability to think on my feet. |
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Graviteh Level: 31 Posts: 327/500 EXP: 165989 For next: 19374 Since: 03-27-05 From: The Internet Since last post: 42 days Last activity: 1 day |
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Originally posted by Tarale Originally posted by Tarale According to that, it makes me think you are. I don't want to offend you or anything, you know, I just think you need to stop the alcohoc. clear your mind, do a little jogging or something. When my life starts to suck (And trust me, It gets that way often) I often take a break, think about my situation, and plan my actions. If I was in your situation, I would go outside, get some air, then contact an attorney or something to get that debt that your abusive, shit eating tree hugging ex gave you. I would also get that second opinion on that cyst. See if there could be a medication. 2 things to do, solve 3 problems (The first one isn't a problem, because you're breaking up with an abusive person). |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 1997/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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| I can't jog with the cyst. I have an exercise bike at home I'm paying for but not allowed to use right now either, which gives me the irrits. I'm supposed to avoid anything that upsets my cyst, like any bouncing (I can feel the cyst bounce in me like some kind of internal water balloon, it's gross) or lifting my legs too high (I crush the cyst a little and it hurts) You know how much I drank this week? How many days I drank? One -- yesterday. And I had six beers and a scotch over the course of 8 hours. I don't cope in the short term, and I drink in the short term. In the long term it's an entirely different story. Chances are, I probably won't drink all that much this week at all (I might have a beer when I get home, but not six.... So ner, I'm not an alcoholic, I'm just a binge drinker I'm seeing a gynaecologist tomorrow morning, I've been waiting for the appointment for over a week now to finally FINALLY get a second opinion. I think I'm going to take the whole day off cause I really am not coping with work right now (concentration levels = non existent) I heard from Ben's dad today, and told him what's going on. I told him about the debt and the bankruptcy, and I told him that I can't get onto Ben about it at all. I also told him I'm worried about Ben's mental health (because I am, he's lost all sense of rational thought). He says he will see if he can get Ben to do something about this and discuss this with me. |
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