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MHL Red Goomba Level: 11  Posts: 33/38 EXP: 5360 For next: 625 Since: 05-27-04 From: Illinois Since last post: 62 days Last activity: 18 days |
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| Alright, this may confuse you if you haven't read my other thread about my ex. I'm going to start from the beginning. This first paragraph is just explaining some background information. I work at a local McDonald's and I have been for the past three years. In February of 2004, this girl (who we will just call Kris) started work there. She was a sophomore and I was a senior. We didn't really talk. She was gorgeous though. Absolutely gorgeous. I saw her at school every once in a while but we didn't talk until about a month later. We started talking at work, then at school. Soon, I realized I liked her.... alot. Mainly because she was so sweet and she was not into drugs, alcohol, sex, etc. She was alot like me. We became good friends for a couple months. Then, on May 5th, 2004 I told her that I liked her and in response she told me she felt the same way and on May 13th, we started dating. Our relationship continued great until August. She went on a church mission trip and when she came back she informed me she was having second thoughts. We broke up a few days later.... for a weekend. We continued to date. We were in love. It was great. Then, it happened again in December. Twice. But December 30th was the final cut. Strange though, because no less than a week after our final breakup, my boss approached me about a promotion to management, which I gladly accepted. I was now her boss! We talked every once in a while for a month or two but then stopped completely and I even felt feelings of hatred towards her because she was screwing around with other guys (not literally) and I felt horrible. She got drunk for her first time in March and that made me feel worse. I hated her even more. At least I thought I did. Well, on April 7th, she and I were scheduled to close together. And I noticed that night that there were a few deposits in the safe that haven't been taken to the bank. So I had to take them at 1am after close. Now, for security purposes, we must take someone with us, and it ended up being her that rode with me... That's the background info. Here's the real stuff: When we returned to the store, to drop her off at her car, she began bursting into tears. Like I've never seen before. She told me how upset she was that we haven't talked and that she thought that I hated her. She said how upset she was about the alcohol incident and that she is just completely depressed and lost in life. Feeling sympathy, being the compassionate person I am, and being that deep down I was still in love with her, I put my arms around her and held her close to me. A few minutes passed, and the following conversation occured: Her: Me: No, why? about 2 minutes pass Her: Matt... I love you. All I can think about lately is how much I miss you. That was it. That was what made me realize I was still very much in love with her, so I responded with an "I love you too" and we started kissing. We sat out in my car until 4am. Talking, kissing. It was wonderful. I thought we were back together. But she had other things in mind. We talked and she said that she wants to take it slow, and not exactly date yet. But she tells me she loves me and we still kiss and all. (No we don't consider ourselves "friends with benefits" because I think that stuff is DUMB and so does she.) She told me last night that she does want to date me but she is afraid to hurt me and also she doesn't want me to get in trouble because I am her boss. We cuddled and kissed and talked to eachother for awhile last night before I left. I'm just so confused because I don't know if she really wants to date me or what. I trust her with all my heart. She isn't the type to play games being as she only had one boyfriend before me and that lasted three weeks. I was her first love and she was mine. We have realized that we both love eachother and can't stay away from one another. I'm just so happy, confused, and upset at the same time. I just need some help on what you think is going on. |
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Graviteh Level: 31 Posts: 45/500 EXP: 165989 For next: 19374 Since: 03-27-05 From: The Internet Since last post: 42 days Last activity: 1 day |
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| Well, the first problem is trying to have a serious relationnship in highschool. You really honestly should wait for a serious relationships. High School relationships tend to go far downhill. But I know that's not what this thread is about. Basically, you say your GF gets drunk all the time. That is not good. No one should be dating a drunkard. |
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dan Snap Dragon Level: 43  Posts: 554/782 EXP: 534516 For next: 30530 Since: 03-15-04 Since last post: 20 hours Last activity: 14 hours |
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Originally posted by GRAVITEH I don't think he said that at all. She got drunk once from what I can tell. |
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Mr. F-Zero Paratroopa Level: 20  Posts: 153/158 EXP: 40634 For next: 1805 Since: 09-09-04 From: London Since last post: 176 days Last activity: 52 days |
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Personally I think if you two really want each other then you should go for it. If the love is there, then there will be nothing to hide and you two will be just fine.  if you trust her as much as you love her, then don't worry about whether or not she'll do things behind your back. If you let this go by then you'll be left wondering "what if?" after such an opportunity to get back together. Go for it and don't worry. |
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Kles Red Paratroopa Level: 21  Posts: 113/171 EXP: 44517 For next: 5426 Since: 10-02-04 Since last post: 62 days Last activity: 45 days |
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| Yes, having serious high school relationships is very rarely a good thing. You must put your school work ahead. Probably less then 1% of high school relationships actually work in the long run and the deeper you get in to it, the harder it'll crash at the end. I've seen it before. Big strong football player types reduced to a bumbling mess because of stuff like this. I don't suggest you go through with it. | |||
Silvershield Slime Level: 30 Posts: 333/345 EXP: 153029 For next: 12840 Since: 04-11-04 From: New Jersey Since last post: 60 days Last activity: 6 hours |
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| Go for it. By all means, go for it. If the work aspect is bothering you, I can tell you from personal experience that dating a coworker will not necessarily cause problems: I met my girlfriend of nine months at the movie theater where we're both employed, and we've been going strong since August. Well, not always going strong...but any problem we've had has only strengthened us. I'll make no illusion about our relationship lasting forever, though I certainly hope it will. I am a realist in general, though I am quite optimistic in this case. If both partners work at maintaining a bond, even when one or both leave for college or some other commitment, it's not impossible. Don't listen to the naysayers, especially not now - take it a day at a time, if that works. |
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