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windwaker Ball and Chain Trooper WHY ALL THE MAYONNAISE HATE Level: 61  Posts: 1614/1797 EXP: 1860597 For next: 15999 Since: 03-15-04 Since last post: 4 days Last activity: 6 days |
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| Well, my grandmother died. I feel sadness, in my "heart", but it never really shows. The rest of my family is horribly broken up about it, crying all the time, as we were close. However, I haven't really cried (I found out about an hour and a half ago), even though tears came to my eyes. Am I too optimistic? The two religions that I'm stretched between (Buddhism and Christianity) feel that there's an after life at some point (with Buddhism, it's when you become a Buddha; and everyone could become a Buddha at some point; after reincarnation). Is there something wrong with me? |
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Lilmario Hoarder crappy custom title! Level: 31  Posts: 202/367 EXP: 171741 For next: 13622 Since: 03-15-04 From: The land of Leprachauns <3 Since last post: 9 hours Last activity: 8 hours |
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| There is nothing wrong with you. My grandmother died in september, and I didn't cry. I was sad, but I did not cry. Not even at the funeral. However, a few months after her death, especially around Christmas, I got upset and cried because of her death. My prediction? In a few months you'll either feel the way you feel now about it, or eventually cry about it. Oh, and you can never be too optimistic  My sympathies with you and your family at this time. |
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Teundusia Lantern Ghost Level: 41 Posts: 430/760 EXP: 449109 For next: 31036 Since: 07-31-04 Since last post: 15 hours Last activity: 14 hours |
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| I felt the same way when my cat died. It was only when my mum was talking on the phone to her friend while I was in the room, and she brought the subject up. You can guess what happened next. I was crying for about 20 minutes straight. My commiserations friend |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get.  Level: 73  Posts: 1977/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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| I've had family members die before, and initially did not cry.... it just didn't feel "real", or hadn't sunk in or something yet. Once something drove it all home, or it all sunk in, I cried then. Just takes some time. |
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Kles Red Paratroopa Level: 21  Posts: 155/171 EXP: 44517 For next: 5426 Since: 10-02-04 Since last post: 62 days Last activity: 45 days |
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| My condolences. As for what you say about you not crying - it's natural. Some people need time for it to sink in. Some people will bawl their eyes out the second they hear it. Some never will cry but I assure you that you are completely normal. | |||
JR11 Rex Level: 35  Posts: 491/533 EXP: 278666 For next: 1270 Since: 06-07-04 From: Po-Town, ON Since last post: 1 day Last activity: 1 day |
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I'm sorry to hear that  . As already said though, you're perfectly fine. Sometimes the realization of reality doesn't set in until later. Also, some people, like myself, are just very good at hiding their emotions, like it or not. |
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Legion banning people for no reason sure is fun Level: 101  Posts: 4110/5657 EXP: 10399737 For next: 317938 Since: 03-15-04 From: The Crossroads is under attack! Since last post: 5 days Last activity: 5 days |
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| Naw, nothing wrong with you. You just have a very good understanding of death which is very healthy emotionally wise. | |||
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windwaker Ball and Chain Trooper WHY ALL THE MAYONNAISE HATE Level: 61 Posts: 1615/1797 EXP: 1860597 For next: 15999 Since: 03-15-04 Since last post: 4 days Last activity: 6 days |
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| Well, at this point, I don't... really feel sad anymore. I really only "mourn" for my family members, who feel sad that she's gone. I felt sad at one point, yet, not even a day later, I don't really... care, that she's gone. I wish it hadn't happened, but I feel she lived out her life. Edit @ leg; Yeah, I think the only reason I really think that there could be something wrong with me is because society doesn't really accept people who don't mourn. Which is sad in itself. (edited by windwaker on 05-28-05 01:25 PM) |
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Ark42 Newcomer Level: 5 Posts: 7/8 EXP: 283 For next: 246 Since: 05-29-05 Since last post: 157 days Last activity: 157 days |
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| Good, glad that's cleared up -Lilmario |
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Tarale I'm not under the alfluence of incohol like some thinkle peop I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get. Level: 73 Posts: 1985/2720 EXP: 3458036 For next: 27832 Since: 03-18-04 From: Adelaide, Australia Since last post: 4 hours Last activity: 2 hours |
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Originally posted by windwaker Yeah, I've felt guilty for not really mourning the death of one of my grandfather's all that... much. Or my great grandmother. I don't think anybody around me was trying to put a guilt trip on me, I just felt like -- they were all crying and stuff, and I... just wasn't. |
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Xeolord - B l u e s - Power Metal > All Level: 81  Posts: 1972/3418 EXP: 4884196 For next: 108653 Since: 03-15-04 From: Yeah Since last post: 15 hours Last activity: 15 hours |
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Originally posted by Tarale Same exact thing has happened to me. To answer the question: No, ww, it's completely fine. Even though it may be cheesy, since it's said more often in novels and in movies or so, when death takes someone, you should instead celebrate that persons time on Earth and the life that they had, rather than feeling sorrow and pain over them. Hope that helps, I guess. =\ (I didn't word it very well ...) |
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